Ukuthanda imilingo - kubantu abaningi kungumusho omuhle nje. Kodwa-ke, kukhona abanye abathanda imilingo okungaphezu kwegama elingabonakali lamagama. Kubo ukuziphatha okuhamba phambili, izenzo eziqondile, amagama kanye nezenzo ezithile, ngokujwayelekile, isiqondiso sokuthola izinyathelo zokukhonkolo. Ngakho iyini imilingo yothando?
Ekuqondeni okujwayelekile komlingo wothando, ungakhuluma ngezinto ezinjengezinhliziyo ezinjengezwi elithi "ngiyakuthanda", ngomusa, ubuzwe nokuzwela. Mayelana nokuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani ukuthi lonke izwe likhona. Izikhathi ezingezinzima, isibonelo, ukushaya izinwele, ukumbumbana, ukuxhaphaza izandla, ukwenza ukuthi uzwe lonke imizwa nemizwelo. Futhi lapho indoda yakho ikuletha i-rose elilodwa ukuze ithi: "Ngacabanga ngawe namuhla," uyaqonda ukuthi lena imilingo yangempela, imilingo. Ngothando, amavesi nezingoma zakhiwa, ukuphathwa okuphelele kubhalwe phansi, nokuthanda okuhlangenwe nakho kuchazwa iminyaka eyizinkulungwane. Imizwelo ehambisana nobudlelwane ingaba mnandi futhi ijabulise. Kodwa kungaba kubi. Isibonelo, ubudlelwane obuphakanyisiwe kanyekanye buhluleka futhi bushiye wena obhuqiwe futhi ungajabuli. Noma baphula inhliziyo, okwenza ubuhlungu obuningi obungakufisela ukufa. Noma kunjalo, izikhathi ezimbi azisivimbeli ekuhlangenwe nakho okusha nokubandakanyeka ezweni elingaqondakali luthando. Futhi lapha kufika umlingo wothando wezinhlamvu zothando.
Kodwa uma iningi livele lizinikezele ekuthandeni ukwehluleka, lokhu akukwazi ukusho ngomuntu wonke. Sonke siyazi imiqondo yothando lokupela, ugobe, uhlamvu. Futhi lokhu kusebenza kakade kumkhuba ohluke ngokuphelele kunalowo ingxoxo eyakhuphuka ngayo. Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi kukhona abantu abazibiza ngokuthi abadayisi, abakwa-shaman, abatshakathi nabathakathi, abathembisa ukusiza kunoma yisiphi isimo, kuhlanganise nemidrama yothando. Ngokuhambisana nezivumelwano ezigubha imizwa nokuthanda, amapheshana awusizo ekutholeni othandekayo wakho, ukuze alondoloze ukuthula emndenini, ngokubuyisa "isigamu" sabo, ukuze agcwalise isifiso sothando, nawo athandwa kakhulu. Futhi konke lokhu kungafinyelelwa ngokusebenzisa izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi noma ezingekho kakhulu, izinhlamvu, noma ezinye izindlela eziphumelelayo. I-spectrum yamathuluzi anjalo ahlukene futhi ahlukahlukene, futhi imisebenzi engenziwa ingaba abathakathi abaye bahlanganyela kulokhu konke ukuphila kwabo, kanye nabantu abavamile abaye bajwayela ukuhlukaniswa kwezinyathelo ezidingekayo noma izinhlamvu. Ungasebenzisa i-tarot, ukubhula ngezinkanyezi, izinsika zezithombe, izithombe noma ezinye izifundo nezindlela. Emlandweni nasezincwadini, kunezibonelo eziningi zothando lomlingo, isibonelo, indaba kaTristan no-Isolde, abalalele iziphakamiso zothando. Kodwa-ke, abaningi baxwayisa ngethonya eliyingozi lomlingo kokubili mayelana nenhloso yalolu phiko, futhi kumuntu, lolu hlelo lufeza. Imiphumela ingase ibe yinto encane, kodwa ingaba yingozi, kusukela ezinkingeni zezempilo kuze kube yimiphumela ebulalayo.
Mhlawumbe kuzofika usuku lapho intuthuko yezobuchwepheshe izokwenza esinye isikhwama sokufaneleka nokuthi yiziphi ezimbalwa namuhla ezizizwayo nokuzizwa (ukubiza ngokuthi imilingo, ubulovu noma okunye okunye) kuzotholakala kuwo wonke umuntu. Namuhla, umlingo awufani nemithetho, ukukhubazeka. Ngakho-ke, akuyona into engavamile ukuthi imilingo yothando ithinte umsebenzi wayo, okwenza izakhamuzi ezingabazeki. Amaphutha angenakugwemeka, ngoba izimiso ezibaluleke kakhulu zokubheka okungeziweko namanje ziyi-terra incognita. Yingakho akufanele uhlole ukungaqiniseki futhi. Uma wenza isinqumo esinjalo, uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uzame, mhlawumbe amandla akho ukushintsha isimo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izinyathelo ezikhawulwayo ezisongela impilo yakho yesikhathi esizayo. Phela, ukuthanda imilingo akuyona nje imibono, izintelezi kanye neziphonso; Kuyinto umdlalo, imihlangano, izingxoxo, ukuhlangana, izenzo - konke okusetshenziswe abesifazane ngamakhulu eminyaka ukunqoba amadoda abo. Futhi zonke izindlela ezidingekayo ekuphenyweni ngothando, esandleni sobulili obuhle: ukukhanya kwamehlo, izindebe ezilukhuni, izandla ezithambile, ukuhleka okuthakazelisayo nokuningi, nokunye okuningi.