Ama-matchmaker avuzwe ngokusebenza ngokukhululekile. Kodwa isilinganiso esikhulu nakakhulu sokuphumelela kwezobuchwepheshe kwakuyizinombolo zezingqungquthela ayenaso. Lesi sici sokugqoka sasiyimigomo yolwazi kanye nekhono lomdlali wokudlala ukuze baphethe imishado enenzuzo nemishado ejabulisayo. Umdlali womdlalo oqeqeshiwe uye wazi ukuthi kusengaphambili mayelana nabaqeqeshi nabashadile abangaba khona, ubukhulu bomdanso, inhlalakahle yemindeni, abalingiswa bentsha, isithunzi nokungaphumeleli kwezindiza zokuziphatha nezomzimba. Ukuze benze lokhu, kwakudingeka bafumbathise izinceku, abalimi nabanye abasebenzi, kodwa lokhu kutshalwa kwemali, njengombuso, bazilungele ngokwabo ngokushesha ngemuva kokuphela kwesinqumo somshado.
Kuleyo minyaka kuphela abantu abacebile babengase bafinyelele ezinsizakalweni zomdlalo wokudlala: abathengisi, abahlonishwayo. Futhi wonke umzali wayefuna ukunamathela ngempumelelo ingane yakhe, njengoba ehlotshaniswe nomndeni onobuhlobo bakhe bezenhlalakahle obuphakeme noma imali eyengeziwe. Ngokuvamile, imishado ngaphakathi kweklasi efanayo yayivamile. Isibonelo, isibonelo, umshado wenduna ehlonishwayo edumile enentombazane ecebile ephansi.
Sekuyisikhathi eside kusukela kulezo zinsuku zakudala, futhi izinsizakalo zabadlali bezemidlalo zisadingeka. Manje emisebenzini yabo, njengangaphambili, inyunyana yezinhliziyo ezimbili. Kodwa ama-matchmakers zanamuhla, eqinisweni, ahluke kunabokuqala abakudala. Umehluko, mhlawumbe, kuphela lapho kungekho mithetho eminingi yendabuko yemidlalo.
Uma uhlale uhaqwe abantu: emsebenzini, emgwaqeni, ezindaweni zokuthenga, futhi uma ufika ekhaya akekho ozokhuluma naye, ucabanga ngokujulile ngokuphila komndeni. Isizungu siyisijeziso sesikhathi sethu. Nakhu abadlali bokudlala futhi basize abantu abanesizungu bathola umlingani wabo womphefumulo.
Kubonakala sengathi ezweni lanamuhla lobuchwepheshe bezokwazisa, ngisho nangaphandle kokushiya indawo ejwayele, umuntu angazijwayeza futhi abheke abashadile abangaba khona ngokuzimela. Kodwa ukuphola ngokusebenzisa amawebhusayithi akhethekile noma, nakakhulu nakakhulu, izikhangiso zephephandaba zingaba yingozi, hhayi kuphela ukuchitha isikhathi kanye nomzamo, kodwa, esimweni esibi kunazo zonke, ukulahleka kwemali noma impilo. Futhi bangaki abantu abangakwazi ukulinganisela ngokwengqondo ezindaweni ezinjalo? Futhi kuthiwani uma le ntombazane enhle ene-daisies empeleni ingumzingeli wamadoda anenhlanhla enkulu futhi engumthunzi nje? Indima yomdlali we-matchmaker ibaluleke nakakhulu. Umdlali womdlalo wamanje wesimanje kufanele afunde umlingiswa womuntu kusuka kudatha engatholakala ngemva kokuxhumana komuntu siqu. Ngemuva kwalokho, angathola i-pair, ngokusekelwe kule datha yokuqala. Manje abanayo abanomsizi bezinsizakalo njengezinceku. Kubalulekile ukuthembela emininingwaneni yomuntu siqu, izinto eziyisisekelo ze-NLP ne-psychology futhi, "yebo iso lakho eliqeqeshwe" nesipiliyoni. I-clientele eyinhloko yabalingani abacebile nabesilisa nabanempumelelo. Ukufuna ukukhula komsebenzi nokuchuma, babengenaso isikhathi esanele sokuqala ubudlelwane obunzima nokwakha umndeni. Yebo, futhi ngenxa yokuthi ugcwalisa ikhathalogi yendawo yokuphola futhi uchithe isikhathi kubalingani abangalungile i-priori, nayo, imizuzu eyigugu ihamba. Amaminithi aphuma ezinsukwini, izinyanga, iminyaka. Kubantu abacebile abaye benza umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa, baphumelele ngokwemigomo yobuchwepheshe, isikhathi sokudala umndeni onamandla futhi onobungane uyancibilika yonke imizuzu. Lapha umeshi womdlalo uba ngumsizi obalulekile. Ukufuna abalingani abafanelekile, kusekelwe ezingxenyeni zezenhlalakahle kanye nezokubonakalayo zabaphathi bezinsizakalo nabashadile. Abathengisi, empeleni, banamakhono angokwengqondo nokuqonda okungafanelekile ukukhipha ukwaziswa komthengi ocebile nomzingeli ngemali. Noma ukuvimbela ukujwayela kwabantu ababili abangahambisani nobunikazi noma indlela yokuphila, futhi nezinye izinto eziningi ezibalulekile, ngaphandle kobuhle nemali, kufanele zicatshangelwe yi-"procuresses" abanolwazi.
Kuze kube yilapho umuntu ezama ukudala ubudlelwane bomndeni, izinsizakalo zomdlalo womdlalo ozosebenza zizofuneka. Phela, umphumela womsebenzi wakhe uyisibopho senjabulo yomuntu kanye nenhlalakahle yomndeni weklayenti ngalinye ocele usizo.
Yilokho akuyikho, umdlali womdlalo; Ukuthandana nabantu abacebile, uhlela kalula!