Ubuthakathaka kanye nobuphofu: umzabalazo wokubaluleka

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Sithunjwa yi-aura yobumpofu ngephutha lokuhluleka. Ngoba siyigqoka ngaphakathi futhi ibonisa ekuziphatheni kwethu. Ngomcebo nobumpofu: umzabalazo wokubaluleka unenzuzo kanye nenzuzo.

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Uma kungekho emgqeni , udinga ukuyidala, bese ulwela ukulwa. Yebo, asikholelwa ukuthi nakwanele. Futhi ngempela, emva kwethu sesivele sishaywa. Abacebile banokulindela ukulinda, futhi sinesimo sengqondo sobumpofu.

Abaningi bethu bakhuliswa ngokuntuleka kweSoviet. Ubuthakathaka nobuphofu: umzabalazo wokubaluleka uvumela ngamunye wethu ukuba azizwe ukusekelwa kwengqondo yethu. Izophela, ngeke ithunyelwe, ivinjelwe, ingabelwe, iyancishiswa noma ikhanseliwe. Ngeke kube khona amabhuzu, ilineni, abalimi kanye namathoyizi kaKhisimusi. Siyaqhubeka nokuphila nalokhu kwengqondo, nakuba konke kubonakala sengathi kunokwanele, kodwa asikholelwa kukho. Yingakho akwanele ukuthi wonke umuntu ucabange ukuthi akwanele. Umjikelezo ononya, okufanayo okuqala nathi. Ingcebo ayikho ngaphezu kweyodwa, kodwa uma uwanele. Ngisho noma kukhona ingcebo, ubumpofu obungaphakathi abuvumeli ukuba siphumule.


Abampofu kuphela abesaba ukuthi maduzane bazothunwa inhlalakahle yabo, futhi badinga ubufakazi obuqhubekayo bokuthi "hhayi ubumpofu" babo. Okuphezulu kokunethezeka nokucebile kungokugcina ukungena endizeni, lapho igama lakho lishicilelwa izikhathi eziyisikhombisa ngezilimi ezinhlanu, futhi uziqhenya ngokuziqhenya kwi-saloon yebhizinisi, uzisola kuphela ngokuthi isigaba somnotho sisemsila, futhi akubona bonke abagibeli ababona ukuthi wena wangena ngokuqinile, waphonsa izikhwama ngelogos futhi kancane kancane wangena esihlalweni. Kumele siphume kule ndege isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba kufike umgwaqo bese sihamba singene ebhasi ukuze sithathe umugqa wamasu eminyango. Futhi yeka ukuthi kujabulisa kanjani - ukuphuza isikhathi sehholo lezemidlalo noma ukuthatha indawo yomunye umuntu! Uma ukhansela i-visa yakho, siyayeka ukuhamba, ngubani oyidinga, iYurophu enesidingo, ukuzinikela ngaphandle kokulwa, lapho noma yikuphi ukuvakasha kungathatha futhi kuhambe?


Ubuthakathaka nobumpofu: umzabalazo wobukhulu ufika lapho siqala ukucabanga: awukwazi ukuba nakho konke okufunayo, futhi inhlalakahle yezinto ezibonakalayo ihambisana nokuhlupheka okungokomoya. Ukuziqhenya nokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo kwavela esimweni esijwayelekile, kodwa asihlali ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuhlonipha isiJalimane, uma kungesona isono sokubuyela esitolo esingathandanga izipho zikaKhisimusi. Ngesizwe esivela eningizimu, nathi asikho ngempela: cha, cha, futhi sizoqinisa ifonti emva kwedili lokunethezeka.

Ukuzikhukhumeza okungenasisindo, ukukhathazeka okungajwayelekile, ukuziqhenya okungalungile kanye nezifiso ezingenangqondo yizo zonke izibonakaliso zobumpofu engqondweni. Ngezinye izikhathi lifihliwe njengengokomoya, bese sikwazi ukukhokhela osopolitiki, kodwa sixoxa nodokotela, sakha amasonto, kodwa sithuthukisa imfundo. Mhlawumbe, sicabanga ukuthi uNkulunkulu nohulumeni banomthwalo wokusakazwa, futhi manje nakanjani sizothola okuthile.


I-psychology yengcebo nobumpofu: umzabalazo wokubaluleka, ngisho naphakathi kwabacebile kakhulu, ubonakala ngokwesaba ikusasa, ukungathembeki kwabanye, umzamo nganoma yikuphi ukugcina ukuqongelela nokuqoqa okuthile kwabanye. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ingcebo ewa phansi engozini. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa isitimela sokugcina, esingenakushiywa ngemuva, ngeke kube khona omunye, futhi lokhu akuyazi ukuthi ufike kanjani kulezi zingxenye. Ukuphila kwemali mboleko kuyisikweletu esiqinisekisiwe ukuba sibuyiselwe emuva, njengokungathi yinhlalakahle yesikhashana esbiwe empilweni, ngoba akwanele nhlobo. Abantu abahluphekile abanengqondo abaqondi ukuthi isimiso esithi "lapha futhi manje" asisho ukuthi udinga ukudla konke lapha futhi okwamanje.
Njalo , njengokwokugcina, lokhu kungokwengqondo, hhayi isimiso somzimba. Udinga ukuthola ukwaneliseka okuphezulu ezingeni lezingqondo. Iyini injabulo emotweni eyabizayo, uma udinga ukucabanga ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuthi ungayilungisa kanjani abanye emgwaqweni? Ukwaneliseka ngalokho esikuphuza kunabanye, futhi isembatho sethu sombobo sithungwe esitheni esisodwa, asihlali isikhathi eside. Noma kunjalo, ukuzwa okungenangqondo kobumpofu kudlulela phezulu. Ukwesaba kuphulukisa umbono wokuphila, akunikezi ithuba lokuphila okwamanje, ukukhumbula okwedlule nokwesaba ikusasa.


"Ukuhlukumeza" kwengqondo kubangelwa ukuthi siqeqeshwe ukuba siphile ngezinhloso, hhayi amagugu. Amaphupho ethu, imigomo yilokho esikudingayo. Izindinganiso yilokho konke lokhu okukufunayo. Ngokuvamile sifeza imizamo emikhulu ngokufeza imigomo emikhulu engahambisani namagugu ethu, futhi sinomuzwa wokuthi asizuzanga lutho, sihlale sihluphekile.

Izinto eziningi esizibheka ezivamile. Kuvamile ukuba nezinkinga, ukhathazeke, wesabe futhi ulwe. Kodwa kungokwemvelo - akusikho okwangokwemvelo okwamanje. Ngokuvamile, sesivele sicebile, ngoba siphila. Ukuphila ngokwabo kucebile, futhi konke okukhona kithi kunokwanele, okubaluleke kakhulu - yisikhathi esanele sokuthi siwaqonde lo mcebo, uzizwe, uthande ukunambitheka, umangale, ushukuthele futhi ujabule. Ukushona kwelanga phezu kolwandle kuyinzuzo enkulu kumuntu wezigidi njengoba kunjalo kuwe. Lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukususa amadayimane, ukuthengisa imoto nokunikeza izingubo ezifashisayo. Ungesabi ukwesaba konke. Ungahlali kahle, udinga ukuhlala nomqondo wokuchichima.

Ngabe ungathengisa malini ithuba lokubona, ukuzwa, ukuhamba? Futhi ingakanani ikhono lakho lokuthanda? Izigidi eziyisigidi, i-Gazprom yonke, isigamu se-Google, imikhumbi emibili yezinsika, imayini yedayimani, zonke izingqoqo ezintsha zokugqoka nezicathulo kuze kufike ngo-2045? Cha? Ngakho usuvele ucebile kakhulu.


Imfihlo ilula kakhulu : thina ngokwethu sibeka izinga lethu lokuchuma, ingcebo nobubha: umzabalazo wokuphakama awudluli. Uma simisa ukunquma le bar ngezinga lomunye umuntu, sithola izinga elidingekile lokukhululeka kwengqondo. Ukuceba kusho ukuhlala ngokwemibandela yakho ngokuhambisana namakhono akho, futhi ungabi khona ngokuhambisana nokulinganiselwa nokulindela kwabanye.

Uma unomcebo ngempela, awunayo impahla yokwanele kuphela nezinsiza ezingokomoya - unokuqiniseka ukuthi ungadala ngaphezulu. Awunesabi ukuthi ngeke ulahlekelwe, uma kukhona ukwethemba empilweni, umuzwa wokubuyiselwa, kukhona ikhono lokukwabelana nokunikeza. Induduzo yengqondo, ukwaneliseka ngalokho onakho, nokuthi ungubani, ingxenye yendlela eya enjabulweni. Okunye okunikezwa kuphela ngothando. Ukuze ufinyelele injabulo, udinga ukukhohlwa ngobumpofu, ukuthanda, udinga ukuceba ngempela. Uthando lukwazi ukupha abanye futhi lujabulele. Ngicabanga ukuthi lo wesifazane ogqoke kahle wayeza kimi. Ngizozama ukwabelana ngengcebo yami.