Kusukela ekubelethweni, ukuxhumana okuqinile kwengqondo kusekwa phakathi komama nengane. Yingakho ukucwaninga kwengane yomama nendodana yakhe kubaluleke kakhulu. Sekuyisikhathi eside kufakazelwe ukuthi uma unina engakhokhisi ingane yakhe ngokwanele, kungenzeka ukuthi akakwazi ukukhuluma isikhathi eside, abe namahloni, futhi ekugcineni akhule abe umuntu odidekile futhi othukuthele. Nokho, kwi-psychology ebuhlotsheni phakathi komama nendodana, kunama-nuances amaningi.
Ikakhulu uma umama ekhulisa ingane yedwa. Ngakho-ke, umama kumele abe nokuvumelana kwengqondo, akwazi ukudumisa kuphela, kodwa futhi ajezise ingane, kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi athola indawo ephakathi. Ngempela, ngendodana yami kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi kusukela ngisemncane umama waqonda ukuthi uyindoda yesikhathi esizayo. Ngakho-ke, ebuhlotsheni bendodana yakhe, izindlela eziningi ezifanele ukukhulisa indodakazi azikwazi ukusetshenziswa. Isibonelo, omama abanomdlandla futhi abakhuthele baphazamisa ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo evamile, bese bejezisa, bese beyiphanga ingane, kanye nangezenzo ezifanayo. Ngenxa yalokho, izingane ezinjalo zithola "amadodana ka-mama", okuzo zonke izimpilo zabo zibambelela kumama wazo futhi zifuna ukukhuthaza ukushaywa kwabo. Kodwa omama bomnikazi, abesifazane abanobukhosi ngokuvamile, banqanda zonke izimfanelo zabo ezinganeni, bezama ukukhulisa indodana yabo ngendlela abayifunayo, kuyilapho bengayinaki amakhono akhe nezifiso zakhe. Ezimweni ezinjalo, omama bafuna okungcono kakhulu izingane, kodwa kuvela okuphambene. Ukuze kutholakale ubudlelwane obufanele futhi obuvumelanisiwe nendodana kusukela ebusheni, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde imithetho eyisisekelo eyosiza ukuthi ungabhubhisi amadoda, kepha ukuhlakulela indoda yangempela, hhayi ukugubha.
Isifiso somuntu
Uma umfana engenabo ubaba, umkhulu, umalume noma umngane oseduze womndeni wesilisa kufanele asebenzise isikhathi esiningi naye. Ingane kumele ibone ngaphambi kwakhe ukuthi ilinganisela. Ngeshwa, ngisho nasemikhayeni ephelele, abafana kaningi abanalo imfundo eyanele yamadoda, ngoba ubaba uhlala esebenza, futhi ingane inogogo noma umama. Ukulondolozwa njalo kwabesifazane kuphazamisa isimiso samadoda kuye. Lokhu akuvumelekile. Ngakho-ke, uma kunokwenzeka, vumela indodana iqede isikhathi esiningi noyise noma uyise. Into eyinhloko ukuthi isihlobo ngempela singumuntu ongakwazi futhi okufanele afanelwe.
Uma ingane ingenalo ithuba lokuxhumana namadoda amadala, makabe esechitha isikhathi esiningi nabafana beminyaka yakhe. Kuyasiza futhi kubafana ukufunda izincwadi nokubuka amafilimu, lapho abalingiswa abakhulu bengamadoda wangempela. Unganikeli indodana yakhe izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene ze-melodramas nezikhulu ezinhle. Ngendodana yakhe kungcono ukubukela amafilimu adventure, lapho amadoda ehlakaniphile, aqinile, ngokujwayelekile, abavikeli bangempela. Kodwa ifilimu, lapho udlame oluningi lungcono ukungabonisi. Phela, esemncane umfana angakwazi ukudibanisa kalula izithombe zeqhawe kanye ne-villain.
Ungabambeli ingane "ngengubo"
Lapho ingane ikhula, umama kudingeka afunde ukuvumela indodana ukuba ihambe kuye. I-Psychological of the teenager yakhelwe ngendlela yokuthi uyabona uthando oluningi kakhulu kumama njengomthwalo. Uma umama emthanda umfana kakhulu, kunzima ukuthi axhumane namantombazane futhi abe abangane nabo, ngoba yena ngokwakhe engazi ukuthi umama ugibela njalo ekuphileni kwakhe. Ngakho-ke uma useneminyaka yobuntwana uthatha zonke izinkathazo futhi ube ngowakhe nobaba nomama, udinga ukukhombisa kancane kancane ingane ukuthi umama ungowesifazane futhi uyinsizwa, ngakho kufanele asize unina futhi amhloniphe, kahle, umama, futhi, uzonikeza indodana ithuba lokuzimela futhi elimele izenzo zabo. Ngisho noma ubona ukuthi indodana iphutha, awudingi ukuyilungisa njalo, ngaphandle kokuthi isimo asibalulekile. Ungumuntu, futhi indoda kufanele ikwazi ukulungisa amaphutha akhe futhi ingesabi ukushaywa kwekusasa. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi awuyithandi kangakanani indodana yakho, zama ukuhamba kude, ungabi yingxenye yobuhlobo bakhe nabanye abantu futhi ungamphoqeleli ukuba akhethe phakathi komama nentombi noma umama nabangane. Khumbula ukuthi amantombazane abenakekele ngaso sonke isikhathi akhule abancane futhi asatshiswa, akakwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo obuvamile futhi ajoyine umphakathi.