Ngakho ngandlela-thile ngizolile, akunjalo? Futhi ukuzola kubalulekile ikakhulukazi owesifazane okhulelwe. Esikhathini esithakazelisayo, lo wesifazane uba ngu-hypochondriac obengeziwe futhi, ezama, kangcono ngangokunokwenzeka ukuzivikela yena kanye nezingane ezizayo, ulungele ukulandela konke "hhayi", okunikeza izimpawu zabantu nezinkolelo-ze. Futhi kukhona eziningi zazo. Ngakho kungenzeka futhi akufanele kwenziwe ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ngokusekelwe ezinkolelweni zasendulo kanye nemibono yabantu.
Umama wesikhathi esizayo akakwazi ukugqoka, ukugoba, ukubopha , ingane ingazalwa nge-moles. Ngomsebenzi wezingubo, owesifazane angalimala: angabamba inaliti noma azisike ngezikhali, okwenza umesabe, okwenza umntanakhe amthinte kabi.
Umama ozayo ngeke akwazi ukuhlala emnyango. Kwakucatshangwa ukuthi umzingcele wumzila phakathi kwezwe langaphandle nezwe langaphandle. Ukwengeza, ukuhlala ohlelweni lomama ozayo akuthembisi okuhle. Lesi sibonakaliso sinezela ngokuvinjelwa kokuwela phezu kwelogi noma umshanelo. Ungangena ekungamukelekeni kwe-brownie ohlala khona. Futhi uma ucabanga, bese uwela phezu kwesithiyo, ungakwazi ukukhubeka nokuwa, okuyingozi kakhulu empilweni yomntwana.
Umama ozayo ngeke akwazi ukudla amajikijolo abomvu - ingane izozalwa ibomvu, awukwazi ukudla izinhlanzi - izozalwa isimungulu. Lapha yonke into elula, amajikijolo kanye nezinhlanzi zasolwandle kukhona ama-allergen aqinile, ukusetshenziswa kwawo okungenani okungenamkhawulo kungabangela i-diathesis enganeni. Ngakho-ke u-blush.
Umama wesikhathi esizayo akufanele akhulise izandla ukuze umcengezi ungagubuki umntwana esibelethweni. Abaganga bezinkinga zegazi babedlulisa lesi simanga. Nakuba kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi kusukela phakathi kokukhulelwa namanje akunconywa ukuxhuma izingubo futhi kufinyelele phezulu, njengoba i-amniotic fluid ingaqeda futhi ukuzalwa kusenesikhathi kuzoqala.
Umama wesikhathi esizayo awukwazi ukunquma izinwele. Ngokwenkolelo evamile, lokhu kubhekene nokuzalwa ngaphambi kokuzalwa, ukukhulelwa kwesisu noma ukuzalwa kwengane efile, kusukela ezikhathini zakudala kwakukholelwa ukuthi impilo yonke ibamba izinwele. Izinwele azikaze zibekwe, kuphela ngezifo eziyingozi (isifo, ikholera).
Umama ozayo ngeke akwazi ukuhlala emlenzeni wakhe. I-kid izoba ngumnsalo-umlenze, i-club-footed. Izazi ze-gynecologists nazo aziphakamisi isimo esifanayo. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akuhlangene no-clubfoot. Kule ndawo, ukunikezwa kwegazi kuhlahloka, okungavusa ama-varicose veins.
Umama wesikhathi esizayo akakwazi ukubhekwa kabi, esabekayo futhi embi. Ingane izozalwa ibuhlungu. Futhi lesi sibonakaliso asiyona into engavamile, njengoba sekuyisikhathi eside kufakazelwe ukuthi ingane, esesiswini sikamama, ikwazi ukuzwa yonke imizwelo yayo. Ngakho-ke, kunconywa kakhulu ukuthi omama abavame ukuzithokozisa ngomculo omuhle (umculo we-classic ufanelekile kakhulu), izithombe ze-aesthetic namathafa, futhi uzwele imizwelo emihle. Konke lokhu kuzoba nemiphumela emihle kumlingisi wengane ezayo.
Umama ozayo ngeke akhulume ngokukhulelwa "kusengaphambili kwesikhathi" kungaba jinxed. Idatha yemininingwane ithi ezinyathelweni zakuqala zengozi yokukhulelwa kwesisu iphakeme kunezinye izikhathi. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka ezikhathini zasendulo kwachazwa ukuphazamiseka kwamandla amnyama. Futhi-ke, ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngakho, besaba kuze kube yilapho isisu somama esizayo singabonakala.
Umama ozayo ngeke adle ngasese. Kwakukholelwa ukuthi ingane izoba namahloni. Kuyinto engavamile ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, izintandokazi zokunambitheka komuntu wesifazane zishintsha kokubili ngokuklama kokudla, futhi ngokwandisa ivolumu. Owesifazane uhlazeka yilokhu futhi "ufihla" nge-tidbit. Lokhu kufanele kugwenywe, ngoba ngokudla okunomsoco "okusheshayo" izakhi zigajwa kakhulu.
Umama wesikhathi esizayo akakwazi ukuthunjwa. Kukholelwa ukuthi izithelo zizophela ukukhula.
Umama ozayo ngeke athenge izinto ezinganeni. Ingane izozalwa ifile. Lesi sibonakaliso sihlotshaniswa nokufa okuphezulu kwezinsana ezinsukwini zakudala. Manje le nkolelo-ze ilahlekelwa ukubaluleka kwayo, futhi izimpethu ezinomthokozo omkhulu zikhetha izingubo zezimvuthu zabo zesikhathi esizayo. Vumelani, umama osemncane ngeke akwazi ukuletha injabulo ngokushesha ngemuva kokushiya esibhedlela ukuze aphume esitolo ukuze afune izinto ngenxa yokuqubuka kwakhe.
Umama ozayo ngeke akhulume negama lesikhathi esizayo. Kwakucatshangwa ukuthi amandla angcolile angalimaza ingane.
Umama ozayo ngeke akwazi ukuthinta amakati. Ingane izoba nezitha eziningi. Amakati ayithwali ye-toxoplasmosis, futhi uma exhumana nesilwane, owesifazane okhulelwe angakwazi ukuzibamba, futhi ngokusebenzisa i-placenta iphathise ingane yakhe. I-toxoplasmosis yisifo esithinta isistimu yezinzwa. Ukuze ungabonakali wena nomntwana wakho ingozi enjalo, kungcono ukugwema othintana namakati. Uma umama wesikhathi esizayo enomngane ohlukumezayo, ngeke kube yinto engafanele ukuhlola isilwane esivela kudokotela wezilwane ukuba khona kwe-agent.
Umama wesikhathi esizayo akakwazi ukuxabana nokufunga. Ingane iyoba yimbi. Kuyaziwa ukuthi owesifazane okhulelwe kufanele agweme izimo ezicindezelayo. Ukuthukuthela nokwesaba kuholela ekucindezeni kwegazi eliphezulu, okuthinta kabi impilo yengane yakho.
Umama wesikhathi esizayo ngeke akwazi ukunqamula izithelo ezikhulayo emhlabeni ukuze zikhulelwe isisu.
Umama ozayo ngeke akwazi ukukhuphuka ngefasitela, futhi abuyele phezu kwelogi: ukubeletha okunzima kungenzeka.
Umama wesikhathi esizayo akakwazi ukupompa umkhumbi ongenalutho. Kusho ukuthi ingane ayinayo indawo kuyo.
Futhi lokhu akukona uhlu lokugcina "lokuvinjelwa kwabantu". Kunezibonakaliso ezingenangqondo ngokuphelele. Isibonelo: konke ukukhulelwa angeke kuthinte ubuso bakhe - ubuso bomntwana buzoba nezindawo zokuzalwa. Kulesi simo, ubuso bethu sonke kufanele buhlanganiswe nezindawo zokuzalwa.
Ngakho lihlobene kanjani nezibonakaliso zabantu nezinkolelo-ze, ukukholelwa kulokho okungeke kwenzeke futhi kungenzeki ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa? Wonke umuntu unquma ngokuzimela. Phela, izimpawu zithwala ukuhlakanipha kwezwe, futhi ngokuqinisekile kukhona okusanhlamvu okunengqondo kuwo. Kodwa, kubonakala kimi ukuthi owesifazane okhulelwe kungcono kakhulu ukungalandeli ngokungenangqondo noma yiluphi uhlobo lwezinkolelo-ze, kodwa ukuhambisana nayo yonke imiyalelo nezincomo zikadokotela wakho.