Ukuphazamiseka. Ukucabanga noma kweqiniso?
Ngaphambi kokuqonda, kwakukhona ukukhungatheka ngokocansi noma cha, kubalulekile ukwazi, ukuthi ukujwayelekile noma izinga. Lapha kunengqondo ukushada umlingani kanye nesilinganiso ngasinye. I-criteria eyenza sikwazi ukuhlukanisa isimiso socansi kusuka ekuguleni komzimba singase sihluke, kodwa okokuqala umuntu kufanele akwaneliseke ngokuphila kwakhe kocansi. Uma lokhu kungeke kwenzeke, sekuyisikhathi sokufuna usizo ochwepheshe ozofunda ukuthi yini ebangele ukunganeliseki: ukuzethemba ngokweqile, ukukhathazeka komlingani, izintandokazi ezithandwayo zobulili kubantu, noma kukhona isifo sangempela socansi esiqale noma sihambe kude.
Mhlawumbe, umbuzo wokukhungatheka okucatshangelwayo. Lezi zihlanganisa ukungabi namandla nokungabi namandla okubheka. Isibonelo, ukungabi namandla noma ubuthakathaka bokulungiswa kwabantu kubhekwa njengento engenamandla (namuhla leli gama eliqhakambisayo lishintshwa yi-erectile dysfunction). Kodwa kungenzeka yini ukucabangela ukungabi namandla okuyiqiniso uma kubangelwa izizathu ezicacile ngokuphelele - umlingani ongathandeki, ukukhathala, ukuzethemba, ukwesaba ukujula noma ukuphazanyiswa okuvela ngaphandle?
Ukuphazamiseka ngokobulili besifazane kungathintana nokwesaba ukubhala noma ukungabi nalwazi. Ukunquma ngokuqondile, ukubonisana kuyadingeka, mhlawumbe hhayi eyodwa. Kungenzeka ukuthi akudingeki uphendulele kuphela ochwepheshe bezocansi, kodwa futhi ku-urologist, gynecologist, kwengqondo noma umqondo wezifo zengqondo. Phela, kwakunzima ukucacisa ukuthi yini eyabangela lesi sifo. Into eyodwa icacile: uma uzizwa ungakhululekile endaweni yesisu, imibhangqwana ayikwazi ukubambezeleka ngokuya kudokotela. Mina ngokwami ngizobiza kakhulu.
Izifiso ezingagcwaliseki
Inkinga enkulu yabesifazane yukuthi abavamile ukuya kumthandi wezocansi. Owesifazane usebenza kumadoda angamashumi amahlanu kuchwepheshe. Futhi, ngokujwayelekile, kuyaqondakala ukuthi kungani: ukulingisa ukulungiswa kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kune-orgasm. Amadoda amaningi akakholelwa ngisho ukuthi abafazi bawo abatholi lutho ngesikhathi sokusondelana, okungcono kakhulu, "ukubekezelela". Kuvame kwenzeka: umuntu ucabanga ukuthi umkakhe unesimo senhliziyo, futhi yena, kuvela nje, ungumdlali omnandi nje. Eqinisweni, izinkinga zobulili kubantu besifazane zikhulu kunamadoda, kuphela ukuthi azikho ezingabonwa ngabacwaningi bezocansi. Mhlawumbe, izazi zengqondo noma izingqondo ze-psychotherapists zibandakanya kulokhu, kodwa kuphela odokotela-izifo zokwelapha.
Uma abesifazane futhi beza ehhovisi le-sexopathologist, khona-ke ngokuvamile kaningi ngezikhalazo ngezinkinga ezivamile zobulili - ukungabi nalutho lwe-orgasm (anorgasmia) noma ukwehla kwesifiso socansi (libido). Ngendlela, ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi abesifazane abangu-16% kuphela abathola i-orgasm ngezocansi ngalinye, ngobulili bobulili obubili - 22%, futhi abakaze bahlangane nesisindo se-18%. I-Anorgasmia ingabangelwa ukungabi nalwazi lomlingani, izici zomthethosisekelo, ubuhlungu phakathi kobudlelwane obuseduze, ukusondelana okungalingani komlingani, izilungiselelo zangaphakathi ezingavamile, noma izinqubo zokuvuvukala endaweni yangasese. Ngezinye izikhathi ngokuvamile kuhlukahluka kobucayi. Kunoma yiliphi lalezi zimo, ukuhlolwa okuphelele kwesiguli kuyadingeka.
Vula ngaphansi kwebhande
Sekuyiminyaka engama-30 e-sexopathology, akukho lutho olusha oluvele luvele, futhi amadoda eze ochwepheshe abanezinkinga ezifanayo njengangaphambili: ukulungiswa okubuthakathaka kanye ne-ejaculation ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Nazi ezinye izizathu eziningi. Kumele sicabangele isikhathi esinzima esihlala kuso. Ukucindezela kwaba isici sayo esibalulekile, futhi, okokuqala, ukushaya ngezempilo yomuntu.
Ngokuvamile, amadoda aphakathi kweminyaka engu-20 no-35 ayesecela usizo, nakuba kwenzeka ukuthi eze kokubili nangaphezulu kakhulu. Abanye abantu abasha bayesaba ngemuva kokulala ngokocansi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuvela ukuthi indoda ibizwa isifo socansi iminyaka engama-40 futhi kuphela manje, lapho engaphezu kuka-70, ekugcineni yanquma ukuza.
Muva nje, phakathi kwabantu besilisa kukhona okuthiwa yi-manager syndrome. Umsebenzi onzima nokucindezeleka kubangela ukuthi amadoda angancishiswa ngisho namathuba, nezifiso. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulu kubantu bebhizinisi. Bahlala kaningi ngokuya ocansini kunabo abasebenza kwimodi ekhululekile kwezinye izindawo. Futhi, kusobala, akuyona imali yokukhokha noma yobudala, kodwa umthwalo ngokomzwelo. Amadoda nje "ashise." Khumbula umbuso uma kudingeka uthathe ukuhlolwa okujulile. Ingabe bekukhona ngaphambi kocansi? Esimweni sokucindezeleka, wawuyihora noma amabili, futhi la madoda ahlala izinyanga nezinyanga. Izinkinga kubo - ngokulandelana, ukuvela kwezinkinga zobulili zomshado oshadile.
Ngezinye izikhathi konke kuxazululwa ngokumane: kuhambe, kuphumule, futhi konke kubonakala kujwayelekile. Maye, okwesikhashana - ubuyele emsebenzini, ubuyele nezinkinga. Kodwa ngisho naphakathi kwabantu, akuwona wonke umuntu osheshayo ukuxhumana nathi ukuze asize. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukhona "ochwepheshe" abangazange bahlelwe ohlelweni lokunakekelwa kwezempilo, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, izidakamizwa ezenza bazizwe njengendoda egcwele. Thatha ngisho ne-Viagra edumile. Omunye udokotela wake wathi: "Ukubonakala kweViagra kungukufa kwesifo socansi." Eminyakeni eminingana eyedlule embikweni wenethiwekhi yethu yekhemisi kuye kwaphawula ukuthi lesi sidakamizwa siphakathi kwezingu-10 ezithengiswa kakhulu ezweni. Ake ucabange ukuthi bangaki amadoda abhekana nokukhungatheka! Kodwa, naphezu kwalokhu, iziguli ezithandana ngezocansi zawela kancane. Angifuni abantu baqhubeke bephutha, ngoba akukho muthi onjalo ozokwelapha izimbangela zesifo.
Inkinga eyodwa kokubili
Ekhuluma ngokuvumelana emndenini, mayelana nobuhlobo bomshado, sisho umndeni wonke, lapho inkathazo ihlukaniswe yababili futhi inkinga yowesifazane ohlangene ihlangene ndawonye. Asikwazi ukukhuluma ngezibalo eziqondile zezinkinga zocansi emibhangqweni eshadile ezweni lakithi - ucwaningo olunzulu luyadingeka lapha, futhi lokhu kuyimali eningi. Sinezibalo kuphela ze-West. Ngokuqondene nale nkinga evamile kithi, singakwazi ukwahlulela kuphela, ngokususelwa kwinani labafaka izicelo.
Ngeshwa, eminyakeni yamuva, abesifazane besencane kakhulu ukuthi bangethusa mayelana nezifo zobulili emishadweni yabo. Amadoda asele yodwa ngenkinga yabo, kanti okwamanje, inani lobudlelwane bobulili obuqanjiwe ngaphandle kobulili phakathi kwabesifazane, ngokusho kwesinye isifundo, selukhulile cishe isigamu. Eminyakeni engaba ngu-30 eyedlule isimo sasihlukile. Imindeni yayinamandla, futhi kwakukhona izihlukaniso ezimbalwa. Lo mbhangqwana wagcinana. Lapho indoda ishaqelekile, weza ekwamukeleni nomkakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi abafazi bafika ekuxoxweni kuqala, khona-ke abashade bathunyelwa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, namuhla cishe owesithathu kwabesifazane basebenzisa "ukuxosha" ukuziphatha ngokobulili. Beha kangangokuthi ngisho nendoda enempilo ayikwazi ukwenza ubulili obuvamile. Laba besifazane abakhangwa yizihlobo ezithandana nomuntu, kepha "ngama-dividends" angatholakala. Futhi bayabona umsebenzi wabo wokungazinikeli kanye nomuntu ujabule, kodwa ukufaka kuye umuzwa wecala: "Akuzange kusebenze embhedeni - umsebenzi!" Futhi "usebenza" - izipho, imali noma ingcebo. Futhi uma yena, eqinisweni, eyophuluka, umfazi uzolahlekelwa izinzuzo. Ngakho-ke, laba besifazane futhi abavumeli amadoda ukuba aphuluke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udokotela uzama kangakanani. Kodwa ukuqonda, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzeka noma kwenzeka ngempela, kungenzeka, ngaphandle kokubonisana kuphela. Akukho ndawo emhlabeni wonke abasebenza ngezocansi kuphela abahlanganyela kwezokwelapha kwezokwelapha. Lesi yisenzo sombhangqwana. Futhi ubudlelwane obuqinile emndenini buxhomeke ekutheni indoda nomfazi bazimisele kangakanani ukuhlanganyela emiphakathini yomunye nomunye.