Futhi ngifuna ukushintsha okuthile ... Ukuphila kubaluleke kangakanani kithi? Uphendula kanjani kubo? Ngesikhathi sokuqalisa futhi kuphi ukuqala impilo entsha kumuntu wanamuhla? Emaphethelweni entwasahlobo - isikhathi sokuvuselela kunazo zonke sonyaka - sihlangene ochwepheshe ekushintsheni kokuphila etafuleni lethu elivamile lendabuko.
U-Bulat Okudzhava uthe wonke umuntu ufuna ukuthi kwenzeke, futhi wonke umuntu wesaba ukuthi kukhona okuzokwenzeka. Kuyini isidingo sethu sokushintsha, yini esiyidingayo? Ukushintsha kuyisisusa sokuphila komuntu okugcwele. Ngakho-ke, umuntu ozimele ngokwabo, oziqinisekisile njalo uzama ukuvuselela. Kodwa akuzona zonke izinguquko ezamukelekile. Akuyona ingozi ukuthi isiqalekiso samaShayina sithi: "Vumela uhlale esikhathini sokushintsha." Nakuba abantu abaqinile, ngisho nasezimo ezinzima, bangathola okuthile okuwusizo futhi okuhle kubo.
Into eyinhloko ukukhumbula ukuthi ekuzikhuliseni, njengokuhamba ngemoto: kungakanani umoya okhona, ngokujula nokubhapathizwa okunjalo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukuze uqalise uhambo olusha, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi unayo yini imithombo yokwanela ukuze usinde izinguquko ekuphileni ngokulahlekelwa okungenani.
Ukuguqulwa kuyadingeka futhi kuhlose. Zixhunywe neqiniso lokuthi umuntu uyingxenye yesikhala sangaphandle esithinta. Sizalelwe ukuguqulwa, zihloswe ekulimeni kwethu. Kodwa ukwenza lezi zinguquko empilweni yakho kuxhomeke kumuntu ngokwakhe. Uzwa yini ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthi ashintshe indlela yakhe yokuphila futhi aqale impilo entsha kumuntu wanamuhla, ecabanga, esondela ezenzakalweni, noma uhamba ngenkani endleleni ephangiwe? Lokhu kunquma isiphetho sakhe nokuthuthukiswa okuqhubekayo. Isikhathi ngasinye sokubunjwa kwethu kanye noshintsho silungiselela isigaba esilandelayo sokuphila. Uma senza ngokulungile ngesikhathi esinikeziwe, esikhathini esizayo sizoba nethuba lokuzibonela ngokugcwele.
Umuntu unezidingo ezimbili eziyisisekelo - ukuzinza nokushintsha. Esikhathini sethu esedlule nesimanje, kanye nokuphila okusha komuntu wanamuhla, kuqiniswa ubuntu bethu futhi kusenze sikwazi lokho esiyikho. Uma lokhu kuguquka, sizobhekana nokungaziwa, ukusimama okujwayelekile okuzohle kuphulwe, okusha kuzodingeka kusetshenziswe futhi ngandlela-thile kulungiselelwe. Ngakho-ke, sonke isikhathi esiphila ekuphikisaneni: futhi ngifuna umkhiqizo omusha, futhi owesabekayo.
Ekuphileni kwanoma imuphi umuntu, okungenani kanye uma kwenzeka isimo "siphundukile", lapho ngisho nenhlalakahle ingapheli ukuletha injabulo. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Ngokuvamile, lokhu kwenzeka ngoba abantu balahlekelwa injongo nencazelo yempilo yabo. Ngokuphambene, njengesibonelo, ungacabanga ngabantu abadala. Iyiphi imfihlo yokuphila kwabo isikhathi eside? Eqinisweni lokuthi bahlale bebeka imigomo nemigomo emisha, bafika ephusheni abangazange bavumele ukuba baphumule futhi balahlekelwe isithakazelo ekuphileni. Ngakho-ke kuyisifiso sokuba wonke umuntu, ngisho nasemsebenzini wansuku zonke, athole okuthile okusha futhi akhe impilo entsha kumuntu wanamuhla.
Le nkathi yokuphumula iwumphefumulo, okufana nokushintsha, okudingekayo. Usilungiselela ukuguqulwa okusha kwekusasa. Thina, kulezi zinsuku, sithanda ukungena ekunganaki, siba nzima kakhulu, asifuni lutho, noma asikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi yini esiyifunayo. Kodwa ngalesi sikhathi kubalulekile ukuthi ungahlali embhedeni, kodwa ugcine impumulo yakho emoyeni okungenani into okufanele uyenze. Isibonelo, hamba endaweni ethile, hamba, hamba uhambo lwebhizinisi, ukuze uthole izifundo zokuvuselela. Ungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nomthandekayo wakho ngqo lapho ukhona khona manje ukungenqikazi ukuhamba, noma kukhona umsebenzi omusha wokubuka endaweni lapho ungafuni neze ukuya khona.
Yini eyenza "ukuvuleka" ukuguqula, noma, ngokuphambene, ukungathandi ukushintsha noma yini?
Ngokuvamile, ukwesaba okuthile kuhlobene nokugula. Ngokwesibonelo, ngesifo sezinso abantu bakhathazekile, abanezinkinga zesibindi, besaba ukuphila, besaba ukufa. Izinguquko empilweni entsha yomuntu wanamuhla zivame ukwesaba iziguli ze-pulmonary. Kuvela ukuthi ngokuqinisa impilo, ungakwazi ukuqeda ngokuzenzekela ukwesaba. Uma iziguli ziza kimi ekwamukelwa ngezinkinga ezinjalo, ngicabanga ukuthi - ngemuva kokwelashwa kwesibindi sokushiya. Isimo sengqondo sokuguquka sincike kakhulu ekuziphatheni. I-phlegmatic ne-melancholic ngokuvamile ibaphatha kabi. Ukuvimbela lokhu kungenzeki, kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuzithoba kusukela ebuntwaneni bese ufundisa kahle ingane. Kodwa abantu base-choleric bangamafutha angempela, abangeke bafune ukushintsha kuphela, kodwa bavusa. Abantu be-Sanguine nabo bathanda ukushintsha, babhekene nokungabi nandaba, izithakazelo ezihlukahlukene.
Angithandi umqondo wokuhlukanisa abantu abe yizinhlobo. I-psychology yesimanje inesitoreji sezindlela eziningi kangaka ezihlukene zohlobo lomuntu ngamunye, ukuthi ungadumiseka ngokuthi ungubani. Ngithanda ukutadisha imvelo yomphakathi, umuntu kanye nemvelo yomuntu. Yebo, ungacabanga ukuthi abantu abanesifo samathambo kanye nama-choleric bavumelana kangcono nokushintsha, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, uBernard Shaw owayeyingcweti ye-classic wayengumuntu ohamba phambili nomuntu odala. Kubonakala kimi ukuthi konke okuphathelene nokukhuliswa. U-Yu. Kozeletsky emisebenzini yakhe ethi "The Man Multidimensional" wabhala ngesipho esikhethekile, ikhwalithi yakhe, ebizwa ngokuthi ukwephula umthetho, okusho ukuthi ikhono lomuntu lihamba ngaphezu kwemingcele yakhe.
Ungabheka ukuhlukaniswa kwezitayela zokuphila, ezakhiwe izazi zengqondo. Kukhona abantu ababeka imigomo ethile futhi bafezekise, kodwa kukhona nalabo abahlala nje namhlanje, bengayifuni izinguquko zomhlaba wonke, bafeze into enkulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, emgomweni ofanayo, omunye uyaqhubeka, echitha izithiyo endleleni, kanti omunye uhamba ngokuzungezile izithiyo kanye namacembe abukhali. Kubalulekile nokuthi umuntu uqonda kangakanani futhi ufuna ukulawula konke okwenzekayo. Emalungiselelweni amahle kakhulu, izimo ezingalindelekile zingahlasela. Khona-ke lowo ohlala njalo enza ngokuvumelana nesiphakamiso sakhe kuncike kakhulu kunalokho; ngubani onesilinganiso esithile se-adventurism, akafuni ukulawula konke nakho konke. Nakuba konke kuhamba kumuntu, yingakho wonke umuntu angakha izinhlangothi ezahlukene futhi aqale impilo entsha kumuntu wanamuhla.
Ngizohlukanisa abantu kulabo abafuna isifiso sokuphila, nalabo abagwema izimo ezicindezelayo futhi balwela ukuzinza. Uma ikhona empilweni, yilokhu ngokucacile nangokwengeziwe, kodwa futhi ayikho izintaba, ubukhali bezinzwa. Lezi zinsuku zivame ukubhekana nabantu abanengozi. Njengomthetho, lokhu kungenxa yokubhekana nokuhlukumezeka - uzizwa usaphila uma unqoba isimo esinzima sokuphila. Omunye kulokhu uhlanganyele emidlalweni eyingozi, othile uthanda ngothando, kufushane, wenza into ephula inkambo yokuphila yemvelo. Ngakho zithinta ukudlidliza okuphezulu, okuthile okuvuselela futhi, njengokungathi, kuthuthumela. Amanye amaklayenti ami athi: Ngangihlala futhi ngicabanga ukuthi ngizobuna kusukela ekudumeni. Futhi ngokuzumayo nalomuntu into eyenzekayo ukuthi wayengalokothi aphuphe, ngakho lokhu kuguqula ukuphila kwakhe. Mhlawumbe ngisho nokuhlukumezeka. Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi uyayeka ukukhathala. Ukuphila okusha komuntu wanamuhla kuyisigaba esisha sekusasa.
Indlela yokubhekana nezinguquko ezingalindelekile ekuphileni okusha komuntu wanamuhla?
Kunezinguquko esizikhethayo, futhi kukhona labo abakhetha thina, kunezindlela ezahlukene zokuphendula kuzo. Okokuqala kuhilela ukugxila enkingeni ephakama lapho sishintsha imbangela yalokho okwenzekile. Isibonelo, uma ulahlekelwa umsebenzi, ukuxazulula le nkinga, udinga ukuthola entsha. Lokhu kusiza ukulahla imizwa yokuzikhathalela kanye nemibi. Indlela elandelayo yokuphendula ukuphazamisa inkinga. Ukuze unciphise imizwelo emibi, udinga ukushintshela kokuthile. Emva kwalokho, noma ngabe inkinga ngokwayo izoxazululwa, noma kuyoba lula ukuyixazulula. Kukhona enye inqubo ephumelelayo kakhulu - ukwakha umqondo omusha, ukuvuselela kabusha. Ngesikhathi umuntu ebuka impilo yakhe ngamehlo amasha, wakha ukuhumusha okuhle, uthola inzuzo enqenqemeni.
Yiziphi izigaba zokuphila komuntu ezibucayi kakhulu?
Umzimba womuntu ukhula ngokuvumelana neminyaka engu-7 ka-Saturn. Bakhuluma ngokuthuthukiswa komuntu kanye nezigaba ezithile ezithile (7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, 49, 56, 63, nokunye). Izikhathi ezibucayi empilweni entsha yendoda yesimanje zenzeka ngokunembile kule minyaka, futhi amadoda azizwa ngokucacile nakakhulu. Inkathi enzima kunayo yonke iminyaka yobuKristu, engu-33, okubhekwa njengento eyinhloko yokuphila. Kuze kube yilesi sikhathi umuntu uhlala phezu kwezindleko zemvelo, izihlobo, izihlobo, ukutholakala kwamakhono. Kodwa kakade uneminyaka engama-33 ubudala, umuntu kufanele afunde ukunikeza izwe lokho okuye kwenziwa, nokuphila ngokubiza kwayo. Kukhona izinkinga ezimbili - okubizwa ngokuthi ama-moon knot. Lena iminyaka engu-18,5, 37 no-54. Babalwa ngokunembile kakhulu. Kulezi zikhathi ezibucayi, kubalulekile ukungenzi izinqumo ze-epochal, hhayi ukwenza umsebenzi, hhayi ukuphetha amadili. Izindinganiso ezinjalo zokuphila zivamile, zinengqondo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho , sineziqu zethu siqu zokuphila. Isibonelo, enye irekhodi ukuthi izenzakalo ezibalulekile zenzeka njalo eminyakeni engu-3.5 noma engu-10.
Izinkinga zihlobene eduze nezikhathi lapho udinga ukuthatha umthwalo wempilo yakho. Isibonelo, ezinkambweni zokuqala zaseyunivesithi, abafundi bangabazeki ngokufaneleka kwesinqumo sabo; ngemuva kokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, umuntu kufanele aqonde indima yomama; ukuwela umngcele weminyaka engama-40, lapho kunesilinganiso sokucutshungulwa kokuphila. Zonke lezi zigaba zivamile, zenzeka kubantu abaningi futhi azizona izimpawu zokugula okubi. Ngokwehlukana, ngifuna ukusho ngenye yezikhathi ezinzima kunazo zonke kubantu bethu - umhlalaphansi. Yeka indlela umuntu angasinda ngayo ukuguqulwa komhlaba jikelele kuxhomeke kakhulu kumasiko ezenhlalakahle. Ngethu, ngeshwa, asikho isikhungo esingahlinzeka abantu abahlala emakhaya ngaphandle kokuphela kokuphila okufanele, kodwa futhi nethuba lokuzizwa lidinge futhi sidlulise isipiliyoni sempilo yabo nokuhlakanipha.
Kithi ngenxa yezinga eliphansi labahlala empilweni abahlala empilweni kubonakala kungabikho muntu odingekile - njengokungathi yi-popolzovalis, ngakho-ke njengabantu abangenangqondo abaye baphonswa ngaphandle. Ngakho-ke, abantu abaneminyaka yobudala bemhlalaphansi futhi banamathele ezihlalweni zabo, bengabanikeli indlela abasha - uma bevuma, bazolahlekelwa imali, futhi bayobakhohlwa. Isimo sethu yilezi: uma ufuna ukushintsha - phambili, kodwa kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi eminyakeni yobudala kuba nzima ukukwenza - ku-40 ngeke uthole umsebenzi omuhle. EYurophu, ukuqala impilo emva kuka-40 kulula kakhulu kunathi, futhi siphumula lapho ngenjabulo, sithatha njengokuphumula okufanelekile. Nginokuxhumana okuningi nabantu baseYurophu futhi ngiyabona ukuthi ngesikhathi esifanele bayadlulisela i-baton kubantsha, futhi bazinikela isikhathi sabo, ikhaya, ukuhamba. Ngesikhathi esifanayo banamakhasimende amaningi, abafundi, bathola ukuqashelwa - into okudingeka umuntu oyithuthukisiwe.
Ukuphila okusha komuntu wanamuhla kuklanyelwe ukukhetha indlela efanelekile yokuzivuselela.