Umshado ophelele. Isikhali somyeni? Ngaki kaningi thina, besifazane, siphelelwa amandla yilowo okhethiwe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinhlanhla ezincane nezinhle kakhulu ziqala ukucasula. Angizange ngihlangane nomsebenzi, nginqabe izinhlamvu zezolo ... futhi ubudlelwano sebevele beqala ukuwa. Ngokwezibalo, imishado engaphezu kwama-50% iyahlukana eminyakeni embalwa yokuqala. Ngakho-ke, namuhla imiyalo engu-10 yomfazi omuhle: umfazi othandekayo, umama, umngane, osebenza naye.
Zingaki ezonakalisa ubuhlobo emishadweni ye "civil", engabandakanyi kunoma iyiphi idatha esemthethweni. Amadoda asolwa ngokuthi abafazi abahlulekayo, kanti abafazi bafana namadoda. Ubani ngempela okufanele abekwe icala? Mhlawumbe thina, njengoScarlett O'Hara, "Sihamba Ngomoya" uMargaret Mitchell, kusengaphambili sizama izembatho zethu zegolide ezikhethiwe kanye nanoma yini esingafuni ukubona ngaphansi kwayo umuntu wangempela. Ngokudabukisayo kuza ukudumazeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mzwelo uhambela ama-halves kanye nomyeni omusha futhi uyazibuza: "Futhi ingabe owesifazane ongcono engangishada naye waphi kuphi?" Kungenzeka kudingeke ukuba uzame ukushada naye okhethiwe futhi ungalahlekelwa nguwe "Mina"?
Amadoda afuna konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngokuvamile lezi zinto ziphikisana ngokuphelele, ngakho-ke ngeke kube lula ukuzama. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lwesifazane umyeni wakho ofuna ukukubona.
Umgcini we-hearth
Amadoda amaningi ayifunayo eceleni. Emakhulwini amaningi eminyaka ubulili obuqinile abukhohliwe ukuthi ungathanda kanjani ukudla okumnandi. AmaJalimane asungula indlela enhle yokugcina "umgcini" - Kirche, Kinder, Kuchen (isonto, izingane nekhishi). Njalo isidlo sakusihlwa esisha, imfundo engaqondakali yezingane ekahle nokuthula phakathi komdlalo webhola leqembu lakhe elithandayo. Ingabe isondlo sakho esiseduze nalesi sithombe? Bese uya phambili! Ungayithandi, kungenjalo indoda yendlu izodla kuphela futhi iphumule, kanti nezinye izinjabulo ziya endaweni ehluke ngokuphelele.
Ngomthandi wokwethemba
Lona iphupho eliyimfihlo yendoda ngayinye ngayinye, ngoba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, i-monotony ebonakalayo ebuhlotsheni, akekho oye wakhansela. I-boredom yenza umuntu abheke umuntu ohlukile futhi omusha, omuncu, izinzwa. Izintaba ukuya kwesobunxele ziba njalo, futhi umbhede womshado ukhululekile. Futhi kuthiwani uma udlala umthandi? Ngokwesibonelo, ungacabanga ukuthi lokhu akuyona indoda, kodwa umuntu ongaziwa engaziwa uzofika emva komsebenzi, futhi ahlangane nengxenye yakhe yesibili esembathweni esithakazelisayo futhi ahlele i-candlelight dinner. Manje awuyena umlingani nomfazi odabukisayo, kodwa umthandi othakazelisayo nonomusa ongeke abe nesithakazelo ezindleleni zomndeni. Mhlawumbe ukumangala kwakhe kusihlwa ngeke kuthathwe indawo yelukuluku kuphela, kodwa nangesifiso. Futhi esikhathini esizayo umdlalo onjalo uzokusiza ukuvula omunye nomunye kabusha.
Umama oqaphele
Ukuntuleka kokuzimela kwamadoda kanye nesifiso sabo esinganaki sokunakekelwa nokuvikelwa, njengasebuntwaneni, kuholele ekufuneni lowo okhethiwe. Isikhumbuzo lapho ihembe lakhe eliyintandokazi lilele khona kanye nesinqumo sayo yonke izinkinga zasemakhaya, kuzokusiza ukwakha ubudlelwane obuvumelana nomyeni onjalo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, umuntu kufanele ahlale ekhuluma naye futhi ngokuqinisekile avumelane nanoma yiziphi izinqumo. Lokhu kuzomenza abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyabaluleka. Kodwa usuvele unqume konke, akunjalo? Into eyinhloko ukuthi akazwa sengathi umbono wakhe awunaki.
Iqiniso "Mina"
Le nselele yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, ngoba lapha awudlala, kodwa hlala wena. Zibonise ukuthi indawo yangempela ayiyona elula njengoba ibonakala ekuqaleni. Kulesi simo, impilo yomndeni kuzodingeka iqonde ukuthi yini efunwa ngempela futhi iqondiswa yizifiso. Ubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe ufuna indoda yakho izame ukukwenza uzizwe kahle futhi uthathe indima yomthandi wamaphupho akho? Into esemqoka ukuba ube yedwa. Futhi kuthiwani ngalokhu konke lokhu kuzokwenzeka, impilo yakho ehlangene inquma. Njengomthetho, ukuba yiqiniso phakathi komunye nomunye - lokhu kubudlelwane obuvumelana kakhulu, ngoba akudingeki wenze sengathi uzama ngamaski abanye abantu.