Okokuqala, ufuna ukuqala ngeseluleko esithile, cabanga ngokucophelela, ufuna ukuthanda umyeni wakho futhi? Emva kwakho konke, uma imizwa ingekho phakade, khona-ke leli flame ngeke livuleke. Awukwazi ukuphinde uthandane futhi, kodwa uma unomuzwa wokuthi konke akuzange kuhlile kuze kube sekupheleni, futhi ungafuni ukulahlekelwa yimizwa kuze kube phakade, khona-ke kubonakala sengathi kufanelekile ukuzama. Ngakho-ke, ake sibheke ukuthi yini esingayenza ukuze sithande umyeni wethu futhi.
Buyela emsuka wobudlelwano bakho.
Konke okusemhlabeni kunesiqalo, yonke imifula inomgwaqo, ngakho-ke uthando lwakho. Mhlawumbe, ukuthi futhi ukuthi uthandane nomyeni wakho, udinga nje ukubuyela ezindaweni owawuqala ngaso ubuhlobo bakho. Hamba uhamba epaki lapho uqala ukumanga khona, hamba ku-cafe lapho akuxosha khona. Futhi, hlela uhambo oluthile ukuya ezindaweni owake wahlala kuzo. Mhlawumbe izindawo lapho konke kuqale khona, kuzophinde kuvusa imizwa yakho ngomyeni wakho!
Thola umuntu omusha kumyeni.
Eminyakeni edlule, ungajwayele futhi usondle konke, ngisho nomthandi wakho. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi akukho okusha kulo muntu, zama ukubuka umyeni wakhe ngenye indlela! Thola lezo zici ongazange uzibonise futhi ungathinti ukubaluleka. Phela, uma ukwazi ukuyeka ukuthanda umyeni wakho omdala, mhlawumbe ungayithanda entsha! Mhlawumbe intsha, lokhu yilokho okudingayo, okungekuthanda futhi. Phela, ngezinye izikhathi sihlala ndawonye, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo asiboni lutho olubalulekile ngomuntu. Zama ukuthola emaceleni emaceleni nezinhlangothi ezintsha.
Lungisa okucasulayo kumyeni wakhe.
Kwenzeka ukuthi lezo ziphutha, ezingazange zilalele ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, emva kweminyaka ziqala ukucasula kabi futhi zibulale ngokuqondile imizwa. Lezo zinto ekuqaleni zabonakala zihle futhi zingabangeli ukuphikisana ngemva kweminyaka zingadala. Kuyadabukisa, kodwa kuyiqiniso. Ukuze ususe lokhu okungalungile ebuhlotsheni, khuluma nomyeni wakho, mchazele ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba ususe amaphutha akho, ukuthi lokhu kuthinta imizwa emibi. Akuyona into yokuthi umyeni uyakuqonda ngokushesha futhi uyavuma, kodwa ekugcineni, kubonakala sengathi angenza imihlatshelo enjalo ngenxa yothando lwakho.
Ukuhlukanisa kancane kancane.
Ukuhamba kanye nesikhathi kuyinto ejabulisayo, ngezinye izikhathi badala izimangaliso nabantu kanye nemizwa. Futhi yini eyabonakala kuwe imizwa epholile, lapho i-ash, emva kweviki ezine ihlala yodwa endaweni yokuhlushwa yedwa nemvelo (noma uhambo oluncane nentombi, noma enye into) ngaphandle kokuxhumana nomyeni wakhe, emva kokubuya kubuye kukhanye umlilo ovuthayo futhi oshisayo uthando. Ngokungafani nebhodi lokuqala, lapho umenyiwe ukuba uvakashele ndawonye, lapha kungcono ukukwenza ngokuhlukile. Umyeni wami naye angelulekwa ukuba ahambe emthethweni. Phela, akukho lutho olungcono lokuqabula imizwa kunokuphumula okuncane komunye nomunye.
Njengoba ubona, kunezindlela ezimbalwa kanye namathiphu okuthandana nomyeni wakho futhi noma unikeze umfutho omusha ebuhlotsheni obunzima. Kodwa ngifuna ukuziphindaphinda futhi ngigxile ekuqinisweni ukuthi konke kunengqondo kuphela esimweni lapho kokubili kuwe nakuyo kukhona khona izinhlansi zelangabi lomzwelo omdala. Uma kungenjalo, uzama nje ukushayela amalahle ahlile futhi aphuzi futhi ngeke uthole lutho kuwo. Kungenxa yalesi sizathu ukuthi noma yisiphi isenzo kuleso simo kufanele siqale, okokuqala, ngokuqonda okucacile, ngabe konke lokhu kunengqondo.