Singabheka kanjani ukugcina ubudlelwane obuseduze nengane ngesikhathi sokukhula kwakhe? Ungamtshela kanjani ukuthi wena, njengamanye akekho, uyamfisa injabulo?
Lapho esekhulile, ingane inomuzwa wokuthi izinkinga zakhe zinjalo emhlabeni wonke kangangokuba yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukuzixazulula. Lapha kufanele ufike ekuhlanguleni, kodwa ungabonakali. Ungatshele ingane ukuthi yenzeni, makenze zonke izinqumo ngokwakhe. Kumele kuqala ube ngumngane omdala, kodwa hhayi othisha oqinile. Intombazane ayisona umntwana, uyakwazi ukuphuma ezinkingeni zakhe zokuqala ngokwakhe. Ube khona lapho, uzobonga ukubamba iqhaza kwakho.
Abafana abanemfihlo nezimfihlo abazigcina ngokucophelela futhi abavumeli abazali ukuba bafunde noma yini. Nika ingane ilungelo lokuhola impilo yakhe, ngoba ngale ndlela uyakhula. Kodwa nokho udinga ukuqaphela izenzakalo ezijwayelekile zokuphila kwakhe komuntu siqu. Ukuze wenze lokhu, ungalungiselela kusihlwa kwesambulo. Buka i-movie ndawonye, hamba u-skating-skating, uhlale ku-cafe. Ukuchitha isikhathi okuhlangene kumisa intsha ukuba ingagwegwesi. Ungamphoqeleli ukuthi akutshele okuthile, ziqale: mtshele ngothando lwakho lwesikole sokuqala, ukuthi ubhala kanjani izinkondlo noma ngasese ngomoya wakhe ngesikhathi sakhe, bese umbuza. Mtshele ukuthi awunandaba neze ezindabeni zakhe.
Ngezinye izikhathi intsha ikhetha abangane abazali babo abangawuthandi kakhulu. Uma ngabe ingane iqalile ukuxhumana nenkampani embi, izivimbelo zakho zingathuthukisa isimo kuphela: angenza konke ukukukhathaza, ukukhombisa ukuthi usuvele esemdala, futhi unelungelo lokukhetha abangane bakhe. Kuyoba ngcono uma wena esimweni esifanele ubonisa ukwehluleka kwabangane bakhe, ababona konke ngaphandle kwakhe. Uma kubhekene nezinto ezinzulu ezifana nodakwa nezidakamizwa, isimo sihlukile. Lapha udinga "cha" esicacile futhi ebukhali (futhi owesilisa ongcono). Lapho umvuthwandaba wokuqala wokufutheka nentukuthelo idlulayo, zama ukuyisa okuthile kwengane. Cabanga ngalokho akuthandayo ukukwenza futhi, ngalesi sizathu, ufike ngokuzilibazisa ndawonye. Ukuzilibazisa kubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana, akusebenzi nje kuphela ngendlela eqhubekayo, kodwa futhi kuyakha isimo sengqondo esifanele sokuziphendulela ngokwakhe - intombazane iqala ukuzibona njengobuntu bento enenjongo. Ngezinye izikhathi ukukhetha okulungile kokuzilibazisa kwenza ingane ibe nenjongo ekuphileni.
Yichitha isikhathi esiningi, yenza imisebenzi ehlangene: hlambulula ndawonye, upheke okuthile okumnandi, hamba ezitolo, hamba, ukhulume. Kubalulekile ukunikeza umfana umbono wakhe, nokuba nengxenye ekuxazululeni izinkinga zakhe. Siseduze kakhulu.
Mhlawumbe inkinga enkulu kunomuntu osemusha ukubonakala kwakhe. Abasha (ikakhulukazi amantombazane) bahlale benganelisekile ngezinguquko ezihlobene nobudala ezivame ukuthinta ubuso babo: isikhumba samafutha, izibungu. Chaza ingane ukuthi yonke into ihamba ngalokhu, ekugcineni konke kuyophendukela ngakwesokudla, akufanele uqaphele ukuhlekwa yontanga, kungcono ukwelapha konke ngokuhlekisa. Ngemuva kwalokho, zonke izinkukhu ezihle ziphuma emanzini amabi.
Inkathi yokukhula iyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke ekuphileni. Dlulisa kanye nomntanakho, umsize kukho konke, ungamgxeka, ube umngane wakhe omuhle, bese konke okusemndenini wakho kuzoba kuhle.