Kodwa nokho kukhona umuzwa omuhle, umuzwa wothando, obuye ube nemithetho yawo, ngezinye izikhathi efana nemithetho yothando, ngezinye izikhathi uhlukile kuwo. Ngokuvamile, ukuqala kothando olukhulu futhi olumsulwa uthando, olukhula njengomuthi onamandla kusuka enzalweni encane.
Lezi zindlela ezimbili zivame ukudideka, ngakho-ke ake sibone ukuthi uthando lwangempela kanye nokuthathwa kwezinto ezinjani. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngeke sisho okungcono noma okubi kakhulu. Akuwona umsebenzi wethu ukuqhathanisa le mibono. Sizama nje ukuwaqonda, futhi ezinkingeni zabo.
Ngakho-ke, ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi uthando lwangempela luyini. Ngokombono wami, okokuqala kuvumelana, ukwethembeka nokuqonda okubili, sizohlaziya lezi zici ngezansi, ngokuningiliziwe.
Ukuvumelana - lokhu kungenye yezisekelo zothando lwangempela, ngoba kanjani ukungaphunduki, ngisho nokuhlanganisana okungavumelani kakhulu, okubizwa ngokuthi "iqhwa nelangabi," kusakhiwa ngokuvumelana. Yebo, ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kuvumelana kuyinkimbinkimbi futhi akuqondakali kwabanye, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu kuyaqondakala kumthandi, ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke kube khona uthando ngaphandle kwalo. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi imibhangqwana enhle kunazo zonke ehlangene ngokumangalisayo ayikwazi ukuhlangana ndawonye, ngoba akukho ukuvumelana ebuhlotsheni babo obuhle.
Ukuthembeka kungenye yegumbi elisisekelo sothando. Ngaphandle kwalo, uthando ngeke lwakhiwe noma, futhi ungakholelwa umuntu othi ngaphandle kwamanga abukho ubudlelwane bangempela, kuphela okwakhiwa okwenyaniso. Lokhu okwamanje akusho ukuthi kubalulekile ukusika iqiniso lesisu lesisu, ngezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ukuba ubushelelezi emaceleni futhi uziphathe ngendlela eguquguqukayo, kodwa kungenjalo ungamanga. Ngempela, lifana negciwane, okokuqala kubonakala sengathi liyingcosana futhi lilula ukulawula, kodwa-ke lihlanganisa ngokulandelana futhi manje ulwandle loluthando lunobuthi obuningi bamafutha amanga.
Ukuqonda okufanayo kuyigugu eliyigugu othandweni. Emva kwakho konke, ngaphandle kwalo, uzokukhubeka njalo endaweni ephephile futhi uzenze izigaxa eziningi. Ngothando lwakho udinga ukukhuluma "ulimi olulodwa", futhi kungenjalo kuyoba njengombhoshongo waseBabel, lo mbono uhle, kodwa ngenxa yokungabi nokuqonda kokubili okwenzekile. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kumele kube khona imfihlakalo kumuntu wakho, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kumele kube mnandi, ukuze ungakhathali ukuqagela impilo yakho yonke, nsuku zonke.
Manje sekuyisikhathi sokukhuluma ngokuthandana bese uzama ukubona ukuthi uthando lwangempela luyini. Ake siqale ngalokho esikushoyo, uthando nokuwa othandweni, akufani, nakuba imizwa ifana kakhulu. Kodwa uthando lufana nomoya ophefumulayo osentwasahlobo, imvula yokukhanya yama-mushroom. Uthando, lungaphezulu kwesici, amandla namandla. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kusuka othandweni kuyadingeka ukuxosha futhi uyibheke njengomzwelo omncane nongadingekile, okulula ukuwela kuwo. Ngemuva kwakho konke, cishe njalo, uthando lukhula lube othandweni (njengoba kushiwo ngenhla).
Kusukela kuzo zonke ezingenhla, kulandela ukuthi uthando kufanele lube nezimfanelo ezifanayo njengothando, kodwa lunezinhlobo eziningana zalo, eziqondile. Lezi zimfanelo ziyinto elula yokuxhumana, nokuthanda abanye ngomfanekiso womuntu othandekayo. Ake siwahlole ngokuningiliziwe.
Ukunethezeka kobuhlobo, kubonakala kimi, ngakho-ke kubonakala kuwo wonke umuntu, kungavamile lapho ubuhlobo obuhle buqala ukuthuthumela nokuhlukumeza. Futhi ngokuqinisekile ubudlelwane obungenalo ithemba lokuhle, ngeke kuholele lutho olungalungile. Kusukela kulokhu kulandela ukuthi uthando, okokuqala, luhambisana nokukhanya kombono wezwe, kungukuthi, kubonisa ukuthi umhlaba unemibala ebomvu! I-Romanticism ikhula kusukela emthonjeni ofanayo, ngoba siyazi ukuthi wonke umuntu unamaphutha akhe, kodwa ngesikhathi sokuthandana asiboni. Uma, noma kunjalo, umuzwa uqala ukuba othandweni, sesiwubonile kakade, kodwa singakwazi ukukubekezelela noma ukuwulungisa.
Kuzo zonke izinto ezishiwo, kulandela ukuthi imizwa yothando lwangempela noluthando lweqiniso zifana kakhulu, kodwa nokho akunjalo. Phela, uthando aluyena uthando, futhi akuwona wonke uthando olukhula lube uthando lwangempela!