Wabeletha ingane ephusheni: kuyini?
Iningi lezinguquko ezihlotshaniswa naleso sakhiwo zithatha izincazelo ezinhle kumuntu ophuphayo. Isibonelo, ngokusho kwencwadi yephupho likaMiller, ukuzala umntwana kuyisibonakaliso esihle, ukuletha ukuchuma emndenini, ukuzinza kwezezimali kanye nenqubo yokuzalwa elula empilweni yangempela. Kodwa konke okuchazwayo kuxhomeke eminyakeni emingaki umphuphi, yimuphi ubulili okwakungumntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima ukubeletha, njll.
Ake siqale nonyaka wephupho eliphuphayo. Amantombazane amancane abe umama ephusheni anezincazelo ezimbili. Ngokwencazelo eyodwa, uma le nsizwa encane ibeletha umntwana, khona-ke maduzane uzoshada futhi isimo sephupho sizogcwaliseka empeleni. Umshado uthembisa ukujabula, oqinile futhi omude. Kodwa kwabanye abahumushi kungenzeka ukuba uthole incazelo ehluke kakhulu yephupho, ngokusho ukuthi intombazane iyoba yisisulu senkohliso futhi ithengiswe umngane osondelene noma okhethiwe, othandekayo kuye. Ngomhumushi waseMedea, umuntu angathola incazelo echazayo leli phupho njengengozi yokungena ebuhlotsheni obungenangqondo obungayiholele kunoma yini enhle. Ukushada okufanayo kufaka ubuhlobo obunzima nomlingani nomndeni wakhe. Kodwa uma abaphuphi behamba kalula futhi bengenazo izinkinga, ngokushesha ungalindela ukuthuthukiswa kwezemali. Kwabesifazane asebekhulile, iphupho elinjalo lingamemezela impilo engcono, ukuqeda izifo.
Uma intombazane ibelethwa ephusheni, kuyisibonakaliso sezinkinga ezimnandi, umhlangano nabangani. Akukona ukuthi ngaphandle kwephupho elinjalo umphuphi uzozwa ukuncoma noma ukuvuma okuvela kumuntu omuhle. Kwezinye izincwadi zephupho lesi sibonakaliso sichazwa njengokucaciswa okusheshayo kobudlelwane noma ukuhlaselwa. Ukuzala umfana - ulindele umvuzo wezimali noma ukuthenga okunenzuzo kakhulu. Lesi sakhiwo singasifanekisela amandla nokukhuthazela kokuziphatha, okuzosiza ekunqobeni noma yikuphi ubunzima.
Uma kwakunzima ukubeletha izingane ephusheni kuyisibonakaliso sokunganeliseki ngokuphila, inyama ebuthakathaka. Abesifazane abaphupha isiteleka esinjalo baphele amandla empilweni yangempela, kunemisebenzi eminingi nezinkinga emahlombe abo.
Isakhiwo esibuyela emuva, okungukuthi, ukuzalwa okulula, kusho ukuthi empilweni yakho kukhona umphathi ozoxazulula zonke izinkinga zakho ngenjabulo, akuvikele ekubuneni.
Indlela yokuhumusha uma omunye owesifazane ebeletha ephusheni?
Ukwamukela noma okungenani ukubona ukuzalwa ephusheni kuyisibonakaliso esihle kakhulu somphuphi. Futhi akukhathazi ngempela ukuthi ngubani lo wesifazane empilweni yangempela. Lokhu kungase kube isihlobo sakho, umngane noma ngisho nomfokazi. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, leli phupho lifanekisela impilo enempilo, ngcono ubuhlobo emndenini. Ngemuva kwalokho okubonayo, ungahlela ngokuphepha uhambo oluthandayo oluya ezweni elikude. Noma ubani oqalayo, ohlobene nebhizinisi noma ukufutheka, uzophumelela.
Ukuzala izingane ephusheni akusho neze ukuthi maduze uzofunda ngesimo sakho esithakazelisayo. Kodwa ngisho nokuhumusha okuhlongozwayo kungashintsha kakhulu indlela yokuphila esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.