Ngisho nangemva kokuba ubuhlobo budlulile, kwenzeka ukuthi le nsizwa yangaphambili iyintombazane ephusheni. Uma lokhu kwenzeka ngokujwayelekile, kodwa ngalolu suku intombazane ayikhumbuli ngisho nalokhu, ngakho-ke lokhu kungabuka kakhulu.
Omunye angabona uphawu kulokhu. Ngaphambi kokucabanga ngalokho amadoda asekuqaleni abaphupha ngakho, umuntu kufanele aphendule lo mbuzo: yiziphi imizwelo ebonakala emehlweni omuntu obiza esikhathini esidlule. Ukuphendula lo mbuzo, ngezinye izikhathi ungacacisa ukuthi kungani ngaphambili kwakuvame ukufika ephusheni. Futhi iphuzu liwukuthi iphupho elinjalo lingasho ukuthi umuntu osemusha osemusha intombazane usho okuningi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi intombazane yazama kanjani ukukhipha lo mqondo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kanjani ukufihla imizwa yakhe, umuntu ongenandaba naye unikeza uphawu lokuthi kukhona okudingeka kwenziwe. Mhlawumbe ukuhlukana kwakubangelwa ubuwula, kodwa mhlawumbe intombazane izisola ngekhefu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi, i-subconscious iphoqa umuntu ukuba athathe isinyathelo esinqumayo. Mhlawumbe, kuyadingeka ukunqoba ukuziqhenya bese unquma ngesinyathelo sokuqala, esinyathelweni sokuqala ebuhlotsheni obusha nomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili.
Kodwa kukhona nesimo esihluke ngokuphelele: intombazane isivele inomshado omusha, uyajabula, kodwa lowo owayengumthandi wangaphambili usafika ebusuku. Kulokhu, mhlawumbe, izinkumbulo zangaphambili zingumhlangano noma uphawu.
Thola ukuthi amaphupho omyeni wangaphambili angakanani mayelana nalesi sihloko
Kungani umfana wangaphambili ephupha?
Ukuze unqume ukuthi ngabe kunjalo yini, udinga ukucabanga ngendoda yangaphambili bese unquma ukuthi yini yokuqala efika engqondweni ekucabangeni ngaye. Mhlawumbe kuyoba ubulili obuhle. Khona-ke amaphupho anjalo azobonisa ngokuqondile ukuthi ebuhlotsheni bamanje intombazane ayinaso uthando nokuthandana. Kodwa kuleso simo, umlingani wangaphambili, ngokubanzi, akekho, uyisigqila nje sobulili. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi intombazane kumele ibuke ubuhlobo bayo nalesosizwa esasimanje, ikakhulukazi abasondelene nabo. Mhlawumbe omunye kufanele acabange ngokuhlukahluka, ukuzimela kanye nokuhlola.
Esinye isizathu singaba ubuhlobo obungapheli. Uma ephusheni ubuhlobo buqondiswa ngokuyinhloko, intombazane icasukile, ihlambalaza okuthile, khona-ke kusobala ukuthi ubuhlobo abuzange bulethwe esiphethweni esinengqondo, kwakungekho iphuzu.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula, kungase kube khona ukuphoqeleka, ukufihla ama-grudges. Kulesi simo, ingqondo engenakuqondisisa izama ukuyeka imizwelo engathandeki kakhulu, kodwa ingqondo ayivumeli.
Amaphupho anjalo aphakama ngokukhethekile uma ukuhlukana kungenxa yecala lentombazane futhi uyayibona. Kumele uqaphele ukuthi lowo owayengumthandi naye ungabona lolu hlobo lwamaphupho. Ukungabeki iphuzu ngokuvamile kuholela eqinisweni lokuthi bobabili abalingani bafuna ekugcineni bathole ubuhlobo, ake kube okungenani ephusheni. Uma amaphupho ayenjalo, khona-ke intombazane kufanele ikhulume ngokuphila kwangempela kanye neyakho ngaphambili bese inkinga izoxazululwa.
Kwenzeka ukuthi insizwa iphupha ngokubukeka okuguqukile. Lokhu kungase kube ushintsho oluncane ekubukeni, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi uyagula okuthile. Amaphupho anjalo avame ukukhuluma ngezinguquko empilweni, futhi zingenzeka kokubili empilweni yentombazane, futhi empilweni yomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili. Mhlawumbe, izindaba zizovela kuye. Iphupho elinjalo ngezinye izikhathi likhuluma ngomhlangano ozayo wabalingani bokuqala, nokuthi lo mhlangano uzophela kanjani.
Yebo, okukhethwa kukho okugcina: iphupho elinomuntu oyedwa - liphupho nje futhi akukho lutho. Ngezinye izikhathi inkumbulo iphonsa izinkumbulo ezihlukahlukene zezenzakalo ezedlule, ezingasabangeli noma yimiphi imizwelo. Isibonelo, isizathu samanothi e-nostalgic angaba ukubuka kwezithombe ezindala, lapho umbhangqwana owakhona ojabule ushicilelwe khona. Noma mhlawumbe endaweni ethile intombazane ithokoza i-cologne ayithandayo noma izwa ingoma ayithandayo. Kunoma yikuphi, noma yikuphi imbangela yalezi zinkumbulo, azisho ukuthi intombazane ilangazelela isoka langaphambili futhi lifuna ukubuyisana naye. Lezi ziyizinkumbulo ezisheshayo nezijabulisayo zokuphila okudlule, futhi izimpendulo kuphela "imiqulu" lezi zenzakalo ephusheni.
Ezinye izinhlobo zezimpikiswano mayelana namaphupho anjalo akufanele ziphakame: amaphupho asendulo kuphela ngenxa yokuthi intombazane ishiye izinkumbulo eziningi ngaye. Esikhathini esizayo, konke kuzobe sekukhohliwe kancane kancane, kuyoba nemicimbi emisha nemizwelo ezoba ngaphezu kwamadala futhi amaphupho azophela.
