Ukuveza amanga mayelana nomshado

Umshado uyisici lapho abantu abaningi bebona khona ubumnyama bengaziwa. Uyakuthandwa yizinkolelo nezindlela ezithandwayo ezigxile ezinhliziyweni zethu. Yini eyokwenzeka emva kokuba indandatho yokubandakanya isemunwe wakho? Konke kuzohlala njengakuqala, noma ngokuphambene, konke kuzohluka? Imibuzo enjalo iphathelene nomuntu ohlela ukudala umndeni ojabulayo. Masiqede ezinye izinkolelo kanye nezinkolelo ezivimbela ukuthi singadluli umzila wedwa futhi sihlalisane ngokujwayelekile.


Inkolelo yenombolo 1. Ngemuva komshado, ubulili buzoba buncane kakhulu.

Ngempela. Eqinisweni, asikho isidingo sokukhathazeka ngocansi emva komshado, ngoba ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi imibhangqwana esithandweni ingcono kakhulu ukwenza uthando kunabantu abahlala ndawonye ndawonye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imibhangqwana esezibophezele emshadweni ijabule kakhulu embhedeni kunemibhangqwana ethi "mahhala". Mhlawumbe lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi abantu abashadile, benza kanjalo ngothando nangokwazi, futhi abantu abaningi bahlala ndawonye ngaphandle komkhuba, nge-inertia futhi okwamanje banakekela abafaki izicelo bezinhlanzi ukuze bahlanganyele ngokuphila.

Inkolelo yenombolo yesi-2. Uma uhlala isikhathi eside ngaphambi komshado, umshado uzoba namandla.

Ngempela. Uma usuvele usetshenziselwa ukuthi umlingani wakho uphonsa amasokisi nxazonke zendlu, lokhu akusho ukuthi into ebi kakhulu isivele isele. Izifundo e-Yale University zibonise ukuthi imibhangqwana ehlala ndawonye ngaphambi kokuba umshado wabo ihlukane kabili kaningi, labo abangazange bayenze . Lapho abantu behlala ndawonye, ​​abangeke bafune njalo, futhi lapho kufika umshado, ungaqala ukucabanga: "Ngishada hhayi ngenxa yalokho engangikuphupha njalo!" Ezinye izazi zengqondo zithi akudingekile ukuba siphile ndawonye ngaphambi komshado, kodwa ukwenza ucansi kuyasiza futhi kudingekile ...

Inkolelo yenombolo yesithathu. Kanye nomshado, ungakhohlwa ngakho konke okujabulisayo.

Ngempela. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi emva kokuphila komshado kuyoba ukugaya, kodwa akekho ocabanga ukuthi konke kuxhomeke kithi! Yiqiniso, esikhundleni samaqembu amomsindo uzohambahamba epaki nezingane, kodwa lokhu kuyinto enjabulo, izikhathi ezimnandi zokuphila.

Inkolelo yenombolo 4. Uma uphikisana ngaso sonke isikhathi, ke ungasondeli.

Ngempela. Konke akulungile neze futhi ngisho nakancane, kubonisa ukuthi unomhlobo ophilile. Emva kwakho konke, ngoba ingxabano isiphelile, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nokuxoxa ngakho. Ngokuvamile, akudingekile ukuxoxa ngesimo ngasinye ngesidlo esingcolile. Kodwa imishado ejabulisayo futhi eqinile isekelwe endleleni yokubuyisana nokugxeka. Esinye isazi sezengqondo saseBrithani sithi zonke izibuyekezo ezibucayi kufanele zihlawulwe ngokuncoma ku-1: 5. Isibonelo, emva kwesinye "esingavamile", kufanele kube "ubuhle" obuhlanu, "buhle," "abathandekayo", njll. Isilinganiso esilinganisiwe sinciphisa i-1: 3, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukucabanga ngakho.

Inkolelo yenkolelo engu-5. Izingane Zomele Umshado

Ngempela. Ucabanga ukuthi ukukhala kwamantombazane ebusuku kanye noshintsho oluqhubekayo lwezindiza kuzomenza umshado wakho uqine? Awudingi ukulindela. Ngeshwa, ngokubonakala komntwana emndenini, ukuguqulwa kobudlelwane phakathi kwalabo abashadile kubonisiwe. Imibhangqwana eminingi ayikwazi ukunqoba lokhu ngisho nangesikhathi sokuphila kwabo bonke. Uma ubuhlobo bakho bukhona esiteji sokubhujiswa, ungabe uthembele ekutheni ingane ingakwazi ukuhamba, ingakwazi futhi ngokuphambene nalokho, ikucindezele kude komunye nomunye.

Inkolelo yenombolo yesithupha. Umshado awuyinto engokwemvelo.

Ngempela. Mhlawumbe, kuphela amadoda azimele afuna ukuba nawo. Phela, banesithembiso esinjalo - ukutshala abesifazane abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Kodwa singasho ukuthi owesifazane uchitha isikhungo somshado, ngoba emva komshado, siqala ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe, ukuzimela kanye nokonga.

Inkolelo yenombolo engu-7. Brakers impilo.

Ngempela. Umagazini waseBrithani washicilela isihloko esithi kusolakala ukuthi abantu abaneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-40 bafa kabili njengabayeni abashadile. Ucwaningo lwaseRussia luveza into efanayo.

Ososayensi bathi amadoda ashadile akwazi ukuhlupheka ngenxa yemikhuhlane, ikhanda kanye nobuhlungu bokubuyela emuva. Kodwa abanye abasebenzi eNyuvesi yase-Oslo bathi uma indoda inomfazi ohlakaniphile, ingozi yesifo senhliziyo isinciphile. Kanjani? Kungenxa yokuthi uyamkhathalela futhi ivikela uhlelo lwakhe lwezinzwa kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokucindezeleka.

Inkolelo yenkolelo engu-8. Uma uthando lungalahlekile, umshado uzohlala isikhathi eside.

Ngempela. Amadoda angenawo unembeza ohlanzekile adlula amaminithi e-mimosa. EBrithani, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukubambisana nokuzibophezela emshadweni kubaluleke ngaphezu kokubonisa imizwa nezimbali.

Inkolelo yenkolelo 9. Uma kunesahlukaniso, khona-ke wena ngokwakho kufanele ubekwe icala.

Ngempela. Uma ufuna izimbali ensimini ziqhakaze, futhi izitsha zitholwa kaningi kanzima tastier, khona-ke kudingeka ukhokhe ngokufanele lokhu. Emshadweni, konke kuyafana. Izidingo zethu komunye nomunye zishintsha njalo, kanye nezidingo. Phakathi neminyaka ungakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi abantu abahluke ngokuphelele. Futhi uhlala kanjani ndawonye iminyaka eminingi kangaka?

Ngokwemvelo, ukuzigxeka kuhle, kodwa ngokulinganisela. Khumbula ukuthi emshadweni nasehlukanisweni, abantu ababili kumele bahlanganyele. Ngakho bobabili kufanele basolwe ngesimo, bobabili bomshado.

Inkolelo yenombolo yeshumi. Manje cishe yonke imishado iphetha ngesehlukaniso.

Ngempela. Akuwona wonke, kodwa amaningi. Isibonelo, ngo-2007, imibhangqwana engu-686,000 ehlukanisile eRussia, kodwa ishada kabili kakhulu - cishe izigidi ezingu-1.3. Yiqiniso, lokhu akulungile, kodwa kuze kube manje akukho ndlela enjalo engayilondoloza futhi iqinise umshado ngokuphelele.

Inkolelo yenkolelo 11. Emshadweni, abesifazane baphila kabi kunabesifazane.

Ngempela. Abesilisa nabesilisa, abashadile, bavame ukuhlala bejabule futhi bebade kakhulu kunabo abasebaneminyaka yabo abangabodwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abantu bomndeni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili, bavame ukuthola okuningi futhi babe nempilo engcono.

Inkolelo yenkolelo 12. Ungaphansi kwakhe.

Ngempela. Eqinisweni, lokhu kunjalo. EYunivesithi yaseLondon, kwenziwa ucwaningo lapho abesifazane nabesilisa abangu-4500 bebuzwa khona, futhi kwachazwa ukuthi abesifazane, ngempela, bathola injabulo emshadweni kunamadoda. Isimo sengqondo somuntu siqinile uma siphila emshadweni womphakathi, hhayi emshadweni osemthethweni. Kubalulekile ukuthi amadoda azizwe ekhululekile, ngisho noma empeleni akunjalo.

Izakhamuzi eziningi zengqondo zithi ziza ekuxoxweni kuphela amadoda asetshenziswe ngokusemthethweni futhi akuyona eyedwa ohlala emshadweni womphakathi. Futhi ngokuphambene - abesifazane beza nezikhalazo ukuthi abalingani babo abafuni ukushada, kodwa abesifazane abashadile bancane kakhulu.

Inkolelo yenombolo engu-13. Ukwakha umndeni, udinga isikhundla esinamandla sezezimali.

Ngempela. Empeleni, indoda kuphela okufanele icabange ngakho, kodwa hhayi owesifazane. Ukuze uzuze ukuzimela kwezezimali, umsebenzi omuhle nezinye izinto eziphumelelayo, udinga isikhathi, hhayi nje ngonyaka owodwa, ngakho-ke uma owesifazane eqala ukufezekisa lokhu, ngokuphindaphindiwe unikeza iminyaka yakhe engcono kakhulu, ubuhle besifazane nentsha. Zonke izipho zakhe ezingcono kakhulu zemvelo emsebenzini wakhe nokuqeqesha, nakuba kungakafiki iqiniso lokuthi uzofeza lokho okufunayo. Ngenxa yalokhu, owesifazane akakwazi ukuthola kalula isigamu esihle, ngoba unesifiso sokuziqhenya.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, eminyakeni encane amantombazane anesithakazelo ngokugcwele othandweni nokuthandana, futhi uma enquma ukungakheli umndeni, uqala ukuphinga nabantu abasha abahlukene.

Inkolelo yenombolo engu-14. Owesifazane ofundele ubheka umyeni wakhe isikhathi eside futhi kunzima ngaye ukuba ashade.

Ngempela. Mhlawumbe ngaphambili kwakunjalo, kepha namuhla owesifazane ofundele futhi ohlakaniphile, ngokuphambene nalokho, unamathuba amaningi okushada, uma eqhathaniswa nalabo amantombazane "abanomoya" ekhanda labo, kungakhathaliseki ubudala.

Ngokusobala, uCharles Hill, uprofesa waseMelika, uphenye ngamabhulozi angama-200 asetshenziswe iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-25, futhi wathola indlela yokuphumelela komshado.

  1. Ungadali umndeni futhi ungathandani nomlingani okhanga kakhulu noma ophansi kunakho.
  2. Dala umndeni onomuntu mayelana nokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo nobudala bawo.
  3. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ngokuphindaphindiwe kaningi ukwenza uthando!

Ungavumeli izinkolelo zemicabango kanye nezinkolelo zibhubhise impilo yakho, kuphela ukuthi unquma ukuthi kuzoba njani. Washada uphile ngokujabula!