Okokuqala, chaza ngokucacile isizathu sokuhamba komuntu othandekayo noma othandekayo wakho. Njengoba kuqala udinge ukuqonda imbangela, bese usuvele ubheke indlela yokuphuma.
Ngokuvamile sikhohlwa mayelana nezici zobungqingili besifazane nabesilisa. Njengoba bethi, amadoda avela ku-Mars, nabesifazane baseVenus, ngakho kunzima ukuba baqonde. Kodwa ungakwazi ^ Lapha into esemqoka ukuqonda izinto ezithile.
Uma ukhuluma ngemizwa, zama ukuziqonda kuqala futhi uqonde ukuthi yini okukushukumisayo: isifiso, uthando, ukuzizwa kwempi, ukuphindisela, njll.
Kunezibonelo eziningi ezivela ekuphileni, kodwa sizobe sicaphuna esisodwa.
Enye intombazane yathandana nomfana owayebonakala ekhethekile. Konke bekungeke kube yinto, kodwa kwenzeke ukuthi wakhulelwa. Wayengafuni ingane, ngakho-ke waya ekukhipha isisu. Amaphilisi ambalwa kanye nakho konke ukulungele. Nge-naivety yakhe, wacabanga ukuthi bazohlala ndawonye. Kodwa wayenamanye amacebo kulokhu. Wamshiya engazi umphumela wokukhipha isisu. Ngemuva kwalokho, wazama ngaphandle ukuyibuyisela ...
Futhi nasi isibonelo sesibili. Enye intombazane yahlangana nesoka lakhe iminyaka emithathu. Babonakala beba nobuhlobo obuhle, kodwa ngandlela-thile waqala ukubona ukuthi wayengafuni kakhulu ukumvakashela. Kwakukhona ukungabaza kokuqala. Ngokushesha waqala ukuchitha isikhathi nabangane nezintombi, njengoba esho. Futhi kwakuyinto enhle yeqiniso, uma kungenjalo kulowo onjalo intombi yakhe. Baye baba abangane kusukela ebuntwaneni futhi akukho okwenzekile. Kodwa intombi yakhe isivele ihlangana nabo izikhathi ezimbalwa e-cafe, yamukela "ngendlela enobungane," njengoba beyithanda ukuphendula. Kodwa amehlo awakwazi ukuqamba amanga, kodwa lapha kwakukhona iqiniso ebusweni. Wayiphonsa, futhi wangena endlini yakhe ngosuku olulandelayo futhi enezinhlobonhlobo zamakhamera akhe ayithandayo. Kodwa, hayi, akazange athethelele ... Ngaphambi kwakhe kwakukhona umbuzo: kanjani ukuyibuyisela futhi uhlele ubudlelwano nomuntu othandekayo?
Amadoda acabanga ukuthi i-roses, isipho namazwi amahle yilokho owesifazane kudingeka aphinde athole uthando futhi ahlele ubuhlobo, kodwa aphutha kakhulu. Intuition yowesifazane yinto eyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa ayiqambi amanga. Futhi ngokushesha sizizwa ushintsho oluncane kukhethiweyo wethu. Ngakho-ke, amazwi angamazwi ahlukumeze kakhulu inhliziyo nenhliziyo yethu, futhi lokhu akufanelekile noma yimuphi umuntu.
Okwesibili, zibuze: kuyadingeka yini ukubuyisela lolu thando futhi uqale ubudlelwano nomuntu othandekayo? Kusukela esimweni esichazwe ngenhla kucacile ukuthi uthando lwalo ngakwesinye isandla, kanye nesithakazelo komunye. Wayemthanda, futhi wavuma ukuba amthande. Futhi ngakho ebuhlotsheni abaningi. Kodwa sikhohlwe ukuzibuza umbuzo: kungani ubuyela? Ingabe sidinga ngempela lokhu? Ikhefu eliphukile alisabanjwanga ndawonye, futhi uma liphumelela, ukuthi ukuqhuma kuzohlala kusa, futhi kuzokhumbuza ngokwayo.
Okwesithathu, khumbula ukuthi eduze kwakho kukhona abantu abaningi, abangane abalungele ukukusiza futhi bakusekele. Sicela uthintane nabangani bakho. Ukuphazamisa okwesikhashana, futhi uzozizwa ungcono. Futhi-ke ngemicabango emisha zama ukuqonda isimo.
Uma isimo sinzima kangangokuthi wena ngokwakho awukwazi ukuyiqonda, khona-ke kufanele uvakashele isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo onolwazi ozozama ukusiza.
Ochwepheshe onokuhlangenwe nakho, yebo, ngeke akunike uhlelo oluqondile lwezenzo zakho, kodwa kuzosiza ukunquma amanye amaqiniso ebuhlotsheni bakho nomlingani wakho. Uzokusiza wenze ukhetho oluhle, unike izibonelo. Ngokuvamile izimo zengqondo azinikezi izixazululo zenkinga, kodwa zama ukuletha umuntu kulokho.
Into eyinhloko ukuthi, kholwa ukuthi konke kuyoba kuhle! Imicabango emihle iheha abantu abalungile.
Uma unquma ukubuyisela uthando, lo muntu, yanele ezenzweni zakho. Kufanele ngokucacile uqaphele izenzo zakho. Abanye abantu abazi nje ukuthi bathande kanjani futhi akukho lutho olwenziwe lapha. Ngisho nokukhulelwa kuye, hhayi iqiniso lokuthi uzohlala nawe. Futhi uma ihlala, inyanga izohlala enye futhi isashiya. Ngakho cabanga ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele othandweni.