Yimuphi umehluko phakathi kweminyaka phakathi kwezingane okubhekwa njengesihle kakhulu ekukhulumeni kwabo kanye nentuthuko, sizame ukuthola ndawonye.
Uma umehluko eminyakeni yobudala kusukela ngonyaka owodwa kuya eminyakeni emibili,-ke, kulokhu, kunomthwalo omkhulu empilweni yomama, njengoba ephethe futhi ebeletha cishe ingane eyodwa. Ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane yesibili, umzimba womama unobuthakathaka kabili futhi udinga ukulala ngokwanele nokuphumula. Ngakho-ke, lapho izingane zingaphansi kwe-pogodki, umthwalo wezemfundo upapa uzoba mkhulu kakhulu, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni emithathu yokuqala, lapho izingane zisencike futhi zidinga ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa njalo. Ukukhulisa izingane ezimbili, sekuphelile, kunzima. Lungiselela ukuthi ubhekene nezindleko zempahla emibili.
Kodwa izingane-pogodki ngokuvamile ziba abangane abangcono kakhulu kusukela zisencane. Bavame ukuvakashela inkulisa efanayo nesikole. Unamathoyizi avamile, abangane abavamile. Ngokubili bahlakulela ngokushesha kunontanga yabo. Ukuhluka kwabo kweminyaka kuncane, ngakho-ke akukho mqondo ophawulekayo we "ophezulu" no "omncane". Ingane encane iyoba lula ukuyiqonda izwe, ngoba ikhona yonke into yomdala.
Uma umehluko eneminyaka yezingane eminyakeni engu-3-4, kulula kubazali ukusabalalisa isikhathi sabo phakathi kwabo, ngoba ingane esekhulile isenele ngokwanele, iya enkulisa, inabangane nezintshisekelo. Umama angathuthukisa ngokuthula. Nokho, akudingekile ukuba ukhohlwe ukuthi ingane endala isengumntwana, idinga ukunakekelwa kwabazali nokuthandwa. Ngokuvamile izingane ezindala ziba nomona ngabazali ezinganeni ezincane, uma zibona ukuthi lo mkhakha uhlinzekwa kakhulu. Ukuze uqhubeke lo mhawu ungathinti ubuhlobo phakathi kwezingane, tshela ingane endala ukuthi uyamthanda futhi, ukuthi lapho esemncane kakhulu, ubaba nomama bayamnakekela ngokucophelela.
Emaqenjini eneminyaka engu-3-4 ubudala, ingane endala isivele yakwazi ukukusiza ngane, ukufeza izabelo zakho. Kodwa ungalokothi ushiye izingane zodwa. Esikhathini esizayo, ingane encane ifuna ukubukeka njengowokuqala kukho konke, iphinda ngemva kwayo. Ngokuvamile abathandi abantu abadala, bazama ngazo zonke izindlela ukuze bagweme ukuxhumana nabancane, okuholela ekuxabaneni njalo. Abazali akufanele bazinaki izingane, ngakho-ke phakathi kwabo akukho mhawu.
Uma umehluko eminyakeni yobudala yezingane kudlula iminyaka engu-4, kuba lula nakakhulu kubazali. Imindeni eminingi ilinde ngalesi sikhathi: iminyaka engu-4-5, bese ibeletha ingane yesibili. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, abazali bangathuthukisa izimo zabo zokuphila, bafunde, bathuthukise izinga lezemisebenzi, futhi baqinise ukuphila komndeni wabo. Ukuhluka okunjalo phakathi kweminyaka phakathi kwezingane kuzoba kuhle kulabo bazali ababeletha ingane yokuqala lapho bebancane futhi behlangabezana nezinkinga eziningi ekuqaleni kokuphila komndeni.
Ezinganeni, umehluko omkhulu weminyaka yobudala awunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba ingane endala iminyaka engama-4-5 noma ngaphezulu isetshenziselwa ukuzicabangela ukuthi ingumntwana kuphela futhi ithole ukunakekelwa kukapapa nomama. Uthola kunzima ukuvumelanisa nokuthi kungekudala kuyoba nelinye ilungu lomndeni angabelane nabo kuphela ngabazali bakhe, kodwa futhi amathoyizi, ngisho nekamelo. Lokhu akukwenzeka njalo. Ngokuvamile izingane ezindala zifuna udadewabo noma udadewabo, futhi zijabula kakhulu lapho efika emhlabeni. Injabulo yabo ngokushesha iholela ekudumeni ngenxa yokuthi umfowenu osanda kuzalwa akakwazi ukufunda noma ukudlala ngomshini wokubhala. Lapho ingane isetshenziselwa ingane, konke kuhamba endaweni, uyasiza umama wayo ngenjabulo ekunakekeleni ingane. Ezinganeni ezincane, ukwehlukana kwemikhawulo enkulu eminyaka yilapho ngokukhulisa kwabazali okwandisiwe, bavame ukukhula beyingozi.
Ekhuluma ngokungagwegwesi, akukho mpela umehluko ophelele phakathi kweminyaka. Kumele ugxile ekuhloleni kwakho kwabazali futhi ube nezingane kuphela uma usukulungele ukubafundisa ngothando nokuqonda.