Ukuzwela ngokweqile kumagama noma ezenzweni kungaba nomthelela omubi kakhulu kumuntu. Kwezinye izimo, ungawela ekucindezelekeni noma ugule. Ukuthatha usondelene kakhulu nenhliziyo, ungathola ingqondo engekho, ukwanda kwengcindezi yegazi, ukunciphisa ukudla kuze kufike ekuphazamiseni kwengqondo. Ukuze ugcine isimo esihle sempilo, zama ukuqeda imvelo ekuthinta kabi noma ukusebenza kuwe.
Ungakuzwa kanjani?
- Ngokuvamile umuntu uthatha inhliziyo enhliziyweni ngenxa yokusola kwakhe. Eqinisweni, akukho lutho noyedwa ofuna okubi, kodwa kukhona ukuphoqa okungafani neze. Ngokuvamile, umuntu onjalo uqala ukutadisha ngokucophelela i-interlocutor, ukukhuluma kwakhe, ubuso obusweni futhi athole izimpawu ezingekho embonweni wesimo sengqondo esibi. Isixazululo kuphela ukuzama ukubona ngokucacile abantu nezimo. Ungacabangi bese usungula into engekho.
- Vula ukukhulumisana nokukhulumisana okwakhayo. Lesi yisiqinisekiso sokuthi uzokwazi ukuhlola ngeso lengqondo lesi simo bese uzizwa isimo sengqondo sangempela se-interlocutor. Uma ubona ukunganakwa kancane, ungahlala ubuza ukuthi inkinga iyini. Ungakhubeki futhi ushiye, kuphumelela kakhulu ukwakha umugqa wokuziphatha okulungile, uzuze ngokwengeziwe.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi abantu abacasula abanye futhi bayakujabulela ngokuvamile banokuzethemba okuphansi. Khumbula lokhu futhi ungalokothi ukhumbule amazwi angajabulisayo. Ungavumeli izifiso ezingenziwanga phansi zingonakalise impilo yakho.
Ungakukhathazi kanjani ukucindezeleka emsebenzini?
Ukusebenza, noma ngabe kuyintandokazi, ngezinye izikhathi akuletha injabulo kuphela. Ezimweni ezicindezelayo, abantu abakuzungezile baphenduka ngendlela ehlukile futhi hhayi njalo bekhala ngokuqondisa kwakho mayelana nokusebenza okungakapheli komsebenzi okufanele kuthathwe njengokunganaki ubuntu bomuntu. Ukuze wenze ubuhlobo obuhle neqembu, akufanele ubone noma yiziphi izenzo zabo ezihlobene nenqubo yomsebenzi njengesifiso sokucasula. Yiqiniso, lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uvumele amanzi agijime.
Phatha izimo eziningi ngamahlaya, iyakusindisa futhi ingagcini ukubaluleka kwesimo esibi. Ungacabangi kabi ngabantu, akusilo lutho abashoyo ukuthi imicabango ibumba iqiniso. Uma ucabanga ngakho konke ngendlela engafanele, kuyoba, ngakho-ke ake sicabange ngendlela enhle futhi kuyoba nabantu abathandekayo nabanomusa okuzungezile.
Funda indlela yokubhekana nokucindezeleka ngendlela efanele. Uma ufunda ukungena ezimweni ezicindezelayo emsebenzini, ngeke kudingeke uzibambe ngenhliziyo. Khumbula ukuthi ekusebenzeni ikhono lakho lokucabanga ngokucophelela nangokwemvelo kunoma yiziphi izimo lithandwa kakhulu, ngakho-ke zama ukuphatha noma yikuphi njengomsebenzi wezobuchwepheshe.
Ungakhathazeki ngeze futhi ungabacasuli abanye. Yenza ngokuvumelana nesimo futhi ngokuqinisekile empilweni yakho inani lokungabi nandaba lizokwehla kakhulu futhi ngeke kube khona into okufanele uyikhumbule, ngaphandle kokuba kube nenjabulo nezikhathi ezimnandi.