Inkinga yokudakwa ezweni lakithi yayiyilo, futhi ihlala ingaxazululwa futhi iphuthumayo namhlanje. Emindenini eminingi amadoda aqhubeka ephuza, nabafazi babo nezingane ngenxa yalokhu behlupheka futhi bekhala. Khona-ke inkinga yobunxila besifazane nentsha ikhula ngokukhula. Ukukhangisa kwezenhlalakahle, okukhuluma ngendlela yokuphila enempilo, kuhambisana nesiteshi somsakazo kusukela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku, futhi abantu bayakubukela, kodwa ezimweni eziningi kubangele ukuba nesibindi ebusweni babo. Ungathini kulokhu, kodwa inkinga yokudakwa ngokweqile ngeke ixazululwe, futhi ukukhangisa okunjalo ngeke kusize, uma ungazithathi ikhanda futhi ungathathi izinyathelo zokuqeda lesi simkhuba esiyingozi.
Ekudakeni kwabathembekile babo, ezimweni eziningi, iwayini liwela emahlombe abafazi ngokwabo, abangazi ukuthi benzeni nomyeni odakwa, zama ukuxazulula le nkinga ngezigameko. Lapha ungakwazi ngokuphepha futhi uhlanganise ukuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza okuqhubekayo kumyeni wakhe, okugxilwe ngokuphelele esimisweni somndeni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane besaba kakhulu kubayeni babo futhi bazama ukucela kubo okuthile okungenangqondo nokungenakubekezela. Konke lokhu kungadonsela umuntu elasha, lapho eba khona utshwala.
Uma umyeni esedakiwe kakade
Yini okufanele uyenze nabasilisa abadakayo abangaboni izithakazelo hhayi kuphela emndenini wabo, kodwa futhi nokuphila? Utholephi isizathu sokuphuza kwakhe okungapheli nsuku zonke? Yonke le mibuzo ihlushwa abesifazane abaningi, abafisa ukuhambisana nomyeni onjalo. Yiqiniso, esimweni esinjalo ungaya endleleni eyaziwa kakhulu futhi ufune usizo oluvela kumchwepheshe ozohlinzekela ukwelashwa okukhethekile. Kodwa inkinga yonke yukuthi utshwala ngokuvamile luhlobo lwesifo sengqondo ngendlela ethile nokuphulukiswa kuwo, kubalulekile ukwenza okhethekile futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kulungile kumuntu. Futhi izindlela ezinjalo zokulwa nendoda njengodakwa ngokweqile njengokubhalisa utshwala, ukuzisola okukhulu, akusizi kuzo zonke izimo. Ngisho nezindlela eziqashelwa esidlangalaleni zokuphulukisa umyeni ekudakwa, isibonelo, izenzelwa, azikwazi ukusiza okuningi. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuxazulula le nkinga, ukubeka imizamo eminingi kulo. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu kudingekile ukwazi imithetho eyisisekelo yokuziphatha nomyeni udoti.
Imithetho yokuziphatha nomyeni odakiwe
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela le nkinga. Inqubo yokuvuselela iqala nomfazi. Umfazi unesibopho sokubona inkinga bese edlala efihla futhi efuna naye. Kubalulekile ukuthi owesifazane akhulume nomyeni wakhe (uma ehlushwa) ngale ndaba.
Ungaphoqeleli oshade naye ukuba alalele izindaba mayelana nezingozi zokuphuza utshwala. Ngokuvamile zonke izidakamizwa azikhathaleli.
Umkami kumele amise noma yiziphi izimali ezengeziwe zomyeni wakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kwanele ukukhipha izicathulo ezingcolile kumyeni odakiwe futhi umhubhelele embhedeni, ake athole indlela lapho.
Ungathathi umthwalo kumyeni wakho. Myeke anqume ukuthi ukuphuza kuye yonke imali noma cha. Kubalulekile ukuthi kuyisinqumo sakhe, hhayi abesifazane. Ngemva kokuchitha wonke umholo ophuzweni, umyeni kufanele aqonde ngokuzimela, okwenze kabi futhi uye washiya abantu abaseduze ngaphandle kwemali. Kulokhu, unembeza wakhe ungase uqale ukumhlupha.
Umfazi akufanele athathe indima yomsindisi onamandla onke. Umgomo wayo oyinhloko ukusiza umyeni wakhe ngazo zonke izindlela nezindlela zokuthola isifiso sokuqeda ukuxhomeka kotshwala nokuletha lesi sifiso emphumela omuhle.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi njalo udumise kumyeni wakhe ngazo zonke izenzo zakhe ezinhle. Isibonelo, babuyela ekhaya ngesikhathi futhi behlanza, - nansi, isizathu esihle sokudumisa.
Uma umyeni ephiliswa kulokhu kunomlutha, umfazi kudingeka athathe isikhundla salokhu ukuthembela ngento ephazamisayo. Isibonelo, ukuzilibazisa okusha.
Umfazi kufanele azishintshe yena kanye nemvelo yomndeni. Ukuqaphela lezi zinguquko emndenini, indoda ingayeka ukuphuza. Khumbula, isimo esibusa emndenini singakusiza kakhulu ukubuyela ekuthembekeni.