Yiqiniso, uma ubuza umbuzo: ungathanda yini ngempela izingane ezineminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye ubudala kule minyaka, abaningi bazophendula ngokuqinisekisile. Kodwa, wonke umuntu uyaqonda ukuthi eminyakeni eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye, sithinteka futhi sibheke umhlaba ngezingilazi ezimibalabala. Kodwa kuthiwani ngeqiniso? Uyakuthanda ngempela iminyaka yobudala? Futhi ngokuvamile, ingabe iminyaka iyakuthinta lokho okufunayo ukuthanda ngempela?
Mhlawumbe, ikhono lokuthanda akuxhomeki eminyakeni yobudala, kodwa ekukhuliseni, ukuqonda kwezwe nomqondo. Abanye abantu nabangamashumi amathathu abaqapheli ukuthi yini abanye abayiqondayo eneminyaka eyi-15. Futhi lokhu akuhlali njalo kuthinteka isimo sezenhlalakahle kanye nobuhlobo nabazali. Lapha sikhuluma ngomqondo wemfanelo.
Intsha eningi eminyakeni eyishumi nanhlanu imemeza futhi ikhala ngalokho abakuthandayo. Kodwa luhlobo luni luthando? Ngokuvamile ngalesi sikhathi wonke umuntu uthandana nemigomo. Ikakhulukazi amantombazane. Ngezikhathi ezihlukene kunamazinga ahlukene. Manje umfana ongcono ongakwenza, kodwa kunalokho udinga ukuthanda ummeleli wesiko esingakahlelekile okumele ukuthi udlale eqenjini, i-skateboard, abe ngumphakathi noma abe nebhayisikili. Insizwa enjalo ingabonisa abangane bayo futhi ikutshele ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani. Ngenxa yalokhu, ungakhalela ebusuku futhi ukhathazeke ngoba akazinaki. Kodwa, empeleni, uthando olunjalo lwakhiwe. Kubonakala sengathi amantombazane kufanele adandise futhi afuna imigomo ebekwe yi-intanethi kanye nethelevishini. Imizwa enjalo idlula ngokushesha. Yiqiniso, kunezigameko ezimbi lapho intsha ifika ukuzibulala. Kodwa, eqinisweni, lokhu akukona ngenxa yokuthi babenothando lwangempela. Ngokulula, izingane zifuna ukuheha futhi zifakaze ezweni lonke ukuthi azijabuli kakhulu, ngoba akekho ozithandayo.
Kunamanye amacala lapho intsha ikhathazeka ngobuqotho ngenxa yemizwa yabo. Kodwa ngalesi sikhathi, umqondo "wothando" ungcono ngokulingana nomqondo othi "uthanda." Yebo, yebo, intombazane ingathanda ngempela umfana, futhi ufuna ukuba naye. Kodwa akuyona insizwa encane ecabanga ngalokho okuzokwenzeka ngemuva kokuba iphupho lakhe lifezeke. Yiqiniso, isizukulwane sesimanje sikhula masinyane. Kulokhu usizwa ngokugeleza okungenakuphazamiseka kolwazi, okuyinto ingqondo encane namanje engazi ukuyihlunga. Inkinga yukuthi intsha iqala ukuzihlanganisa nalokho abakubonayo esikrinini sokuqapha. Futhi lokhu: ukuvumela, ubudlelwano obukhululekile nokunye. Abaqondi ukuthi lolu thando luwumthwalo omkhulu. Futhi umthwalo wemfanelo awunjalo ngokwabo, ngokuqondene nomunye umuntu. Phela, i-Fox ithi kahle kulowo wonke umsebenzi odumile: "Sibophezelekile kulowo oye wahlushwa." Abantu bahamba ngothando, futhi uma beqaphela ukuthi abakwazi ukuzibophezela ngomphefumulo wabo womshado, babangela ubuhlungu. Lapho usemncane, okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo kuyisihlungu kakhulu. Kodwa intsha ayiqondi lokhu. Izinyembezi enyangeni nasebhiya ebhentshini - ngukuthi uthando lwabo lubukeka kanjani. Abasaqapheli ukuthi ukuphuza nokubhema akupholile. Futhi uma othandekayo eziphatha ngale ndlela, akudingeki adumise futhi amthande. Mayelana naye udinga ukukhathazeka. Lesi sibonelo singenye yezinto ezingacatshangwanga mayelana nezinhlanu.
Kodwa, ingabe yonke intsha isencane kangaka? Eqinisweni, kukhona okuhlukile. Kukhona abantu abahlakaniphile ngempela abangafani iminyaka. Laba bantu bayakwazi ukuthanda ngempela. Ngisho nasencane yabo bayaqonda ukuthi ukubhema nokuphuza akupholile neze. Ngokuvamile, lamantombazane axhumana nabafana namantombazane asebekhulile nabahlakaniphile abenza ngendlela efanele, futhi abangekho imfashini. Futhi, laba bantu abasha abakhethanga umfana ngokusho kwetheksthi esungulwe umkhuba wakamuva wefashini yomphakathi wanamuhla. Zithatha isikhathi eside ukukhetha umuntu othakazelisayo ngempela kubo, njengomuntu. Kubo, umfana akuyona nje enye ithuba lokuziqhayisa izintombi zakhe. Lona umuntu ohlela ikusasa futhi wakhe ubuhlobo obunzima. Yiqiniso, ngokukhula, izinto eziza kuqala ziguquke, futhi uthando lungadlula. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunjani, ngaleso sikhathi kuyinto yangempela, ngoba intombazane iyaqonda umthwalo wayo ngomuntu onayo. Ngeke ajabule ukuthi isoka lakhe liphuza amabhodlela ayisithupha kabhiya ngaphezu komngane wakhe kanye nokweqa amakilasi noma imibhangqwana.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, uzama ukumsiza ukuba asuse imikhuba emibi futhi aqiniseke ukuthi akaqali izifundo zakhe. Amantombazane anjalo ahlukumezeka kakhulu. Ngisho nalapho beneminyaka eyi-15 baqonda ukuthi yini eyobalulekile ngempela empilweni, futhi yini eyogubha njengothuli.
Yiqiniso, benza amaphutha, kodwa ungazami ukufakazela ukuthi wonke umhlaba uhlakaniphile kakhulu. Ngokuphambene nalokho, balalela iseluleko sabangane abadala nezintombi esivele abanolwazi futhi bangeluleka okuthile okulungile nokuhlakanipha. Amantombazane anjalo angenangqondo ngalokhu, noma, okungenani, zama ukungenzi. Uma othandekayo esekhulile, bazama ukufinyelela ezingeni lakhe, bakhule, baqonde futhi basize wonke umuntu kunakho konke. Ngezinye izikhathi, kwezinye izinto, laba besilisa bangabanokuqonda kunabantu, abadala kunabo iminyaka eminingana. Yiqiniso, ngezinye izindlela bahlala bengabantwana, kodwa ukuziphatha kwabo kuhluke kakhulu ekuziphatheni kontanga abaningi. Ngendlela, njengombono wezwe. Amantombazane anjalo, uma kunesidingo, angangena kumuntu omdala, lapho kungekho ukunakekelwa kwabazali, kodwa kukhona ukuphila, izinkinga zezezimali nezinye izinto eziningi ezingacabangi ngabasha. Bahlale bezama ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo, bafunde ukuthola imali, ngisho nokubuka umhlaba ngokusebenzisa izibuko ezinemibala ehlukahlukene, basengakwazi ukucabanga kahle ngeqiniso elibuhlungu. Bavuthiwe phambi kwabanye futhi ngezindlela ezithile kungcono. Kodwa kwenye - lokhu kuhlanganisa okukhulu. Yilaba bafana abangathanda ngempela eminyakeni eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye, ngoba imizwa yabo ayiyithuba lokuzifakazela kanye nokuthile okuzofakazela. Lona isimo somphefumulo lapho bazimisele ukufunda khona, bashintshe futhi bazinikele.