Sibeletha ndawonye? Izinzuzo nokuqeda? Ukwesaba noma ukusekelwa? "Ukuzalwa okuhlangene: uthini odokotela?" - isihloko sesihloko sethu samanje.
Muva nje eRussia imindeni emisha eningi ikhetha ukuzalwa okuhlangene. Namuhla kunzima ukumangaza umuntu onesifiso sabazali besikhathi esizayo sokubeletha ndawonye. Uma umbhangqwana oshadile wakhulela ingane yakhe ngothando nangokuqonda, isifiso sabo siqondakala kahle, futhi ukuvunyelwa kuphela kufanelwe. Ukuzalwa kokubambisana akuyona nje ukungaboni kahle komuntu osondelene nomuntu obelethwe ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Akekho ababukeleyo, bonke abahlanganyeli abakhuthele ekuzalweni kwengane. Indima yesikhathi esizayo ubaba ngesikhathi sokuzalwa ngokuhlanganyela kufana nendima yomama. Abazali abaye babhekana nomcimbi obalulekile kangaka emndenini ngamunye bese bevusa ingane ekuthandeni nasekuqondeni jikelele. Okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle ngesikhathi sokusebenzisana nomyeni wakho kungaba yinye yezikhathi ezikhunjulwa kakhulu zokuphila.
Indlela yokuthola umzali owaziyo iqala ukwakha ebuntwaneni bonke, futhi yakhiwa esibonelweni sobuhlobo nabazali (hhayi njalo okuhle, kepha lokhu nakho nakho), ubudlelwano nomuntu othandekayo. Ngesikhathi sokuzalwa okuhlangene ukuthi ubuhlobo beqiniso bomshado bubonakala. Kodwa ungahambi ezibelethweni ezihlangene ukuze uxazulule noma yiziphi izinkinga zomndeni, ngaleyo ndlela awukwazi ukuzikhuphula kuphela, kodwa futhi ufake inkambo evamile yenqubo yesizukulwane. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukukhuluma kusengaphambili nomunye nomunye, ubudlelwano obuqotho phakathi kwabashadile kule ndaba kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho ngaphambi kokuya kulesi sinyathelo, zibuze umbuzo: "Kungani ngidinga lokhu?"
Kwenzeka ukuthi imibhangqwana esezitholele ukuzalwa ngokuhlanganyela idumazeka kakhulu kubo, futhi lokhu kungenzeka uma umuntu engaqondi ngokugcwele izisusa nezifiso zabo. Kukhona abesifazane abafuna ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo emndenini, ukukhombisa oshade naye ngokuthi yikuphi ukuhlukunyezwa okumelwe ahambe nakho, noma nethemba ukuthi emva kokuzalwa ngokuhlanganyela upapa uzothatha ingxenye ekhuthele ekunakekeleni ingane.
Kodwa lezi akuzona zonke izisusa, ngoba ukugqugquzela okunjalo kungase kuholele emiphumeleni emibi, futhi lo muntu uzomane asuke kuwe nakumntwana. Akudingekile ukuphoqa indoda yakhe ukuba ibelethe, uma engayifuni. Amadoda amaningi nje elwa futhi acabange ukuthi ukubeletha kungabesifazane kuphela.
Kuyinto efiselekayo ukuthi abashade baqeqeshelwe ukuzalwa komlingani. Manje kukhona izifundo eziningi ezikhethekile zabesifazane ekubelethweni kanye nabalingani babo. Ukuze uthole inkambo evamile yokusebenza, indoda kufanele iqaphele, cabanga ngezigaba zokubeletha.
Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuba owesifazane ameme umyeni wakhe ukuthi azalwe yisifiso sokuzwa ukusekelwa komuntu othandekayo. Indoda kufanele inikeze ukusekelwa kokuziphatha, ihlalise umkayo, isize njengoba kudingeka, uqhube umsizi owehlisa ubuhlungu.
Ngokuvamile, lapho bekhuluma ngokuzalwa komlingani, basho umlingani, kodwa akunjalo. Umlingani ekubelethweni kungaba ngumama noma udadewabo. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, kufanele kube owesifazane oye wadlulela ekuzalweni, kuzoba lula ukusiza umama ekubelethweni.
Ukuthi ubaba ozayo uzohlanganyela ekubelethweni, umbhangqwana ngamunye uyazikhethela. Kukhona imindeni lapho abazali bawela khona konke ukukhulelwa nokubeletha ngesandla. Esimweni esinjalo, ubaba usiza ngokuzithandela ekubelethweni, futhi, ngenxa yalokho, uthatha ingxenye esebenzayo ekunakekeleni ingane esanda kuzalwa.
Kweminye imindeni, kuthathwa isinqumo mayelana nokuba khona kukapapa esigodini sokubeletha, ngesikhathi sokusebenza, futhi ubaba engahambi ngokuqondile ekuzalweni, uzophinde ahlangane nomndeni ngokushesha ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane. Amanye ala madoda ayengakulungeli ukuya ekubelethweni, kodwa akakwazi ukulinda ukubona ingane yakhe futhi ahlale ezinsukwini ezimbalwa zokuqala esibhedlela nomkakhe. Kunezimo, ubukhona bukababa kanye nokusebenza kwesigaba se-cearean, lapho upapa enakekela konke ukunakekelwa kwengane, ngenkathi umama esuka e-anesthesia. Umndeni ngamunye ukhetha ukhetho olufanele ngokwabo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukukhetha kokubeletha komlingani kubhalwe ngokugcwele futhi ngokuzithandela.
Akumangalisi ukuthi: "Abazali abajabulayo banabantwana abajabulayo." Zonke izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye babuthana ndawonye ukulungiselela ukuzalwa kwengane esilinde isikhathi eside, ngothando lokunakekelwa komunye nomunye nangalokhu engakazalwa ingane encane. Futhi ngempela, umlingo omkhulu wothando ngukuzalwa komuntu omusha, okuhlangene nokuthanda unina nobaba wakhe.