Izingane zesikhathi esizayo ngendlela engacacile ngokuphelele zisiza ukushintsha okuningi ekuphileni kwabazali babo. Uma uqaphela izibonakaliso, ngokuqinisekile uzothola ukuthi uvakashelwa kangakanani imicabango mayelana nokuthi yini oyithandayo ngempela empilweni, yiziphi izinguquko ongathanda kuzo emsebenzini, emvelweni, ebuhlotsheni nezihlobo, okuzibona wena ngokwakho esikhathini esizayo.
Yiqiniso, kwamanye omama abancane isimo siseduze kakhulu nomsebenzi: umsebenzi ozithandayo, umsebenzi omuhle, umndeni oqinile. Kodwa kunezinye izibonelo eziningi futhi ezihluke ngokuphelele lapho umama ephoqeleka ukuba ahlanganyele ebhizinisini elingathandwa ukuhlinzekela umndeni, ukubekezelela ubudlelwane obungamwanelisi, njalonjalo. Izinguquko ezinkulu ezithwala ukukhulelwa kanye nokuzalwa komuntu omusha, abaningi banikeza amandla ukuhlola ngobuqotho umzuzu wamanje bese uzama ukudweba "isithombe esihle" sokuphila, okuyinto engaba yinto efiselekayo yokuhlala kuyo. Ingane ivumela ukuqonda ukuthi impilo ihle, futhi ukubukeka kuzoshintsha konke okuzungezile.Le mqondo uvame ukusiza omama abazayo ukuba baqaphele ikhwalithi yokuphila, babe nokuthula nokulinganisela.Ngenxa yalokhu kuncike empilweni yengane ezayo.Kid indlela ende eya ekuphileni okuthakazelisayo kamama.
Kwenzeka ukuthi lapho uxhumana nabesifazane abaningi (omama abancane) abaguqula izimpilo zabo, lapho bekhulelwe noma bebeletha umntwana. Yiqiniso, lokhu kudinga isibindi esithile, ngoba ngaso sonke isikhathi kuyesabeka ukushintsha ukuhlala okukhona, ikakhulukazi uma kuphephile kakhulu. Kodwa umphumela uwufanele, njengoba izibonelo zibonisa.
Abaningi "abomama abaxoshiwe" bangatholakala phakathi kwababonisi bokuncelisa ukubeletha: eqinisweni, kulolu msebenzi, okubaluleke kakhulu akuyona into efana neyakho okuhlangenwe nakho okuphumelelayo ekunceliseni izingane eziningana (ngokuqinisekile kufanele zisekelwe ukuqeqeshwa kwezemfundiso nezitifiketi ezinzima kakhulu abacebisi). Phakathi kwabaxhumanisi bami ngiyazi, kukhona owayengumaphephandaba, umculi nomlobi. Abaningi bahlanganisa ukubonisana okuwusizo nezincwadi zokubhala ngale ndaba, okuletha nokuphila kwabo kanye nesici sokudala. Intshisekelo ekukhuliseni nasebuntwaneni ikhuthaza abesifazane ukuba bahlele imicimbi enjalo.
Isikhathi singobabili nje.
Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi omama abaningi abasha abonakale beba ngumvivinya wangempela wamandla. Futhi hhayi okungenani ngenxa yokulindela okungenabulungisa, kusukela ekulindeni okungagcwaliseki. Ungathemba indaba ebalulekile kangaka. Izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye zokulinda zinikezwa, kuhlanganise ukuze ulungiselele umndeni wakho omncane isikhathi, ukuba kubonakale ilungu elisha elizoshintsha okuningi, uma kungenjalo, ngendlela evamile.
Manje unesikhathi esanele sokuxoxa ngemibono yakho empilweni yomndeni ngokusemandleni akho, ukubeka phambili, kumtshele ngezifiso zakho nezidingo zakho (amadoda akuzona izingcingo, ungalindeli ukuba nokuqonda kwemilingo kwakho konke okwenzeka kuwe), zama baqonde imizwa yakhe kanye nokulindela kwakhe. Uma ufunda kabanzi ngomunye nomunye manje, cishe kungabonakali izinkinga "ezingalindelekile," okungukuthi, zivame ukuvela emindenini eminingi ngokuzalwa komntwana .Zama ukuhlela iholide egcwele - isipho sakho sothando kumyeni wakho .Lesi sikhathi kuphela kuwe, egcwele uthando nokulindela, izokunika amandla kamuva, ngezikhathi lapho ukuphila kubonakala kunzima kakhulu, kungenasiphelo, nezinkinga eziningi eziningi.