Namhlanjesi, amantombazane kufanele athathe izintambo zikahulumeni ebuhlotsheni ngezandla zabo ezibuthakathaka futhi enze izinyathelo eziqinile ekutholeni injabulo yomndeni, kuqala ukuvuma uthando kumuntu wabo. Ingabe kufanelekile ukudlala amakhandlela futhi kudingeka uqale ukhulume ngomzwa wakho intombazane? Mhlawumbe kusadingeka, ngoba kungenjalo kukhona ingozi yokuvusa ikusasa lakho elijabulisayo.
Uma umuntu ethanda ngempela othandekayo wakhe, khona-ke isimemezelo sakhe sothando sizoba yisisusa esizosheshisa inqubo yokwakha ubudlelwane nokuletha ezingeni elisha. Kukhona amadoda angokwemvelo ayenamahloni kakhulu, anganaki ezindabeni zothando. Mhlawumbe ngenxa yobuhlobo nomama, odade noma amadoda anjalo emithwalweni yabo yokuphila okuhlangenwe nakho okudabukisayo okushiya ukoma omkhulu emphefumulweni. Bamane besaba ukukhuthazelela i-fiasco entsha futhi banqatshelwe abathandekayo babo. Kuleso simo, bafazi, ukuvuma kwakho siqu kothando kuyoba kuhle kakhulu. Isibonelo, ungasondela ngokuzimisela okhethiweyo wakho futhi ngobuqotho ubheke amehlo akho ukuthi usuwazi isikhathi eside ukuthi uyakuthanda, angeke aphile ngaphandle kwakho, akalala futhi angadli, nokuthi uyakuthanda nawe. Ngemuva kokuhlaselwa okunjalo ebunzini, uma lo muntu olungile, ekuthandeni ngobuqotho, ngeke abe nokunye okumele akwenze kodwa akushade naye. Kodwa uma lo mthandi eqala ngokucacile bese eshiya impendulo, lapha sekufanelekile ukucabanga nokuhumusha konke lokhu kube yihlaya.
Ngaphezu kwalabo abamahloni abanobulili obunamandla, kukhona amadoda, futhi ngeshwa, ngokwanele, ukuthi bathanda ukuthatha, kodwa hhayi ukunikeza. Bathanda ukuthi konke kufanele kukhonzwe ngomumo, epulatifini ene-golden hem. Uma intombazane iwela ikhanda phezu kwezithende kumuntu onjalo, khona-ke akanakho okushiwo ukukwenza, ukuvuma uthando lwakhe kuqala, ukukhohlwa ukuziqhenya kwakhe, bese ungadabuki kakhulu empilweni yakhe ukuthi akenzanga lokhu futhi ahlupheke emibonweni, ecabanga ukuthi yini kungaba.
Imithetho eyisisekelo, indlela yokuvuma uthando, indoda ephindiswayo, ayikho. Ngothando, njengempi, zonke izindlela zilungile, ngoba inselele injabulo yakho kanye nesiphetho sakho. Into esemqoka okumele uyikhumbule uma uvuma izono zakho, ngeke zishintshwe nanoma yimaphi amagama noma imisho. I-Zavyristye nezinkondlo ze-pathos, i-skydiving, ene-poster esandleni sakhe, ebonisa othandekayo, ama-sms nezinye izenzo zobuqili ngaphandle kobuqotho obuvela kuwe, angeke ulethe umphumela olindelekile. Ukuqashelwa kwakho othandweni indoda kufanele ifunde emehlweni akho, ngakho-ke i-banal kakhulu, kodwa ukuhlala njalo "Ngiyakuthanda" kuyoyihlaba enhliziyweni. Ukuqashelwa kwemizwa kungcono kakhulu okwenziwe endaweni eyokhululeka kakhulu kulowo muntu okukhulunywe ngalo lokhu kuvuma. Amanye amadoda angcono abone ulwazi olunjalo emphakathini, lapho ukunakwa kwabo bonke abanye kubhekwa kumuntu wakhe. Abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, esimweni esinjalo seduze, futhi bazenze sengathi abakuzwa nhlobo. Into eyinhloko ukukhetha umzuzu lapho othandekayo bezoba nomoya omuhle futhi okulandelayo kuyoba inombolo encane yeziphazamiso.
Uma ungenalutho olusele kepha uvume uthando lwakho, ungesabi ukuzwa "Angikuthandi" kusuka kumthandi wami. Umphumela omubi ungumphumela. Okungenani kulokhu, ngemuva kokukhala okukhulu nokunqoba ukucindezeleka, uzokwazi ukuthi akufanele uchithe isikhathi sakho namandla uhamba ngalolu daba. Njengoba bethi, ngokucindezela ngeke ube mnandi, cha futhi akukho khotho. Bheka nxazonke - ukuphila kusehle kakhulu futhi kuhlukile! Endleleni yakho uzohlangana nomuntu ofanelekayo ozokwazi ngokugcwele isinyathelo sakho esibindi nesibindi. Futhi izinkanyezi zizokwengeza ukuze indoda iphendule - "Ngiyakuthanda, futhi."