Ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho nabo buzokhula kanjani buzoxhomeke ekutheni uzokwazi yini ukuhlala ngokuthula nomamazala wakho. Kodwa kanjani enye? Emva kwakho konke, wabeka amandla amakhulu ukuze akhule, akhuphuke, agqoke izinyawo zomyeni wakho, nendodana yakhe. Ungumama. Uthando lomama aluzimele. Ngezinye izikhathi kusuka kwabesifazane abasha ungase uzwe ukuthi umamazala wakho akazange ahlakulele ubuhlobo, ukuthi unyoko wakho uphazamise, uzama ukuphoqa imibono nemithetho yakho. Yiqiniso, umkhwekazi uhlukile: ukubekezela nokungenangqondo, ukuhlakanipha nokuphuza, ukuphumula nokuphumula, ukubuyisa kabusha kanye nabesifazane bamabhizinisi banamuhla. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki lokhu, bonke badinga ukuqashelwa nokuhlonishwa, ukunakekelwa nokuzwela. Mayelana nendlela yokuphila ngokuthula noninazala, futhi namhlanje sizokhuluma.
Okokuqala, ake sichaze ukuthi yiluhlobo luni umamazala wakho ongowakho.
Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa izinhlobo eziyisikhombisa zomamazala.
- Umfazi womuntu. Lona uhlobo lomkhwekazi oluhlelekile emndenini ovumelanayo, lapho umyeni ehlanganyela khona ingxenye yemithwalo yemindeni nokukhathalela, kusiza kukho konke, futhi uyamlandela, njengokuthi "ngemuva kwodonga lwamatshe." Kulula ukuhlala ngokuthula nomkhwekazi onjalo. Umthetho oyinhloko awukwenqabe usizo olunikezwa ngabazali bomyeni, kodwa futhi hhayi ukugqithisa zonke izinkinga kubo. Ukuze unikeze ithuba kubazali bomyeni wakhe hhayi nje ukuba bazizwe kubaluleka empilweni yakho, kodwa futhi nesikhathi sokuziqhenya ngempumelelo yendodana nendodakazi kamalokazana - lokhu kuyimfihlo yokuthi bahlala kanjani ngokuthula noninazala emindeni enjalo.
- I-matriarch yenkanyezi, umlawuli. Lo mkhwekazi, onomyeni wakhe - okhulile. Uyinhloko yomndeni, umshayeli wakhe oyinhloko, "unendlu" kuye. Ukuhlala noninazala endlini eyodwa kulokhu kuba yingozi emndenini. Kulabo omama, amadodana, kaningi "amadodana omama", kodwa abagxeka - abhekana nokulahlekelwa uninazala.
- Ngesikhathi esifanayo futhi noninazala. Uninazala, ongumamazala ngesikhathi esifanayo, uzokuzwela futhi akuthande, ngoba ubona ubunzima ebuhlotsheni bendodakazi yakhe nomndeni womyeni wakhe. Lo muntu untekenteke futhi unamandla okunciphisa. Ngeke aphazamise izindaba zomndeni wakho. Unamabutho wesifazane ngaphezu kwesimiso somama. Londoloza umhlaba nomamazala wakho kuzokusiza ubungane nodadewabo (udadewabo womyeni wakhe), kulokhu kuvumelana kuqinisekisiwe.
- Umama ongayedwa. Indodana iyincazelo yokuphila kwayo, yamyisa yodwa. Wayengumama nobaba. Umkhwekazi onjalo unomhawu omkhulu, oveza ukungqubuzana njalo nokuxabana nomalokazana. Ukuze uphile ngokuthula nomamazala wakho, udinga ukubekezela nokuvinjelwa. Mbonane ngesenzakalo esincane, buza umbono wakhe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungamgxeka umyeni wakho futhi ungaxabani naye noninazala - usengozini yokwenza isitha sakhe.
- Isisulu. Uhlale enakekela wonke umuntu. Ngisho noma indodana isivele ishumi leshumi, uyamkhathalela, njengengane engacabangi. Ubhekene nobunzima bokuphila. Kodwa akekho umuntu, ngokombono wakhe, okwazi ukubhekana nabo, ngakho-ke kufanele uzitshele konke. Ububele, ukubekezelelana, ukukhalipha yizihluthulelo zokugcina ukuthula nomamazana wakho.
- I-Despot. Uma umamazala womdonshi, ogcina konke okulawulwa emndenini, ebanda futhi enengqondo, ehlakaniphile futhi engavumeli umuntu azinyathele yena, ulahlekelwe yinhlanhla. Hlala kude noninazala kude kakhulu, lokhu kuphela kuzokusiza ukuba ungangeni emgqeni we-warpath, nakuba kungewona iqiniso ukuthi umamazala wakho ngeke aqalise izenzo ezenzakazayo.
- Owesifazane webhizinisi. Unenhlanhla, akungabazeki! Imisebenzi iyincazelo yokuphila kwakhe, ayikho emndenini. Ngeke abone uthuli emashalofini kanye nefriji engenalutho. Uphezu kwezintambo ezinjalo. Unelungelo lezinkinga zakhe. Kodwa uma usebenza endaweni efanayo, i-idyll ivikelekile. Uzoziqhenya ngomkhwekazi wakho, njengoba nje engumalokazana wakho!
Amanye amathiphu avamile
Kumele uqonde ukuthi kunoma yikuphi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umamazala wakho uvela kuphi, akusona isitha sakho. Phela, wathandana nendodana yakhe - ingcebo yakhe, isithelo sokuphila kwakhe, umuntu oyigugu kunazo zonke anazo. Phakamisa ukwazisa kulowo onika umcebo obaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Wamukele umngane wakho njengoba kunjalo, nazo zonke izinzuzo nezinkinga. Thatha empilweni yakho nongamthandi okungenani, ukuzithoba ezandleni zakhe. Qondisisa into eyodwa - akuyona imbangi yakho.
Ngezinye izikhathi ungazwa ngokungafuni kwamadodakazi amancane ukubiza umkhwekazi. Ngeze, ngoba siphishekela umgomo owodwa, siphile ngokuthula noninazala. Okokuqala, kuyisiko kumasiko, futhi okwesibili, uma owesifazane ezwa leli gama lemilingo, ngokushesha uvuse imizwa kamama wakhe noma ubani owakushoyo, isifiso sokuvikela nokuvikela. Ungazishiyi leli khetho legolide enhliziyweni yakhe! "Ithole elilalelayo lamakhosikazi amabili liyasondeza," - ngakho kubonisa ukuhlakanipha kwabantu. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakhohlwa ukuthi maduze uzoba umkhwekazi wakho. Futhi ukuba umkhwekazi akuyona into elula kunokuba umalokazana. Ukwehlisa ubudlelwane kulula, kodwa ukulondoloza, ukufeza indawo, ukubeka othintana naye - umsebenzi omningi. Uma unqume ukuba umngane kanina, zama ukusebenza kancane kulokhu.
- Zama ukuthola ulimi oluvamile naye, khuluma okuningi.
- Ungamgxeka futhi ungakhononda ngomyeni wakho, ungamphakamisi phambi kwabazali bakhe.
- Ungalingani nomamazala wakho nomama wakho, abakwazi ukufana, bangabantu abahlukile.
- Yenza izipho zikamamazala futhi ukwazi ukwamukela izipho ngokubonga kuye.
- Lalela iseluleko sikamamazala wakho, ungesabi ukubuza, cela ukufundisa - kuyoba mnandi kuye kuphela.
- Phila ngokuhlukile, kodwa ungagcini umyeni wakho nezingane ekukhulumeni nomamazana wakho.
- Yabelana ngezithakazelo zakhe, ubonise ngobuqotho isithakazelo nenhlonipho.
Ukuze ungazibuza: "Ungaphila ngokuthula nomamazala wakho?" - yiba nesineke futhi uhlakaniphe, khumbula ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi kungcono ukuthatha isikhathi ngaphandle kokufakazela icala lakho. Ngempela, iqiniso ngalinye linamacala amabili.