Ukuba ngumndeni, ingane ibona ukuziphatha kwabazali futhi iyayamukela njengendlela evamile. Okusho ukuthi, uma kuleso siko somndeni - "gubha" utshwala hhayi ngamaholide kuphela, kodwa, njalo njalo ngoLwesihlanu kanye nempelasonto; a, ubaba usetshenziswa njalo kusihlwa emva komsebenzi "ukususa ukucindezeleka" ubhiya - inyane lizocabangela utshwala ukuthi liyingxenye yemvelo yokudla kwansuku zonke - njengesinkwa, noma itiye. Futhi, uma abazali beqala ukukhuluma naye ngokuthi ukuphuza kuyingozi - kuyoba ukuzamazama okungenalutho emoyeni. Phela, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungatshela kanjani ingane ngokulimala kotshwala ngendlela efanele. Ngenxa yalokho, abazali abafuna ukuphakamisa isimo sengqondo esifanele kotshwala emntwaneni akufanele benze imikhosi evamile lapho kubantwana. Ungabonisi ukusetshenziswa kotshwala "ngempilo", "ukufudumala," "ekucindezelekeni" - lokhu kungamnika ingane izinkolelo zamanga ngezinzuzo zokuphuza. Ungakhathazeki ukuthi utshwala lungabantu abadala, uma kungenjalo ingane ingaqala ukuphuza ukuze ibonakale ikhulile.
Ungabheka ingane emgwaqweni, njengoba udakwa ubonakala sengathi - ngeshwa, kunezibonelo ezinjalo esikhathini sethu. Ifomu elingajabulisi, elilahlekile lomuntu, ezingutsheni ezingcolile, ngokubukeka okubukeka kahle, inkulumo engavumelani nokuphunga okomuncu - kaningi kunalokho, inomthelela ongenakulibaleka kumntwana (uma kunjalo, uma engaboni lezi zinhlamvu emndenini wakhe).
Futhi, nokho, ukuze kucacise ingane yonke imibono ye-nuances futhi uphendule imibuzo yakhe, kubalulekile ukubamba ingxoxo mayelana nezingozi zotshwala. Ngakho ake sikhulume ngokuthi singatshela kanjani ingane ngezingozi zokuphuza utshwala.
Engxoxweni, gwema ukuqeqesha ama-intonations. Akukho phuzu ekufundiseni noma ekusongiseni ingane. Akudingekile ukuthi: "Utshwala udliwa ngabantu ababi," noma "Abesifazane kuphela abaxoshwa futhi bavunyelwe ukubhema" akuyiqiniso. Uzwa amanga ngolwazi, ingane izoyibuza yonke into. Nikeza ulwazi olunembile nolweqiniso.
Okokuqala, sitshele ukuthi utshwala abuyena umlutha kuphela kwengqondo, kodwa futhi nasezingeni lokuphila. Lokhu kungukuthi, umzimba womuntu oye waba yixhomeke ebubini, uqala uhlelo lokubhujiswa. Qinisekisa ingane ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kabi kotshwala kungabangelwa ukuhlukunyezwa kweziphuzo ezidakayo kuphela, kodwa futhi nomkhuba wokuvimbela ibhodlela likabhiya noma imbiza ye-cocktail ephansi.
Bhala izifo zendabuko zabantu abahlukumeza utshwala. Kodwa, ungagxila ukuthi lezi zifo "zonakalisa" kanjani umzimba womuntu, kodwa yiziphi izinkinga isiguli esithola: ukungakwazi ukuzisebenzisa, ukuwohloka okubonakalayo ekubukeni, njalo njalo. Futhi, ngaphezu kwezifo, utshwala luholela ekushintsheni komuntu. Kusukela kumuntu okhululekile olawula impilo yakhe, ngaphansi kwethonya lokuphuza, umuntu angaba yisigqila esingakwazi ukuphumelela noma yikuphi ukuphumelela, nokulahlekelwa inhlonipho ngomndeni nabangane, noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo.
Tshela ingane ukuthi kuze kube ngu-90% kuzo zonke izenzo zobugebengu ezenziwa ngenkathi zidakiwe. Futhi, abaningi balabo abenza izenzo ezingenakuqhathaniswa, abazange bafune ukwenza lokhu nhlobo. Ngokweqile, ngaphansi kokuthwala utshwala, umuntu "izimpukane" izithiyo zokuzivikela ezingekho, ezimweni ezivamile, eziholela ekuhlaselweni. Izingxabano eziningi ezidabukisayo zazingagwemeka, ngokuba zihlanganyele esimweni esibucayi. Ukudakwa okuyisithulu kuholela ekufeni kwabantu abaningi. Ngabe yiziphi izibalo ezingozini yomgwaqo, abenzi bokuthi abangabantu abangenacala, abaye balandela isondo ngaphansi kotshwala kotshwala.
Thuthukisa izinkolelo ezivamile mayelana nokuphuza utshwala: utshwala alukwazi ukufudumala emakhazeni, aluqeda ukucindezeleka, alugcini ukucindezela kwegazi, alukhulisi amandla futhi aluphili. Utshwala angeke afunde ukuphuza ngokulinganisela - uyakwazi kuphela, ukuyeka ngokuphelele ukuphuza, uma ephathwa futhi ebonisa ukuvinjelwa okuphawulekayo.
Sitshele ngengozi yobuthi obunobuthi obuphansi. Ukuthi utshwala uthenge ematendeni futhi "kusukela phansi" - kungenzeka, kungaba yinto engafaka. Ukusetshenziswa kweziphuzo ezinjalo ezijabulisayo kungadala kakhulu - kusukela ekulahlekelweni kokubona ukulahlekelwa kwempilo.
Ngokukodwa ukhulume isiphuzo sezintandokazi ezisencane - ama-cocktails amathinini asemathinini - ubuthi obusemthethweni. Ikakhulukazi, mayelana nokulimaza kwabo kakhulu - ngokungeziwe kwamanjiniyela. Ukuqukethwe kotshwala kulezi ziphuzo kunamaphesenti angu-1.5 kuya kwangu-2 aphakeme kunezinga laso ebhiya. Futhi izimboni zamakhemikhali ezenzeka kulezi zimbiza ngokuvamile ziyingozi nakakhulu kunalokho, ngokuqondile, utshwala.
Kubalulekile ukuphawula nokuthi, utshwala yibhizinisi elidala imali engenayo. Futhi, ngenkathi izingane ezincane ezingenalutho, zithatha ukukhangisa, zithatha isinqumo ngokuthi "ngubani ozolandela uKlinsky" (c), omalume abadala abangcolile babheka imali (futhi iningi). Futhi, ngiphalaza ngokuphelele ukuthi ezinye izingane zabantwana zilimaza impilo yabo. Ngokuphambene nalokho - lapho intsha isuke ixhomeke emikhiqizweni eyenziwa ngamabhizinisi abo, lo mkhulu uzoba yizikhwama zabo. Kungenxa yale njongo ukuthi ukukhangisa okubhekiswe ezithameli zentsha kususwe: abantu abasha bayajabula, baphuze futhi babheke phambili, "bepholile". Khetha izikhangiso zentsha - ezikhangayo - "zipholile" - zibiza umkhiqizi odumile. Uncle, endleleni, angasebenzisi imikhiqizo yawo - bakhetha iziphuzo ezihle kakhulu.
Qaphela abantu abaphumelelayo babantwana abanokucabanga okukhululekile, ukuphatha kalula izimpilo zabo, hhayi ukuthembela lapho okukhona khona okwamanje. Bona - izwe lonke ezandleni zabo - abanaso isikhathi sokuhlala emnyango ngotshwala. Umuntu ohola impilo enempilo - kaningi amandla amaningi, amandla okufeza imigomo ehleliwe kunabantu abanemikhuba emibi. Ukwengeza, umuntu ongeke ahlasele ingqondo yakhe evulekele amathuba amasha, unezinzuzo eziningi, futhi ngenxa yalokho, impilo ephelele, egcwele.
Indlela yokukhuluma ngengozi yotshwala kumntanakho - umzali ngamunye ngokwakhe uxazulula le nkinga. Kodwa, okokuqala, abantu abadala kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi izingane zithembela lokho abazibonayo ngamehlo abo kunokuba zixoxisane kakhulu nezinkulumo ezifundisayo.