Abesifazane ababili nomuntu oyedwa - i-Bermuda Triangle yaphakade, lapho kungekho umshado owodwa owagonywa khona. Futhi uma owesifazane wesibili engunina? Maye, lapho sishada, asikafaneli sicabange ngeqiniso lokuthi nendoda yethu sithola izihlobo ezintsha esizohlangana nabo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ubudlelwane obubi nomamazala bayimbangela yokuphikisana nomyeni wakhe, bese behlukanisa.
- Kungani umamazala eningi amahlaya, kanti umamazana akakho owodwa? "Ngoba akuyona into ehlekisayo." Yiqiniso, indlela engcono kakhulu ukuhlala ngaphandle kwabazali bomyeni, kodwa ngisho nalokhu akusizi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuphazamiseka kwabo empilweni yakho, nokuthi yini okufanele ukhulume lapho kufanele ufake umndeni omusha onompilo osungulwe nemithetho yakho njengendodakazi yomalokazana.
Kodwa akuyona yonke into embi kakhulu, uma ulungele ukulungele ukuthi awuyena wesifazane oyintandokazi kuphela okhona phambi komyeni wakho, ukuba khona komamazala wakho akubonwanga njengesithintelo esicasulayo enjabulweni yakho futhi sigcizelele kahle ekusebenzelaneni nayo. Abantu besizukulwane esidala banamathela kakhulu, ngakho-ke kuyisisekelo sakho ukwakha ubudlelwane, ukuguquguquka kanye nokwenza izinto ezinengqondo.
Yiqiniso, akudingeki uthande umamazala wakho bese uyibiza ngokuthi "mama," kodwa cabanga ngakho - wakhulela futhi wakhulisa indoda yakho ethandekayo, ngakho-ke kufanele uzwe umuzwa wokubonga ngakho. Lokhu kufanele kube yindawo yokuqala ebuhlotsheni bakho. Uma unyoko wakho ezwa ukuthi wanike indodana yakhe, uzoziqhenya ngokupha kwakhe futhi akuphathe ngokufudumele. Uma ecabanga ukuthi umthathele kuye, ngeke akwazi ukunqoba emphefumulweni wakhe umqondo wokucasuka nokungawuthandi.
Ungalokothi uphazamise umyeni wakho empikiswaneni yakho futhi ungavumeli isimo lapho kuzodingeka akhethe khona phakathi kwakho noninazala. Kukhona amathuba amakhulu ukuthi ngeke akhethe wena - ngemuva kwakho konke, uyazi umama isikhathi eside futhi kuye kubonakala kuphephile. Amadoda ajwayelekile ajwayelekile kakhulu futhi ngokuvamile akhetha lokho okujwayelekile.
Ungazami ukufakazela ukuthi "ufanelekile" yendodana yakhe, ngeke usudlulise lesi sivivinyo "emihlanu" noma kunjalo, futhi uzoyiphatha imizwa eminingi. Ngokuqinisekile kungcono lapho elungisa futhi efaka izinsimbi ngaphezulu ngisho noma nje indodana yakhe izohlale ihlala emehlweni akhe njengengane encane, okudingeka iyenakekele. Kodwa akazange ashade nawe ngoba wazi ukupheka ama-cutlets, akunjalo? Uninazala akayena umphikisi wakho futhi angeke athathe indawo yakho, ngakho-ke ungabheka ngokuphepha ubukhulu bakhe kwezinye izinto. Ungakhohlwa ukubuza iseluleko sakhe ezindabeni zomndeni, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ungangeni emgqeni ukuze ungabonakali ungenasiphelo futhi umuntu ongakwazi ukwenza isinqumo ngokwakhe. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi ubonisa ukuthi uphumelele kangakanani, ulandela ukuhlakanipha kwakhe okuhlakaniphile.
Izinhlangothi ezihlukene zethonya. Isibonelo, abanye abantu base-Afrika namanje banamasiko lapho umamazala onomalokazana, nomamazala nomalokazana bangakwazi ukuhlangana kuphela emikhosini emikhulu yezizwe. Ezikhathini zaseSolomon Islands, umkhwekazi nomalokazana ohlala endlini efanayo abakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi othile ngesikhathi esisodwa, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo babe yingxenye yomnotho wendlu. Abomndeni bathole isinqumo esihlakaniphile, ngakho kungani ungalilandeli? Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu uma uhlala ndawonye. Abesifazane ababili ekhishini elifanayo - kubi ngaphezu kokungacabangi lutho. Kungcono ukuhlela kusengaphambili ukuthi uzolungisa izitsha ezithile noma izinsuku ezithile uthathe ngokuphelele umsebenzi owenziwe ngababili. Okubi kakhulu ongakucabanga ukudlala indima yeCinderella, ukwenza izabelo ezincane zomamazala wakho. Ngeke uze ukwazi ukusika isanqante nge-borsch yayo ngendlela efanele ngaphakathi kwe-millimeter.
Ngisho noma ulawula ukuzimisela njengenkosikazi futhi unqobe ukwethenjwa komamazala wakho, umjikelezo omusha wempi uzayo - ngenxa yemfundo "efanele" yezingane zakho. Nakuba enolwazi oluningi ngalolu daba, umhlaba kanye nemibono yemfundo iyashintsha ngokushesha kangangokuthi, ngandlela-thile, akuyona inganeli engaphansi kwakho. Futhi uma unganikeza isandla somholi kamama-mkhwenyana ezindabeni zokupheka, ke, ngaphandle kokungabaza, ingane eyinhloko, kodwa uyigogogo kuphela. Ngakho kusukela ekuqaleni kudingekile ukucacisa ngokucacile umkhawulo wethonya laso futhi uxoxe ngokuthi iyiphi ingxenye okuzoyithatha ekupheleni komzukulu. Ingabe uzohlala naye lapho usebenza, noma uthatha izikhathi ezimbalwa ngenyanga ngempelasonto? Ingabe ulungele ukugcina umbuso wosuku kanye nokudla okwenzele ingane yakho? Ngokucacile, kancane kuzoba khona izinkinga esikhathini esizayo.
Uma ngabe leli cala lingenathemba ngokuphelele, khumbula ukuthi naye ungowesifazane futhi wayeseyindodakazi kamalokazana. Mhlawumbe, nakuba izobuyisana nawe. "Epharadesi ayinalutho izihlalo ezimbili ezingenalutho: omunye womamazala omuhle, kanti owesibili ngomalokazana omuhle," kusho isaga saseMpumalanga, okusho ukuthi okungenani abantu ababili bangabekwa icala lobuhlobo obungagcwaliseki. Kuxhomeke kuwe ukuthi uzoba nomndeni womndeni wakho noninazala, noma ubuhlobo bakho buzohlala bunxantathu beBermuda.