Enye yezindaba ezihlekisayo ikhuluma ngokumnandi, kungani umuntu kufanele abe ngcono kunomfazi. Isibonelo, "imbongolo yesilisa ayikwazi ukuba yinto ebalulekile ngesikhathi sokuqashwa, noma indoda ayishintshi isibongo sakhe ngesikhathi somshado, noma indoda ingalingisi i-orgasm, noma izinhlelo zomshado zendoda ngokuvamile zizenzekela ngokwabo, noma ushokoledi kumane kumnandi kubo, indoda kungaba ngumongameli, amadoda aphikisana nabangane uma eqala ukuqamba amanga, noma amadoda esitolo sokulungisa imoto ngaso sonke isikhathi akhuluma iqiniso, noma angalokothi asebenzise i-wax eshisayo, noma ukubulawa komdlali wabo ozithandayo, kuyisimo esiyimfihlo kubo abezindaba. "
Futhi kuwebhu kushicilelwe amanothi athile ahlekisayo azisa ukuthi kungani kungcono ukuba owesifazane kunendoda. Isibonelo, bathi "abesifazane besaphila isikhathi eside kunamadoda, noma owesifazane akakwazi ukuthola i-prostatitis, owesifazane akesabi indawo yokuqala, noma umuntu angakwazi ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga ngezinyembezi, noma umuntu akakwazi ukupenda izipikili zakhe nge-varnish ebomvu, noma umuntu angathola izimbali izimbali kuphela emngcwabeni wabo, noma umuntu angeke abe amaphesenti ayikhulu eqinisekisayo ukuthi umlingani wakhe uthathe ipilisi yokulawula ukubeletha ngaphambi kocansi, noma abanaso isizathu sokuziphathisa izinsuku ezingu-4 ngenyanga. " Ngaphezu kwalokho, "umuntu ungikhokhela, noma angenakho ukukhetha, ukugqoka amabhulukwe noma ingubo (ngaphandle uma ngempela lo muntu engekho iScotsman). Yiqiniso, umuntu waseScotsman angafaka ingubo, kodwa kufanele abe nokusika okuthile, futhi kufanele ubambe ama-bagpipes. "
Kodwa, futhi uma usuka kumnandi, futhi ucabange ngokujulile ngalolu daba. Ezindaweni eziningi, ungabona ukuthi kungcono ukuba ngumuntu kunokuba owesifazane wangempela. Isibonelo, uma owesifazane ehlezi kwelinye ihhovisi noma kwideskiti lemali, kungasheshi futhi kube lula kumuntu ukuthola isitifiketi noma amathikithi okusebenza okuhloniphekile. Ngesizathu esithile, abasebenzi besifazane nabanini bemali abayingozi kakhulu futhi basize amadoda ngokuzithandela. Ngokomlando, amadoda angabalobi bezici eziningi nokutholakala okuningi, kanye nabadali bezici eziningi zobuciko ezidumile. Ngakho-ke, kusukela ekuqaleni, kuba abafana umphakathi obeka kuwo wonke amathemba ayo. Emazweni aseMpumalanga, akukho mbuzo nhlobo: "Kungani kungcono ukuba umuntu? "Indoda eMpumalanga iyindlalifa eyinhloko futhi isekela wonke umndeni. Kusemadodeni ukuthi wonke amathemba afakwa. Ukubusa komndeni kudlula kuphela kumuntu ukuya kumuntu.
Ngisho naseNtshonalanga, isikhathi eside, ukuphakama kwamadoda kwaqashelwa. Ngakho-ke, kwakukholelwa ukuthi kungcono ukuba indoda kunomfazi. Mhlawumbe lesi simo sengqondo siphinde senze ukuqhutshwa kwabesifazane kanye nezidingo zamalungelo afanayo kokubili amadoda nabesifazane. Kukhona into enjengokuthi "ukukhululwa kwabafazi". Ekupheleni kwekhulu le-19 futhi ekuqaleni kwe-20, kwaba nokungafani okucacile phakathi kobulili. Abesifazane baqala ukuveza izimfuno zamalungelo afanayo emndenini, emisebenzini nasemphakathini. Ngokokuqala ngqa, abesifazane bakwazi ukuvota okhethweni eNew Zealand ngo-1893. Kancane kancane bathola ilungelo lokusebenza ezakhiweni zikahulumeni nezomphakathi, kanye nemali elinganayo. Ngendlela, eRussia umhlangano wokuqala womphakathi wokulingana kwabesifazane namadoda wahlelwa ngo-1917. Ngendlela, impumelelo yabesifazane kwakuyisizathu sokuthi kwakukhona omunye umbono: "ukukhululwa kwamadoda." Namuhla, amadoda, akhululiwe emithwalweni eminingi yezenhlalo nezenhlalakahle, aqale ukulwa namalungelo alinganayo nabesifazane. Namuhla, indoda yesimanje inselele ukuphakama kwabesifazane emazingeni amancane wesifazane. Isibonelo, ilungelo lokuhlala nezingane nokunakekelwa kwabo ngemuva kokuqedwa komshado.
Ngisho nanamuhla, kukhona inkolelo eqinile emphakathini ukuthi amadoda kuphela anamandla okucabanga okunengqondo. Ngokuvamile ungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nokuhlukaniswa okudume kakhulu: "isilisa" logic futhi "owesifazane" logic. Ngokuvamile ezindaweni zokukhiqiza nokuphatha, izinqumo ezithintekayo kakhulu zenziwa ngamadoda. Izikhundla ezibalulekile zibhekwa kuqala kubo bonke abesilisa abesilisa nabamiswayo. Bazingela amadoda kalula, ngisho noma umfakisicelo wesifazane engavumi kuzo zonke izindlela zokukhetha. Kukholelwa ukuthi amadoda ayagula kakhulu, axoxa futhi angajabuli emsebenzini. Abuye ahambe ngekhefu lokubeletha noma athathe isikhathi ngenxa yezinkinga zezingane zabo. Indoda ibhekwa njengesisebenzi esivumelana kakhulu.
Izimpande zalesi simo sengqondo sokubandlulula kubantu nabesifazane kufanele zifunwe emndenini. Yiqiniso, uNkulunkulu wadala owesifazane emgqeni ka-Adamu futhi kufanele akhonze umyeni wakhe. Ngisho namaphupho wezingane akhuthazwa ngabazali abanezinga elithile lokuzithoba. Isibonelo, abafana baphupha ukuba ngabaongameli noma abomabhizinisi, namantombazane abadlali bezintambo noma abaphathi, njll. Amantombazane asebancane kakhulu, abazali, othisha nabanye abantu abadala bafaka izinkimbinkimbi ezinzima ezenza ziphoqe. Ezweni lethu kukhona amadoda nabesifazane. "Qhathanisa" phakathi kobulili, yebo, akunakugwemeka. Kunoma yimuphi umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyindoda noma owesifazane, umuzwa wokuzikhethela nobuntu oyingqayizivele uyosiza ukuguqula impilo yakhe yonke ibe yinkathi ejabulisayo nejabulisayo isikhathi eside. Nakuba abanye besifazane bakholelwa ukuthi kulula ukuba amadoda aphumelele futhi ajabule. Futhi abanye bangama-feminists abazama ukwenza umsebenzi futhi bathole isimo esiphakeme emphakathini ukufakazela ukuthi owesifazane ulungile futhi.
Kodwa kubesifazane abaningi umuzwa wenjabulo yokuphila ngeke uphele uma bengenakuqaphela njengabesifazane. Bathanda ukuba ngabesifazane: enhle, abanesibindi, bekhohlisa eduze komuntu. Ngaphambi kwabesifazane abanjalo akukho mbuzo: "Ubani ongcono ukuba indoda noma owesifazane? "Owesifazane wesimanje akahlupheki ikakhulukazi enemibuzo enjalo, angaba ngumlingisi okhangayo ophula kalula izinhliziyo zabantu.