Sebenzisa kumbugs
Ungamhlukumezi, kodwa zama ukuthakazelisa umyalo oyifunayo. Isibonelo: "Uma udla kahle, uzobe uqine futhi uzokwazi ukugibela ibhayisikili ngokushesha". "Uma ulala emini - uzothola amandla, ungahamba uhambo olude e-zoo." Lezi zinkulumo umntwana aziqonda ngokuthi "ubi, awusoze uthole lutho." Lokhu kubangela ukuzithemba nokuzethemba kwamandla akho. Esikhathini esizayo, ingane enjalo cishe ayifuni ukuzama ukuzama isandla sabo esigabeni sezemidlalo noma esikoleni somculo. Ukwenza amaphutha, ingane ikhula futhi ikwazi ukuzethemba. Singamsiza ngemisho: "Zama futhi!"; "Ukuhlukana? Akumangazi, manje sizoyilungisa! ".
Ukuqhathanisa
"U-Masha uphinde futhi, ugeza izandla zakhe ngokwakhe!"; "Bheka umfana - akalokothi alwe!". Ingane iqala ukungabaza - ingabe abazali bayamthanda ngempela? Mhlawumbe, umakhelwane uMas usanda? Awuyikuya kuye kuze kube phakade na? Ngenxa yalokho, esikhundleni sokuthi "isibonelo esihle" ingane ithola ukwesaba nokudideka, futhi esikhundleni sesifiso sokulingisa umakhelwane Mashe - umhawu nesifiso sokuyidonsa njenge-pigtail, ukuze kungabi kuhle kakhulu. Isu elihle kakhulu ukuhlela ukuncintisana kwengane ... naye. Ngenyanga eyedlule wayengazihlanza izandla ngokwakhe - futhi manje waqala: wayengakwazi ukuhamba ngebhayisikili ngonyaka odlule - manje ushayela ngaphandle "kwama-satellites" ... Qala umagazini omuhle wempumelelo futhi uyibuke ngane. Isikhumbuzo sokunqoba kwangaphambili kuzoshukumisela ingane ibe yintsha impumelelo.
Ukudumisa
"Wena ungumuntu ohlakaniphile kimi (owaziyo, omuhle ...); "Lapho uSashka engaphambi kwakho!", Zama ukungadumiseli kanye umntwana ("Ungummangaliso kakhulu kithi"), nezenzo zakhe ("Uke wakha ngokugcwele", "Wenzé konke kahle"). Uma kungenjalo, ingane izobe igxile kakhulu ekuvunyweni kwabanye futhi izofuna ukudumisa, hhayi ukufeza umgomo. Ukwengeza, maduzane wakho omncane uzoba eqenjini lezingane zokuqala (inkulisa, esikoleni), lapho oontanga bengenakwenzeka ukugijima ukubona "inkanyezi" yakhe. Futhi lokhu kungadumazeka kakhulu.
Izinkokhelo
"Yeka ukumemeza - ikhanda lami lizoqhuma!"; "U-ugogo akazange amise inhliziyo!" Futhi t. Ingane ithatha konke ngokwezwi. Izinsana ezinomzwelo nezingokomzwelo zingashintsha - emva kwakho konke, ngenxa yokubonakaliswa okuvelele kwemizwelo, i-momma ingaba yizicucu! I-Karapuzy ngobuwula iyazama: ngokuphakama nokukhala okukhulu, bayoqiniseka ukuthi izinhliziyo zekhanda ziphelele, futhi zizozinaki zonke izingcingo zakho. Kamuva lezi zingane azikwazi ukuzwelana nawe ngesikhathi sokugula - umama wayedla izikhathi eziningi kangangokuba ubuhlungu ... Indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nomntwana othukuthelayo ukuguqula umdlalo. Ukugqashulwa yifulethi ngemisindo yokuqala - vuka uphawule okuthile endlebeni yakho.
Ultimatums
Uma ujwayele umbuso kuphela ngokusebenzisa i-ultimatum, shayela usizo lomdlalo. Isibonelo, isobho liyi-mors, lapho izikebhe zentantathu-imifino. I-"kitty" yakho izoyigwinya ngokuzithandela "
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"Angithandi ukuthanda lokho!"; "Awu, ngubani ozobe engumngane wakhe?"; "Ngeke ulalele - angiyikuthanda!". Akuyona ingane eyodwa le mibhalo ayenzelwe ukuziphatha kahle. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ingane iqala ukuzwa ukwesaba okukhulu nokudideka. Futhi uzama ukubuyisela isithakazelo somama kunoma yiziphi izindlela ezitholakalayo - okungukuthi, ama-whims kanye nama-hysterics. Ngemuva kwalokho, ingane ingacabangi ukuthi uthando lomama noma ukungabi nalutho kuye kuyindaba yokuphila, ngakho-ke akuyona imfanelo emihle! Ukungasho ukuthi ukuxoshwa ngothando kungabangela ukuzethemba okuphansi kwemigomo ende: ingane izokhumbuza ukuthi ngokwayo ayifanele uthando, ngaphandle uma engayikufeza zonke izifiso zabanye. Okubaluleke kunazo zonke kumama kukhona "umthetho wohlelo lolimi": ngokuphathelene nengane, igama elithi "uthando" ne-particle "hhayi" alisetshenzisiwe. Akukho okungafani nomthetho.
Lapho ukuthula kuyigolide
Ufuna ukugxeka umyeni wakho (umkakho, ugogo wengane). Lezi zinkulumo zivame ukuzithuthukisa, lapho into yokugxeka ingekho. "Ubaba akagqoke inqola yakho futhi!"; "Umama manje uzohlangana iminyaka eyikhulu!"; "Ingabe ugogo wakho wakha? Kuphela kuphela! "... Kubonakala kuwe, okuncane akunaki lawo mazwi? Yebo, futhi wabhekisela kubo, ngokujwayelekile, hhayi ingane, ukuhlaselwa, imibhangqwana ekhishwe? Khumbula: zonke lezi zindatshana zifakwa emphefumulweni wengane noma ngendlela yokufutheka (emva kwakho konke, uzizwa engxenyeni kanina nobaba, uma ubaba embi, khona-ke yena ngokwakhe ulungile); noma ngendlela yokungathembeki kuwe ("iso elilodwa, amehlo omunye"). Ukunyundela "okuqhubekayo" kubangela ukuthi isihlobo esicatshangelwayo silahlekelwa inhlonipho ngomntwana. Ngiyakhubeka ngininazala? Khona-ke ungalindeli ukuthi ingane ihlale nayo, iziphatha kahle. Uyakudonsela ukuxoxa nengane phambi kwakhe. Izingane zijwayele ukuzicabangela ukuthi yini abazali bazo abakushoyo ngabo. Ngakho-ke, lapho ingane ishayela ifosholo ngenkuthalo, ungathethi umngane: "Ubuthakathaka," "Kukhona izinyembezi," futhi "Enkulisa naye ahlushwa."