Izindaba ezindabeni zokubusa kwabesifazane sezivele zigcwele oskomu. Indoda ngaphansi kwesithende somkayo ibonakala ngokubonakala njengendlela yemvelo yobungane emndenini. Lesi simo asikude. Ekuqaleni komuntu, ukubeletha kwabazali kwakuyindlela evamile kakhulu yomphakathi. I-Amazons eyaziwayo nayo ayiyona into eyenziwa abalobi basendulo. Amadoda asesimweni esincane samanje abangelwa ukubuswa kwabesifazane kule nqubo yokufundisa. Futhi e-kindergartens, nasezikoleni, nasemndenini, imfundo yabafana ibanjwe ikakhulukazi ngabesifazane. Amadoda enikeza isikhathi esiningi sokusebenza nokuzijabulisa. Futhi amadodana agxila kuphela ngokuphambene. Amafutha emlilweni athululela inani elikhulu lokuhlukanisa nokukhuliswa kwezingane ngabomama abangashadile.
Kodwa-ke, isizathu sokubusa kwebesifazane okwandayo sibuyele emvelo. Abesifazane bebelokhu befuna ukukhululeka nokuzimela kwamadoda. Bashintsha iziketi ngezingubo, izigqoke ezigqoke izingubo, bathatha isisindo somzimba kanye nesibhakela. Abesifazane bayaqhubeka bephethe isikhundla esiphambili futhi babe ngabanikazi bebhizinisi labo. Baye bezama iminyaka eyikhulu ukufakazela ukuthi akukho lutho oluyindoda kuphela. Ngakho-ke, ukukhululwa emakhulwini eminyaka okungabi namthetho kwaholela esimweni lapho abesifazane beba khona amadoda.
Ingabe kuhle? Ngokuvamile ukuhlukunyezwa komuntu noma owesifazane emndenini akubambi iqhaza ebuhlotsheni obuvumelanayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lesi simo asijabulisi umuntu noma owesifazane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngezinye izikhathi kuhle ukubona ukubaluleka kwakho. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunokucindezela njalo komthwalo wemfanelo ngezinqumo ezenziwe ngabanye. Ayikho indlela yokubonisana, uhlaziye amaphutha akho, futhi ekugcineni, "ukhale nge-vest." Ukuhlukunyezwa okuqhubekayo kowesifazane phezu komuntu kuyonakalisa uhlamvu lwakhe, okuthinta ngokuqondile isevisi kanye nobuhlobo bomndeni. Futhi ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo kungonakalisa impilo yomzimba nengqondo. Amadoda kuleso simo endaweni ethile. Izimpilo zabo zizolile futhi zilinganiswe. Ukushintshanisa ukulalela nokusebenza komsebenzi womshado, baxoxisana ngezinzuzo ezintathu "ezibalulekile" ngokwabo - ubhiya, i-sofa ne-TV. Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyihlaya, kodwa amadoda amaningi ayazibona wona.
Ngendlela, ukubusa kowesifazane ebuhlotsheni nomuntu akusho neze ukumkhulula ekuhluphekeni okufuywayo. Bonke bahlanzekile, bahlanze, bahlanza, bakhulise izingane. Abasenaso isikhathi sokuhlangana nabangane babo, futhi lo mthandi nje akasenamandla okwanele. Kuzo zonke izinsolo zokuqhosha: Ngingenza konke ngokwami! Angidingi usizo lomuntu! Nginamandla futhi ngizimele! Ngokuvamile, amadoda anesithunzi sakhe, amukela ngamabomu imithetho yemidlalo, ukuze agweme ama-scandals futhi acacise ubuhlobo.
Kodwa-ke, lo mbuzo uvela, kungani ubudlelwane obungalingani obunjalo buqinile futhi buhlala njalo? Akulula yini ukuhlakazeka, njengemikhumbi yolwandle? Mayelana namadoda, konke kulula. Mhlawumbe, kuba mnandi ukuba bafihle ngemuva kwamahlombe wesifazane "abuthakathaka". Ngaphezulu kwabo akulindelwe ngumthwalo wemithwalo yemfanelo, ayifuni isimo somuntu othola umndeni emndenini. Benza ukuphila okuzolile nokulinganisiwe. Futhi ungachaza kanjani ukuziphatha kwabesifazane? Mhlawumbe, isizathu esiyinhloko sokulondoloza ubudlelwane akusona isifiso esinamandla sokuyala. Naphezu kwemvelo engathandekayo kanye nokuzimela ngokuzikhethela, owesifazane ovamile uyesaba kakhulu isizungu! Akafuni ukushiywa, akekho odinga owesifazane. Ngakho-ke, futhi ivumela umyeni "ongaphansi kwekhanda" inkululeko ethile. Vumelana, uma ukuphila komuntu ongaphansi kwesithende sowesifazane kungenakubekezelela, wayezomshiya. I-serfdom isiqedile isikhathi eside.
Ngenxa yezindaba ezithinta ukuphatha abesifazane, isithombe esingalungile somndeni sakhiwa. Ukungabikho kobudlelwane obulinganayo emndenini akuyona into evamile. Lesi simo sezindaba sibonisa izinkinga ezinkulu zomuntu siqu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isilingo sokuhlala nokuqinisa ubuholi bakho, awukwazi ukwenza lokhu. Uzohlupheka ngalokhu, okokuqala, wena ngokwakho. Kodwa ikakhulukazi - izingane. Abangaphansi kokunciphisa ukulinganisa indlela yokuziphatha yabazali. Futhi lapho bekhula, bazoqala ukuphinda amaphutha abazali babo. Amantombazane ayoba nzima ukuqinisa ubuhlobo nabafana. Bazozama ukuphoqelela imibono yabo, hhayi ukulalela izimpikiswano zomlingani. Futhi abafana bangakhula izingane ezincane futhi bebuthakathaka. Khumbula ukuthi umndeni kufanele ube yiqembu elilodwa! Uma "umdlali" oyedwa egula, imisebenzi yakhe kufanele ithathwe ngabanye futhi uphume kunqobe kunoma yiziphi izinkinga zokuphila.