Imizwelo engcolile yomuntu nokukhwabanisa

Uma sithola intukuthelo, ukufutheka, ukuthukuthela, ukwesaba, kubonakala sengathi sinezinketho ezimbili zokuziphatha. Owokuqala: "ukwenza ubuso obuhle nomdlalo omubi", okungukuthi, noma yikuphi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, kunjengokuthi konke kuhamba kahle. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, isu lokucindezela imizwelo emibi ligcwele izinkinga zempilo ezimbi, kuze kube yizinzwa, izilonda ze-peptic, izifo zenhliziyo.

Phela, ukungabi nalutho okungabonakali akuqali ngokwalo - futhi, kungenakho ithuba lokuphuma ngaphandle, kuqondisa amandla ayo okulimaza ngaphakathi, imizwelo yabantu engalungile nokukhwabanisa.

Emashumini eminyaka edlule, ngokuthuthukiswa kwesayensi ye-psychosomatics, omunye umqondo uyaqhubeka uthanda: ukuveza ngokucacile imizwa (!) Yomuntu, imizwa yabantu engalungile nokukhwabanisa. Ngeshwa, abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi ukuvulela izindlela zokuvula izinkinga zakho ezingokomzwelo kwabanye.

Zomi zombili lezi zindlela zokuziphatha kwemizwelo emibi yomuntu nokukhwabanisa zidlulele, futhi isholide segolide ukuqonda uhlobo lwemizwelo yabo noma ukuthola indlela eyakhayo kubo noma ukuphindaphinda okungalungile ukuba kube okuhle. Siphakamisa ukuthi uhlole indlela ongayenza ngayo uma imizwelo eyonakalisayo ikuhlukumeza wena, ingane yakho, noma uma uhlala emphakathini wokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.


Imvelo yemizwelo

Izazi zengqondo ziyazi ukuthi i-palette yemizwelo emibi, imizwelo emibi yomuntu nokukhwabanisa kukhanya kakhulu nokubanzi kunokuthokoza: lokhu kuyimfihlo yesimo sethu sengqondo, esimiswe ngumlando wesintu. Ezikhathini zasendulo intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ukufutheka kwakubalulekile: uma kufanele, ungathukutheli ngaphambi kwempi, ngeke usinqobe isitha. Futhi uma ungesabi ngesikhathi, ngeke ube nesikhathi sokubalekela i-tiger. Ngaphezu kwalokho, okuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile kuyadingeka ukuba sizinze, silinganise isimo sethu sangaphakathi: ngemuva kokwenyuka okujabulisayo kulandela ukuncipha okuncane.

Noma kunjalo, sonke siyazizwa ngezikhathi ezithile ukufutheka, ukudumazeka, ukufutheka, intukuthelo, ukucasuka, imizwelo emibi yomuntu nokukhwabanisa. Into eyinhloko ukuthi imizwelo akufanele iholele thina, kodwa thina. IBhayibheli lithi: "Ungoni lapho ulaka." Ngamanye amazwi, ukuzwa intukuthelo kuyimvelo kumuntu. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nokuhlala kuleli zwe, ungakwazi futhi kufanele wenze ngendlela efanele.


Funda ukuxoxa

Thatha kalula ukuthi awukwazi ukuhlala unomphela esimweni sothando lokuthula futhi ujabulele ngokuphelele konke okwenzeka kuwe. Kukhona njalo into engakuthola ngaphandle kwe-rut. Nokho, kuxhomeke kuwe ngokwakho, kulokho ozokuqondisa amandla akho angqondo: ukubhujiswa noma indalo. Okokuqala, yeka ukuba namahloni ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okungalungile, imizwelo emibi yomuntu nobudlova - bayingxenye yakho, futhi unelungelo kubo. Uma imizwelo igxila, zama ukuhlaziya okwenzekile futhi uqonde ukuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zezenzakalo ezibangele ukusabela kwentukuthelo, ukwesaba noma intukuthelo engxenyeni yakho. Ake sithi umyeni wakho ukhohlwe ngesikhumbuzo somshado wakho futhi ukhubekile. Kodwa-ke, indlela yokubangela ukuphendula okunjalo akukhona neze iqiniso lokuthi "amnesia" ekhethiwe yabathembekile, kodwa iqiniso lokuthi wena, cishe, uzizwa ungadingekile futhi awubalulekile. Cabanga ngendlela ongakugwema ngayo ukubonakaliswa okungenjalo esikhathini esizayo. Mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukukhumbuza umlingani wakho ngemikhosi ezayo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa - futhi lokho sekuphela? Futhi uyeke ukucabanga "othandekayo": uyakuthanda, kodwa ukhohliwe ngempela ngalolo suku!


Ukunciphisa imizwelo emibi yomuntu kanye nobuqili ngendlela eyakhayo. Emphakathini kunezinhlobo ezigunyaziwe zokuziphatha okusemthethweni: ibhola noma ikhonsathi lapho ungakhamuluka khona; ibhokisi, lapho ungakwazi ukushaya umphikisi-ophikisayo enhliziyweni; imidlalo ehlukene yeqembu. Okokugcina, ekushiseni kokuxabana, lapho unomuzwa wokuthi into engavumeleki ukuthi ivele ephuma ezindebeni zakho, ugijimele ekamelweni elilandelayo bese uphamela emilenzeni, ugibele kahle ngezinyawo zakho noma uphaqe ithoyizi elithambile - intukuthelo iphuma emzimbeni futhi ifakwe ukulwa nabathandekayo kuyokwehliswa.

Ngingathanda ukubona izizathu zomzwelo omubi womuntu nokukhwabanisa kube kancane na? Zama ukuzivocavoca okuthiwa yebo ephelele. Ngesikhathi esingaphansi kwezinsuku ezintathu, sebenzisa isikhundla sokuvumelana okuphelele nakho konke okwenzeka empilweni yakho. Isibonelo, uhlehlile imoto. Cabanga ngalokhu, mhlawumbe ngale ndlela, iNkosi ikuvikela ezenzakalweni ezingathandeki emgwaqeni. Okwamanje, imoto izobe isilungiswa, ungashiya imitha nsuku zonke ukuze uhambe kancane futhi uhambe ngezinyawo, ngesigqi esithokozile, ngomculo ojabule kumdlali - amasonto ambalwa okuqeqeshwa, futhi ngeke kube khona ukulandelela kwamafutha "ebusika"! Ekuqaleni, ukwenza inani elithi "yebo" ngeke kube lula, kungase kube nokuphazamiseka - ungaphelelwa ithemba, vele ubuyele endleleni efanele, uma nje uqaphela ukuthi ushiye.


Umzimba nomphefumulo

Smile, uhlambalaza!

Ukungajabuli phakade, ukucasuka kalula, bonke abantu bonke ababucayi kubonakala sengathi bashukunyiswa umgomo owodwa: ukukhipha abantu ngaphandle kwabo. "Ama-vampires" angokomsebenzi kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi nakweyiphi inkampani, ngegama, kunoma yikuphi ukuqoqa. Abakwazi ukuphunyuka noma yikuphi - kodwa ungakwazi futhi kufanele ufunde ukuhlangana nabo nabo.

Okokuqala, uzijwayele ukungangeni emicabangweni emibi yomuntu nokukhwabanisa isimo somzwelo somunye umuntu. Lapho nje ushukukuthele, uphendule lo mbuzo obukhali okufanayo - cabanga ukuthi umshushisi ufezile: wakukhipha ibhalansi. Awuthandi? Yenzani ngenye indlela. Ukuhleka kobuhle, ukumomotheka, ukunethezeka okunomusa kungaphazamisa noma yikuphi ukuhamba. Ngendlela, wena, nakanjani, akudingeki uqhudelane nomenzi wephutha futhi uchithe isikhathi namandla ukuze wenze i-retort ibe yinto engavamile. Awazi yini ukuthi ungathini? Mane ukumomotheka futhi ugubha amahlombe akho.

Umuntu onesizotha unamandla kakhulu ngokwengqondo futhi ophephile kakhulu kunalowo obuso bakhe buhlanekezwa yi-grimace of anger. Ukuzijabulisa okunempilo kunciphisa ukungezwani futhi kweso leso sikhathi kukhululeka isimo - futhi isimo esibi silahlekelwa amandla phezu kwethu.

Uma ngabe uhlambalaza kanye ne-boorish behlangana ngandlela-thile ngendlela yakho ngokusobala, cabanga ngalokhu. Abantu abangenangqondo kanye nezenzakalo "ezidlulayo" empilweni yethu akukwenzeka: yonke imihlangano, zonke izimo (ngisho nokungajabulisi) zingasifundisa okuthile okubalulekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezungezile - lesi sibuko sethu: lokho okuthinta kakhulu abanye abantu yilokho esingakwamukeli futhi ngeke sikwazi ukuthethelela. Futhi mhlawumbe abahlukumezi bavele empilweni yakho ukuze ekugcineni ufunde ukuthi ungasho kanjani ngokucacile ukuthi "cha" futhi uvikele imingcele yendawo yakho yengqondo? Kulesi simo, kufanele usebenze ngokuzethemba kwakho - uma umuntu egcwele ukuzethemba kwangaphakathi, inani lalabo abafisa ukugibela entanyeni ngandlela-thile liyancipha.

Ungazibekeli umgomo wokufundisa kabusha umhlukumezi: ukuziphatha kuyamangalisa ngokwabo, futhi abantu abacasulayo benza njengenqamu ebomvu ngenkunzi. Ekugcineni, asikwazi ukuguqula umhlaba - kodwa uma sishintsha isimo sethu sengqondo kulokho okwenzekayo, izimangaliso zenzeka!

Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ingxoxo iphenduka ingxabano, imizwelo emibi yomuntu nokukhwabanisa, zama ukushiya indawo yenkinga: ngaphansi kwesizathu esicacile, shiya imizuzu embalwa ekamelweni. Uma kungekho ndlela yokwenza lokhu, zama ukuzihlukanisa nomhlukumezi, qala ukukhuluma ngezwi elizolile, eliphihliwe (izwi elithambile labesifazane besifazane). Zama ukuma (uhlale) ngokuqondile ngokumelene nomphikisi - kungcono ukuhlala eceleni.


Ingabe kunenkinga? Kukhona isisombululo!

Umona wabantu abaphumelele kakhulu

Yeka ukuziqhathanisa nabanye! Esikhundleni sokuhlupheka ngenxa yokungapheleli kokuphila kwakho, gxila ekuthuthukiseni ukufaneleka kwakho.

Ukusola okwandisiwe

Nathi kwenzeka lokho esikulindele, ngakho uzivimbele ngokweqile ukupheqa ekhanda lakho elibi. Funda ukwethemba impilo.

Ukuphulwa kwamasu (ukuqhuma kwezimoto, ukubambezeleka, njll)

Zivumelanise nezimo futhi, izinhlelo zokwakha, zihlale zicabangela amathuba okuba nengozi esicasulayo, imizwelo emibi yomuntu nokukhwabanisa. Thatha i-audiobook noma i-mini-glider ukuze ugcwalise okulindelweyo.


Ukulindela okungekho emthethweni

Abantu abakuzungezile abakwazi ukuqagela izifiso zakho - azizona izingcingo. Ngakho bazise ukuthi yini oyifunayo - ngokuthula nangaphandle kokukhononda. Futhi khumbula ukuthi abanye abantu akudingeki bahlangabezane nazo zonke izidingo zakho.


Ukwehla okungalindelekile

Ehlisiwe esitokisini noma emgqeni? Sumama bese uyiphonsa ekhanda lakho! Intukuthelo yakho iphuca omunye umndeni? Yiphinde ibe yinto enhle futhi ayihambisani neze nokuphikisana (umyeni ohlambalaza uzinikezele ukwenza umsizi, ingane engalaleli iphazamiseke inganekwane).


Inkinga yesikhathi kuwo wonke amahlangothi

Ngezikhathi ezithile "ukuvinjelwa" kwenzeke kithi ngamunye. Udinga ukubuyisela izinto eziyinkulungwane ngesikhathi esisodwa, uzama okusemandleni akho, unzima futhi, ekugcineni, uzizwa ukuthi ulahlekelwe ukulawula isimo. Kanjani lapha ukugcina phansi phansi kwezinyawo zakho? Relax! Isikhathi esiningi sisekhona, ongasheshe asheshe. Ngakho yenza uhlu lwazo zonke izindaba zakho, usakaze ngokubaluleka nokuphuthuma futhi uqale ngento eyodwa. Ngakho, ngaphandle kokusheshisa, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo uzobhekana nazo zonke "ama-debris" akho.


Ingane ayilaleli

Ngalolo suku, olalelayo nabathandekayo, namuhla u-crumb uba yindoda enenkani, ephendula zonke iziphakamiso zakho: "Cha". Kuyinto evamile - empilweni yazo zonke izinsizwa zikhona izikhathi lapho ehamba njengomuntu. Ukuphazamiseka kokuhlukunyezwa nokungalaleli kubonakala

ezinganeni eziningi, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni emithathu, iminyaka eyisithupha nesikhombisa, futhi futhi eminyakeni yobudala. Noma kunjalo ukuvumelana ne-tomboy encane kuyinto yangempela. Hlola isimo emndenini, ngoba ukuziphatha kwendodana noma indodakazi kubonisa njalo i-microclimate endlini. Ukungalaleli, ukulwa, ukuhlambalaza kungaba umphumela wokufundisa ngokweqile, "impi", ukuphikisana okuphakathi kwabazali noma, ngokuphambene, ukushisa ngokomzwelo kumama noma ubaba. Kulesi simo, ukuxazulula inkinga yemizwelo emibi yomuntu nokukhwabanisa, abazali kudingeka babuyekeze, okokuqala, indlela yabo yokucabanga.

Zama ukuqonda imizwa yengane, ukubheka isimo ngamehlo akhe. Kanye nomntwana, bhala inganekwane noma uxoxe ngomdwebo we-crumb. Mbuze imibuzo: "Kungani umlingisi oyinhloko enza lokhu futhi njalo?", "Ufunani?", "Kuthatha ukuthini ukuthi athole lokho akufunayo?". Izimpendulo ze-karapuza zizokusiza uqonde izidingo zakhe zangempela.

"Usuku ngokuphambene" usuku (isibonelo, kanye ngesonto), uma konke kuvunyelwe: ukuhamba ngaphambi kwamini kuma-pajama, ungawagezi, ungawashayi amazinyo akho, udle i-ayisikhilimu yasemini, uphonse imithwalo bese udwetshwe ngomlomo womama. Le ndlela ivumela ingane ukuba iphonswe ingxabano eqoqiwe, isuse umphumela wesithelo esinqatshelwe, iqinisa ukwethembeka phakathi kwabazali nengane yabo.


Njengesijeziso semicabango emibi yomuntu nokukhwabanisa, zama ukungasebenzisi amandla. Yiqiniso, sonke singabantu futhi wonke umama wehlelwa ukukhipha ukubekezela kwakhe nopapa. Kodwa-ke, ungatholi ukuthwala isijeziso se-corporal-kulokhu, ingqondo yengane engacatshangelwayo izolinganiswa: ekuphenduleni amandla, ungasebenzisa ngisho namandla amakhulu, futhi kuyoba ngokokubona kwakho. Kungcono uma njengesijeziso, hhayi imizwelo engalungile yabantu kanye nokunyanyisa (ukuma ekhoneni, ukushaya ama-cuffs) kusetshenziselwa, kodwa ukulahla okuthile okuhle (ukubukela imidwebo, ukuthenga ithoyizi entsha, njll).