Eqinisweni, kulabo ontanga, manje, kunjalo, kodwa kwabanye abantu bayiziqiniso ezithakazelisayo ezivela empilweni yabantu abasha. Kwenzekani empilweni yabantu abasha? Iyini ukubaluleka kwentsha? Iziphi amacala nokubukwa okuthakazelisayo okubenza benze ngendlela ethile? Yiziphi amaqiniso nezici ezithinta ukuthuthukiswa nokuthuthukiswa kwazo?
Ukukhuluma ngokuphila kwabantu abasha, kufanelekile ukuma emibhalweni emithathu efana nobulili, uthando nokuphuza utshwala. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi kubantu abasha la maqondana aphutha futhi alahlekelwe yinani. Yiqiniso, amaqiniso amaningi aqinisekisa lokhu. Ingxenye ethile yabasha bayeka ukufuna izinhlangothi ezithakazelisayo, imizwa ejulile, ukuzilibazisa nokunye okunjalo. Iningi labo lilinganisa ubulili ngothando, futhi ungalokothi ukhohlwe ngotshwala.
Kodwa, eqinisweni, akubona bonke abantu abasha abacabanga kanjalo. Isibonelo, ake sikhulume ngocansi. Kukholelwa ukuthi amantombazane amaningi aqala ukulala ngokocansi eminyakeni eyishumi nanhlanu noma eyisithupha. Yiqiniso, esizukulwaneni esidala lokhu akumukeleki, kodwa kudingeke ukuthi uphenye ukuthi kungani lokhu kuyilokho. Yiqiniso, kunezintombi ezincane ezifunda amabhulogi amaningi futhi zilalele izintombi ezingenalutho ezikholelwa ukuthi ubuntombi kuyinkinga okufanele iqedwe. Ngakho baqala ukulala nabo cishe wonke umuntu olandelanayo, bese behlupheka kuwo. Kodwa ungacabangi ukuthi wonke amantombazane amancane akholelwa futhi enza ngale ndlela. Kukhona labo abathatha lolu daba ngokungathí sina, nakuba bebheka lokho. Ngamane nje, intsha yanamuhla iyakhula kakhulu kakhulu nangaphambili kunesizukulwane esidlule. Ngakho-ke, izifiso zabo ziyahlukahluka. Amantombazane abe engathandeki nontanga, ngoba abafana, abaneminyaka eyi-15 kuya kweyishumi nesikhombisa, basabantwana. Bafuna abantu abavele benento ethile empilweni yabo futhi baphathe ubudlelwano ngokujulile. Ngakho-ke, bakhetha labo asebekhulile ngeminyaka emihlanu noma eyisithupha. Leyo yinkinga nje ukuthi abafana kule minyaka bafuna ukuba nobulili obuvamile futhi amantombazane kufanele anqume ukuthi ukulungele yini ukuhamba ngenxa yomuntu othandekayo. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi amantombazane amaningi anquma ngalesi sinyathelo, kuphela ngenxa yothando lomfana, empeleni, engakulungele lokhu. Ngakho-ke, bangaba nezinkinga ezihlukahlukene ngokuphathelene nobulili, izinkimbinkimbi zivele, futhi abafana, bengatholi ukwaneliseka, baqale ukushintsha. Kulokhu, akuzona zonke amantombazane amancane angaqaphela ukuthi icala labo alikho kulokhu. Kulula nje, insizwa ayinayo isipiliyoni nokubekezela ukulinda isikhathi esifanele futhi wenze konke okulungile.
Futhi, kusukela kulokhu, kungenzeka ukuba udlule embuzweni wesibili - umbuzo ophathelene nothando. Manje, amantombazane amaningi adumazekile kulo mzwelo, ngoba abantu bayeka ukuzama ukusithola futhi baziphathe njengabafana. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi labesifazane ngokwabo kufanele basolwe ngalokhu, nakuba kude nakho konke lokhu kubonakala. Ukufinyelela okulula kuyinkinga enkulu yentsha yanamuhla. Amadoda ayeka ukuhlonipha abesifazane nokuthatha umthwalo kubo. Bakuthola kulula ukushiya intombazane futhi bathole omunye ozolala naye, kunokulinda aze alungele. Kanti futhi, iningi labantu alinandaba nokukhipha izisu futhi bacabange ukuthi lokhu akuyona inkinga yabo nhlobo.
Kodwa, kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi akubona bonke abantu abanjalo. Kukhona amantombazane, futhi ngokuvamile abantu abanjalo bahlangana phakathi kwalabo abaneminyaka engamashumi amabili ubudala, abathinta ukuzwa nemiqondo ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele. Bakholelwa ukuthi uthando akasoze lwakhiwa kuphela ngesifiso sangempela futhi silungele ukulinda intombazane ethandekayo njengoba kudingeka.
Futhi, lesi sigaba sabantu abasha sinesibopho sokukhulelwa kwengane futhi silungele ukuthatha imithwalo yabo. Baqonda ingozi egcwele yokukhipha izisu futhi, kaningi kunalokho, baphathe kabi kakhulu. Kunzima ukusho ukuthi kungani le minyaka ihlukile kwabanye. Cishe, lezi zingane zaqala ukuzwa ukunambitheka kwempilo yabantu abadala kanye nesikhathi beseneminyaka engamashumi amabili, basebenayo kakade, beqaphela ukuthi imizwa nemibono ibaluleke kakhulu kunezocansi nokuphuza utshwala.
Ngotshwala, le ndaba nayo iyathakazelisa kakhulu. Kungashiwo ukuthi labo abangafundile esikoleni noma abafuna ukuba yingxenye ethile yamasiko bakhishwa ebhodleleni. Abantu abasha abanjalo bayaqiniseka ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuphumula ngaphandle kokuphuza. Futhi, kukhona labo abaphila ngendlela enjalo eminyakeni eyishumi neshumi nesikhombisa futhi manje, sebefinyelele eminyakeni engamashumi amabili, baqaphela ukuthi kungcono ukuphumula ezikhungweni ezihle futhi baphuze iwayini elibizayo, kunokuba babhekwe emabhentshini ewayini le-port ngaphandle kokucabanga ngekusasa. Futhi, kukhona amantombazane namantombazane eneminyaka eyishumi nanhlanu ubudala abathanda izincwadi ezinhle nesayensi, kakade kule minyaka bayazi ukuthi yini abayifunayo futhi ngokucophelela abafuni ukulimaza impilo yabo ngotshwala nogwayi. Ngendlela, kuyiphutha ukukholelwa ukuthi izingane ezinjalo ziyi-outcasts namabhodlela. Abaningi babo, ngokuphambene nalokho, banalo ukuthandwa nokuhlonishwa hhayi kontanga yabo kuphela, kodwa futhi nabantwana abadala. Ngokuvamile, kumibuthano evamile yentsha manje sekuyisimfashini ukungabhemi noma ukuphuza, kodwa ukudlala ezemidlalo nokuhola impilo enempilo.
Ngakho-ke, uma ubheka intsha yanamuhla, ungacabangi ukuthi bonke bacatshangelwe ubulili nokuphuza utshwala. Eqinisweni, kanti eneminyaka eyishumi nesithupha ubudala, amantombazane amancane ayazi ukuthi bangamthanda kanjani ngempela, kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi cabanga ngobukhulu bezindaba mayelana nobulili nemiphumela yabo. Futhi bayazi ukuthi bangamukela kanjani usizi nokudumazeka emadodeni ngokuqinile, ngaphandle kokudakwa noma ukuzama ukusika imithi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akubona bonke abantu abacabanga kuphela ngocansi nanoma ubani. Kukhona labo abathandana isikhathi eside kakhulu, besisindo futhi banquma konke, kodwa-ke bayathanda iminyaka eminingi futhi sebekulungele ukuqonda nokusekela intombi yabo kuzo zonke izimo. Futhi ungaphuzi nabangane nsuku zonke, ungacabangi ngokutadisha, ukusebenza nekusasa. Lapha intsha enjalo iyithakazelisa kakhulu. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi likhona, okumangazayo, okuthakazelisayo futhi, ngokungangabazeki, kuyamjabulisa.