Ngesinye isikhathi amadoda ayenaqondakali futhi angaqondakali kunabesifazane. Ngenxa yobungqingili be-psychology yabo, ngokuyisisekelo bafihla imizwa yabo nemizwelo yabo, kunokuba balethe ubulili besifazane izikhathi eziningi eziphazamisayo. Phela, ummeli ngamunye wesifazane ufuna ukwazi ngemicabango yangempela kanye nezinhloso zakhe ezikhethiwe. Futhi kuthiwani ngabo ukuze bathole ukuthi umuntu ufihlekile kangaka? Kumelwe uthembele ekubukeleni kwesifazane, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi akekho okwanele.
Ngokuvamile, amadoda ahlose ukwandisa ukufihla nokulingana kwawo, ngaleyo ndlela azibandakanya nge-halo yemfihlakalo, avusa abesifazane ukuthi banesithakazelo kumuntu wabo siqu. Njengokungathi kwabesifazane nangaphandle kwalesi sihloko esincane, kunjalo kusadingeka ukuzihlolisise ngombuzo othi, "Ngimthanda yini?". Usizo ngalolu daba lungasayina ulimi. Njengoba wazi, abantu bayathumela izimpawu ezifihliwe, into esemqoka ukukwazi ukuyiqonda kahle.
Ngakho-ke, ake sikhulume ngezibonakaliso ezizosiza abesifazane abathandekayo ukuba baqonde izinhloso zangempela zamadoda abo.
Isignali ebonisa ukuthi "Konke kungenzeka"
Uma indoda, ukulalela owesifazane, ingambukeli nje kuphela, kodwa ilungisa ngezikhathi ezithile i-tie yayo, ithinta izinwele noma ikhala lehembe. Lokhu kubonisa isithakazelo sakhe esicacile, uma ngesikhathi esisodwa, isisindo somlenze onobuchopho siphendulela owesifazane, intshisekelo yakhe ingaphezu kokusobala. Iqiniso lesimo esinjalo lingase libe nencazelo ehlukile, mhlawumbe inesithakazelo esihlokweni sengxoxo kunesikhulumi ngokwakhe.
Isibonakaliso ngaphansi kwamanzi "Ngisho iqiniso"
Uma ngesikhatsi ingxoxo, indoda ngesikhathi sokugaya isibonakaliso isibonisa izandla zakhe, lokhu kubonisa ukwethembeka kwakhe nokuthembeka. Mhlawumbe indoda ayihlali igesticulate ngaso sonke isikhathi phakathi kwengxoxo, kodwa lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi ihlotshaniswa nemvelo yengxoxo, nesimo sengqondo sayo ku-interlocutor.
"Ngingathanda ukuba yisignali"
Umuntu ngamunye unemithetho yakhe nemigomo yakhe, ngokusho ukuthi ugcina umuntu ukude kangakanani, futhi uvumela othile ukuba asondelane. Okuwukuphela kwento engashiwo ngokuqiniseka okuphelele, ngokusekelwe emaqinisweni aqinisekisiwe, yilowo muzi wendawo ovumela abaxhumanisi bawo ukuba baye esikhundleni sendawo.
Kunezinkomba ezithile ezamukelekayo ezijwayelekile ebangeni eliphakathi kwabantu abavumelekile ezimweni ezahlukene. Uma ngabe umphakathi wamukelwa ukukhulumisana ebangeni elingamamitha ayi-3.5 ukusuka komunye nomunye, ukukhulumisana okunobungane kwenzeka kude 1.5 no 0.75 metres. Uma indoda izama ukusondelana nowesifazane ngesikhathi sokuxhumana, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi ufisa ukusondela kuye sonke. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi abanye bangabonisa ngokushesha izinhloso zabo, abanye bazofinyeza ibanga kancane kancane.
Isignali esho ukuthi indoda ngeke ikwazi ukumbamba owesifazane
Kwenzeka ukuthi lapho usebenzisana nowesifazane, indoda, izikhali zihanjiswe, zixhomeke esihlalweni, isihlalo sezingubo noma isigcawu. Lesi senzo sinengqondo kakhulu, ngoba kufanekisela umshado.
Isignali esho ukuthi isifiso salo muntu sithini kowesifazane
Ukuthinta kungasho ukusho okuncane. Isibonelo:
- Uma, ngenkathi uxosha izandla phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, isandla somuntu siphendukile phezulu, lokhu kubonisa ukuzimisela kwakhe ukulalela owesifazane.
- Uma indoda igoqa isandla somuntu onesandla zombili, umuntu angakhuluma ngobuqotho bakhe nobungane kuye.
- Futhi isibonakaliso sokuzwelana yisisindo somuntu wesandla noma isigqoko sowesifazane.
Isignali esho isifiso somuntu sokuthanda owesifazane
Uma umuntu, lapho ebona owesifazane, eqala ukuzibeka, uhlola konke anakho ngezingubo, ubonakala sengathi uthuli oluvela ezincekwini, ama-combs, oludonsa esiswini, futhi luqondise amahlombe, njll. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi enze umqondo oqondile, kodwa futhi ukuthi ufuna ukujabulisa lo wesifazane.
Isignali ekhuluma ngesithakazelo sobulili somuntu
Amadoda anemibuzo eminingi ethi owesifazane unesithakazelo kuye njengento yezocansi. Uma ehlezi nemilenze yakhe evulekile, noma lapho ehlala ngezandla zakhe ezinqulwini, noma uma ebeka izandla zakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi, zonke lezi zenzo zibizwa ukuba zibonise owesifazane ukukhangwa kwakhe ngokocansi nokuheha, emnake endaweni "engezansi ibhande ".
Isignali ethi indoda ayidingi lutho
Uma phakathi kwengxoxo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, umunwe wenkomba uthinte impumulo, futhi konke okunye kwendwangu kuhlanganisa umlomo - lokhu kusho ukuthi akalahleki engxoxweni engagwegwesi, noma nje akakholelwa.
Isibonakaliso esibonisa isifiso somuntu sokubalekela owesifazane
Uma kukho konke okukhulunywe ngenhla, le ndoda iqala ukususa i-earlobe ngokukhululekile ngesandla sayo samahhala, noma ezinye izingxenye zobuso - lokhu kubonisa ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi angamlahla kanjani umngane wakhe.
Isignali ethi indoda inesithakazelo kowesifazane
Uma ngesikhatsi ingxoxo indoda isuke ibanga elide kumuntu wesifazane, ngenkathi ixhomeke eceleni kwayo, noma ikhuluma naye ngesigamu, lokhu kubonisa isimo sakhe sokuphazamisa ngokuqondene nomxhumanisi.
Isignali ethi bafuna ukuxhumana okude
Uma indoda yamukela owesifazane ngokuthuthumela okungabonakali, ubeka ibanga phakathi kwakhe naye, engathandi ukusikwa.