Inamba yesiteleka 1. Uthando oluthandekayo.
Ngomfanekiso wabathandekayo bakho noma othandekayo bakho kukhona imizwelo emihle kuphela. Ingxenye yesibili ingokomoya zonke izenzo nezenzo. Uma kukhona izimo ezingathandeki, awusoze ucasulile othandekayo.
Isigaba 2. Ezinye zokupholisa.
Uma othandekayo engekho, khona-ke angeke akhunjulwe, kodwa uma evela, khona-ke kukhona ukuvuka ngokomzwelo.
Isigaba No. 3. Ukupholisa okuqhubekayo kwemizwa.
Ukubonakala komuntu othandekayo akukwanele ukudala imizwelo emihle. Manje sidinga amagama abathandekayo, izipho, ukunakwa, ukuxolisa, njll. Kulesi sigaba kunconywa ukuthi omunye wabashade ahambe ngohambo lwebhizinisi noma athathe iholidi elifushane ukuze ubuhlobo babuyele esiteji sokuqala.
Isigaba No. 4. Ukuqhubeka nokupholisa ubuhlobo.
Ukuba khona komlingani kubangela ukucasuka, ngokuvamile kungenakuqonda. Izimpawu zomuntu nemikhuba yomlingani kubonakala njengokwehluleka okukhulu, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukuphikisana ngokweqile kuvela njalo.
Inombolo yesiteji 5. Ubuhlobo obubi.
Ukuba khona komlingani kukhulisa uhlobo lwalo hlobo lobuhlobo. Umlingani uyeka ukuthandeka, othandekayo, ingelosi futhi uba ngumuntu ohlambalaza, obalayo, u-scoundrel, njll. Ukuphila okuhlangene nomuntu oshade naye kuyeka ukuba nencazelo. Ngokuvamile kulesi sigaba, inombolo enkulu yezicelo zesehlukaniso zithunyelwa. Ummeli ucabangela lesi simo. Ngokuvamile ubuhlobo besigaba sesihlanu buqediwe.
Kodwa-ke, uma kukhona izithiyo, izici eziqinisayo, futhi ngaphambi kokuhlukanisa ubudlelwane abufinyeleli, bese kuthi emva kwesikhashana, njengoba kungenangqondo, izigaba zobuhlobo ziphindaphindiwe, kodwa, nakanjani, ezingeni elisha.
Uma lezi zindinganiso zomuntu ngamunye zivumelana, khona-ke lokhu kubi futhi cishe ubuhlobo buzophela ngesehlukaniso. Kungcono uma izigaba zihlangene ngezigaba eziphambene. Umndeni onjalo unamathuba amaningi okusinda.
Kungenzeka yini ukunciphisa ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane phakathi kwalabo abashadile ukuze isigaba sesine nesesihlanu singafiki? Izazi zengqondo zenza ucwaningo, olwakhiwa ekudaleni izimo ezihle. Imiphumela elandelayo yatholwa: abaphendulile baphawula ebuhlotsheni nomlingani ngokulingana okungaqondakali kothando, okunzima nokubuhlungu kokubili.
Isikhathi sokunciphisa okuhlangenwe nakho ngokomzwelo yisici ngisho nangonyaka wokuqala wokuphila okuhlangene. Imiphumela enjalo itholakale ngemuva kokuhlelwa igrafu. Noma kunjalo, "ukwehluleka" othandweni akukabi kakhulu futhi akuhlali njalo. Ngemuva kwalesi sikhathi esifushane, ubuhlobo obuncane bokuxhumana buqala.
Ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila komndeni ngesikhathi sokuthi "ukwehluleka" emibonweni yothando kungase kungakapheli. Ukudideka kunganciphisa kuphela izinyembezi ezinokuthula nokububula okujulile.
Inhlanganisela ehle kunazo zonke yezinguquko esimweni somzwelo somshado, uma umehluko phakathi kwama frequency uphindwe kabili. Kuphela "ukwehluleka" othandweni lomlingani oyedwa kuzovinjelwa uthando oluphezulu lomunye. Ngalokhu kuhlanganiswa, umlingani oyedwa uzothonywa isimo sengqondo esibi lapho ebheka umkakhe ngesimo esingathandeki, omunye uhambisana nesimo sengqondo esihle, ngakho-ke uhlose ukuthethelela konke, futhi uzama ukufakazela isimo sengqondo esibi somyeni kuye.