Indlela yokukhuluma nesoka lakho efonini

Ngamunye wethu unezikhathi zokuphila lapho siphuthelwa kakhulu umuntu esimthandayo. Sifuna njalo ukuba naye, sizwe ukusekela kwakhe, sizwe izwi lakhe. Kodwa, ngeshwa, akuyona yonke into elula futhi umhlaba wethu awukho ngendlela esingathanda ngayo. Ngakho-ke, kulula kakhulu ukuba sizwe izwi lomuntu, ngenxa yocingo olulodwa olubhekiswe kubhalisile ozithandayo. Futhi masinyane singanqikazi ngomzuzu, thola ifoni, siyiphayipha iminwe yezinkinobho ezihluthuliwe futhi, o, isimangaliso, siyizwa. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, ibanga eliphakathi kwakho ubonakala lingabalulekile kakhulu. Kodwa-ke umbuzo ophuthumayo, kodwa ophuthumayo umbuzo wokuphuza: emva kwakho konke, ukuthi kufanele ukhulume kanjani nesoka lakho efonini?

Akumangazi, kepha isiko lokuxhumana ngocingo kufanele sibe khona kunoma iyiphi ikholi yefoni oyenzayo. Yiba ngubaba, umama, udadewabo, umzalwane, umngane, umngane, umongameli (mayelana nomongameli, uyazi, kunamagama ahlukene encwadini yefoni), ngisho nomfana wakho ozithandayo. Mayelana nalokhu okulandelayo, uma uqonda futhi uzokhuluma. Futhi-ke, ufuna ukulizwa, uthathe ifoni, wabiza inamba efunayo: beeps - "hello" - "hello!". Futhi nansi, ingxoxo esinde isikhathi eside. Angicabangi ukuthi kufanele uzethule, ngicabanga ukuthi akufanele, kungenjalo isoka lakho lizoqala ukungabaza ukufaneleka kwakho (Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi uzokuzwa kusuka kunombolo yakho oyintandokazi, kunoma iyiphi inombolo ongayikuyibiza). Ngendlela, uma kunjalo okungafundi futhi uzoqala ukuqagela, ukubala amagama abesilisa, kubonakalisa (kwenzeke wonke umuntu). Kodwa asikhulumi ngezinto ezibuhlungu. Okokuqala, buza ukuthi ngabe umatasa yini, ama-horly angayithandi uma engabizwa ngesikhathi. Futhi isikhathi esingalungile sokushaya ucingo kungaba: umsebenzi, ibhizinisi eliphuthumayo, ukuhlala kwakhe enkampanini yamadoda (ukuphumula nabangani), ingxoxo engathí sina nomunye umuntu, elinde ucingo olubalulekile, ukulala ekuseni kakhulu ngemuva kwezolo futhi ngisho nokuzizwa kwakhe okubi nje. Khumbula lokhu njenge "bible bible" bese uzokwazi kakade ukuthi kufanele ukhulume kanjani nesoka lakho efonini. Ukumemeza, qiniseka ukuthi umbuze ngomsebenzi wakhe okwamanje. Ngithatha isithakazelo futhi ngizwa ukuthi ngimatasa, ngishayela phambili kamuva, noma ngivumele ukuba ngikwenze ngokwami. Ungamcindezeli ukuba akhulume, aphumule eqinisweni lokuthi: "Ngibizile, khona-ke kufanele ukhulume nami" kholwa kimi, ngeke kube khona inkulumo lapha, mnike isikhathi, vumela ukuthi ipholile. Uma-ke, lo mfana wanikeza "ukukhanya okuluhlaza" ekukhulumisaneni kwakho futhi ujabule ngokuthi ubize, okokuqala, ubuze ukuthi ungubani, ukuthi wenza kanjani, la madoda ayawuthanda kakhulu uma ephathwa futhi enesithakazelo empilweni yakhe, ngoba asekulungele ukukhuluma ngabo ngamahora. Ngendlela, zama ukungamphazamisi, masiqede umcabango wakhe kuze kube sekupheleni. Ungaphuli ngenkinga yakho ngaphambili. Uzwile izwi lomuntu othandekayo, futhi lokhu ngokwakho kususa kakade zonke izinkinga zokuphila ezenzeke kuwe ngalesi sikhathi.

Ukukhuluma naye, ungazami ukuxhumana nabangani abaningi abahlezi ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngoba thina amantombazane aneselula eduze nendlebe angenza izinto eziyikhulu, khumbula, umfana akaqondi lokhu. Mbize - ngakho-ke yibani nomusa futhi nikhulume naye kuphela. Thumela zonke izinto eziphazamisa ukunakwa ngesikhathi sezingxoxo - xhumana ukuze uma ebuza futhi, ungamtshela inkulumo yokugcina oyishoyo, imizuzwana emihlanu edlule, futhi ungathuli ngokuthula. Shayela icala - yisho yonke into, eqinisweni, ungayizungeza ehlathini, hhayi ucingo lwama-psychic, lapho ekwazi ukuthi kwenzekani kuwe lapho. Abafana abavame ukuqonda amaciniso ethu anzima, badinga lokho okusemqoka. Noma kunjalo, ungabizi uma uhlabelela (ngokuvamile abantu abayayiqondi), ungafaki izingcingo zefoni, ungamemeza efonini. Zama ukufaka imizwa yakho emibi kuwe. Sicabanga ngezimzwelo, futhi ziyilo logic kanye nekhono lesisombululo. Ungazikhulumi ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi mnike ithuba lokufaka igama lakho. Noma kunjalo, ungabizi zonke, ngokusho, "imizuzu emihlanu", zigcine wena futhi uphume kude nefoni. Amantombazane angabantu abathanda inkululeko, futhi iningi labo abathandi ukuzithukuthela lutho. Ufuna ukuzwa - uzobiza, khumbula lokhu futhi ungafaki ukuxhumana ngocingo nawe.

Udinga iseluleko kuye - ungakuphiki lokhu injabulo, welule. Ziqhenye ngalokhu, ngoba ucela iseluleko hhayi kumama wakhe, kodwa kuwe. Udinga iseluleko, wamukele futhi ubonge, hhayi kuye ngokuthi hlobo luni lomuntu angakunikanga, ngisho noma lesi seluleko sibonakala singenangqondo kuwe.

Ngokuqondene nezwi lakho, ngesikhathi kuxoxwa ngocingo, kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi kube mnandi futhi kufinyeleleke, ukucindezela amahemuhemu nokubiza "isiphethu emphefumulweni" womuntu othandekayo. Ngokuvamile njengokuhleka kwehlaya, ikakhulukazi uma uzwa ukuthi unesimo esibi noma sibuhlungu nje. Tshela, isibonelo, i-anecdote noma ngandlela-thile indaba ethakazelisayo eyenzeka kuwe (mayelana nobuntwana, isibonelo) noma othandekayo bakho. Yithakazelisa, ungathuli ize, ngokusekelwe emcabweni wokuthi uyindoda - kufanele uyijabulise. Ngakho-ke, kodwa akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi - "ukuphuza emsebenzini", bonisa ukuthi unomqondo omuhle wokuhlekisa. Xoxa naye kanye nezithakazelo zakhe (okubaluleke kakhulu, hhayi okwenzisayo), maduze, incwadi efundwayo, i-movie yokugcina owabukile, uhambo lwakho endaweni ethile, izifundo zakho. Ungakwazi nokufunda okuthile okuthakazelisayo kuye. Noma nje ekuchazeni okungaqondakali ngitshele ukuthi ngichitha kanjani usuku lwami futhi ngingakhohlwa ukumbuza ngakho. Kunoma yikuphi, ungakhulumi naye kuphela ezindabeni zabesifazane, nciphisa ingxoxo nezihloko zayo. Uma kukhona okuthandayo, uzokubuza yona. Ngendlela, abesifazane abayithandi inhlebo yabesifazane noma.

Uvele ushayele ngoba unesizungu, ungakugcini, uzitshele ngakho. Abafana bayathokoza uma bencike kuzo, ngomqondo omuhle wegama. Kulokhu, ungesabi imizwelo yakho, ubonise ngokugcwele, ngoba kusuka kubo, okwamanje, kuvela okuhle, okungahoxisa umlingani wakho womuntu ngezinjabulo zenjabulo usuku lonke. Futhi ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukusho amagama amathathu omlingo: "Ngiyakuthanda." Lesi sikhumbuzi ngeke siphinde sibe yinto engafanele, noma ubani ongakabizanga. Ngendlela, ukukhuluma ngothando kuyinkulumo enhle kunazo zonke ezokusiza bobabili ukuba nivulekele futhi nisondele kakhulu. Ngakho-ke ungabi namahloni ngemizwa yakho nezinkulumo zocingo ezimnandi. Akulungile ukukhuluma nesoka lakho efonini - lokhu akusho ukunamathela eminye imithetho nemigodi. Lokhu kusho kuphela ukuthi emva kokufaka ama-tubes, enhliziyweni yenu yilowo nalowo uhlala enjabulweni ngemva kokukhuluma nomthandekayo wakho.