"Manje usuthanda inkululeko - lapho usencane," umngane wesikole kaLena wangitshela, ebeka isisu ukuba ashada nomuntu esifunda naye ufunda naye uVladik. - futhi eminye iminyaka engu-5-6 - futhi yilokho! Kuwe abafana ngeke bahlanganiswe, kuyoba okungcolile ukuya kuma-discos ... Akekho ozoshada futhi. Awusabi isizungu?
"Ngakho," ngaphetha, "ngineminyaka engu-5-6 ejabulisayo. Futhi manje uzibeka ngaphansi kokukhiya nokhiye.
Sekudlule iminyaka eyishumi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi. Kulula njengoba kungase kubonakale, ngisemncane. Kodwa-ke, abafana abangeke baqoqe: bashintsha amadoda ahloniphekile (ngeshwa, ahlale engenzi lutho). Ku-disco futhi ngempela awuhambi (ngaphandle kwamahhotela okubhuka), kodwa iminyaka engu-10 kuleli lizwe livele futhi lidlalwa ngobusuku obuningi be-nightclub nezindawo zokudlela ezilula, lapho umuntu omdala, owesifazane ozimele angase ahambe khona ... Lenka angizange ngibone uhlelo lonke lweminyaka emihlanu: unezinhlelo ezimbili izingane, futhi nginabangane abasha, umsebenzi kanye nezinto eziningi. UVadik Ngihlangana njalo njalo kwelinye lama-nightclub. Ufika lapho nomngane wakhe (njengoba ngikuqonda, uLeena akazi). Futhi angizange ngiqaphele lo mbuzo: isizungu kuyinhlekelele noma injabulo yowesifazane wanamuhla? Kodwa ...
Ngesaba isizungu? Njengesici - ngesimiso ngisaba, kodwa angikholelwa ngempela kulo. Yilokho-ke, ngingazibona ngeso lengqondo isimo: umnyango uvinjiwe, ifoni ixhunyiwe, futhi ngaphansi kwamafasitela, njengoba inhlanhla ingaba nayo, akekho ohamba-noma ukukhuluma noma ukusiza ... ngabe ngabe ngifunde izincwadi izinsuku ezintathu noma ngilele, Ngiyethemba ukuthi othile ovela ezihlotsheni, abangani noma abasebenzi bazokhumbula ukuthi angizange ngibize isikhathi eside (angizange ngiye engxoxweni, angizange ngithathe lesi sihloko ngesikhathi). Futhi bebengangithola. Ngokuvamile, isizungu esedolobheni lanamuhla asinakwenzeka. Futhi ngisho edolobheni elincane akunakwenzeka, ngisho nasemzaneni. Ngoba esikhathini sethu noma yimuphi umsebenzi ukuxhumana. Nokufunda - ukukhulumisana, kanye nesisombululo sezinkinga zansuku zonke - nokukhulumisana (nakuba kungabi mnandi ngaso sonke isikhathi). Futhi manje cabanga ngesimo esifanayo - efulethini elikhiyiwe - owesifazane oshadile. Myeni, ake sithi, wahamba nohambo nomngane wakhe osebenza naye ... Noma, vele, naye makangene efulethini. Ake sithi ngisho ngezinsuku ezintathu izihlobo zazikhathazekile ... Nakuba kungenakwenzeka, ngoba abesifazane abashadile abakhulumi nezihlobo kaningi, futhi ukungabikho kwakho kwezinsuku ezintathu ngeke kube isibonakaliso se-alamu. Ngeviki ozakwabo bazoqala ukukhathazeka. Bayobiza ucingo lwakho olunqanyuliwe usuku lonke, bese-ke bayonquma: "Uma kwenzeka into embi kakhulu, umyeni wakhe ngabe wayebizile!", Bazobeka isabelo sakho komunye umuntu, bazokhipha kuwe emholweni wabo - futhi bazobe bezolile. Abangane bazoqala ukugcina (uma besesekhona), kodwa behlulela ngokucacile ukuthi nonke ngeke nilahleke, bazobuyela ebhizinisini labo. Futhi kuyoba yisilutho esiphelele, esingenamthetho, esingenakunqotshwa. Ngisho noma efulethini uyaphiliswa nomyeni wakho.
Izizathu eziyisikhombisa zomona.
Amantombazane asekhaya, akhuliswa emasikweni wokwakhiwa kwendlu, kuthiwa angashadile angashadile. Bakholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi isizungu kufanele sihlupheke futhi sizame ukushada okungenani umuntu. I-Khayyamov edumile "kungcono ukulamba kunanoma yini okudliwayo, futhi kungcono ukuba yedwa kunanoma ubani" - lokhu akusikho kithi. Kulungile! Angibizi ukugwema izibopho zomshado. Uma abantu bengenakuphila ngaphandle komunye nomunye, ke-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi babe ndawonye. Kodwa umshado ngesimiso esithi "ukuba" ... Ukuziphendulela ngobuqotho ukuphendula ngokwakho lo mbuzo: uthini owesifazane oshadile, yini ongenayo?
Impendulo iphakamisa: umyeni. Futhi ngokuqondile?
1. Unomuntu ongakhuluma naye emva komsebenzi. Ow it! Akuyona into yokuthi izazi zengqondo zeluleka: ungakhathazeki nomuntu emva komsebenzi, ake ephumule ... Futhi umuntu ofanayo uyaphela ngoba umkakhe "u-hang" efonini. Futhi awunawo muntu oba yingozi: faka efonini ngendlela oyifunayo - okungenani nentombi, okungenani nomthandi.
2. Unomuntu okufanele anakekele. Ukuphikisana okungabaza. Kodwa uma ekukhathaza ngempela, thola izinyane.
3. Indoda iletha imali endlini. Hhayi iqiniso! Amadoda angamanje avame ukuphuma endlini ukuthi yini umkakhe ayenzile. Futhi ngubani okuvimbela wena ukuba usebenze futhi uzuze?
4. Ngomyeni akuyona into embi ukuhamba emigwaqweni yasebusuku: uphonsa emgodini kunoma ubani ocasula umkakhe. Okokuqala, uma owesifazane eshada, isikhathi esingaphansi kufanele ahambe emigwaqweni yasebusuku: abesifazane basemakhaya abangekho emaphakathini. Futhi okwesibili, supermen ngokuvamile angashadi, futhi amadoda - maye! - njengomthetho, ungaphakamisi. Ngakho-ke - ujabule futhi ukhululekile - amathuba amaningi okuhamba emgwaqweni wobusuku ngaphansi kwesibambo nge-giant giant, ekwazi ukunikeza umuntu ngomlomo.
5. Indoda esemthethweni yizocansi ezivamile. Abesifazane abashadile nje bavame ukunganeliseki ngokocansi futhi abakwazi ukwenza lutho: umyeni wakhe ufuna kancane kancane ubudala. Ngokungafani nabo, awuvunyelwe ukucela ebusuku umngane, mema osebenza naye ukuba avakashele noma athenge isidlidlizi.
6. Abafana abasemsebenzini abaxoxani owesifazane oshadile ngamehlo ... Esinye isizathu sokujabula ukuthi akazange axhumane nanoma yimuphi wala madoda.
7. Ngeke kube khona onganginika ingilazi yamanzi ekugugeni! O ukukhala okuphakade kwabesifazane ngezikhathi zonke! .. Ngokwesilinganiso, owesifazane waseRussia uhlala iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-14 kunomuntu. Ngakho ngezibuko cishe kuyadingeka ukugijima kuwo.
Indlela yokusebenzisa isizungu?
• Isizungu asilona iqiniso. Abantu abakuzungezile kumele bafunde ukuxhumana nabo futhi bajabulele. Uma ngemuva komsebenzi nokuthola ubudlelwane nabangani bakho uzizwa isidingo sokukhala komunye umuntu ngokuphila (tshela ihlaya, buza umbuzo emkhakheni we-physic quantum), ungangena kumaqembu abathandi bebhiya (abaqoqa izitembu, ababukeli be-Stalin), noma uxhumana nabo ku-intanethi noprofesa I-Eton University.
• Isizungu akusona isimo esinjongo. Lokhu ukungakwazi ukuxhumana. Ungalokothi uphazamise ubudlelwane nezihlobo nabangane bentsha: abayeni beza bahambe, kodwa bahlala.
• Isizungu sinesisindo esikhulu sokuxhumana. Uma ungaboshwa izibopho, ke akufanele ungaphansi kwanoma ubani ulungise isimo sakho sengqondo noma okuthandayo.
• Ukuba nesizungu kungabikho kokuxoxa. Ufunde ukukhuluma, umuntu ukhohlwe ukuthi ucabangani. Lapho nje efika nomcabango, uyashesha ukuphonsa abanye imicabango yakhe ... Kodwa uma bekungabikho abanye abazungezile, umcabango wawuzohlala ekhanda lami futhi ukhule ubukhulu bomqondo noma umqondo wesayensi. Umuntu owazi ukucabanga, akazithukuthezi.
• Ubungani yindlela yokudumisa. Ngoba uma usuvele uphendule imicabango yakho ngokwanele enhloko yakho eyedwa - hlala phansi ubhale phansi. Abesifazane abaningi kakhulu - abavela kuZinaida Gippius kuya e-Alexandra Marinina - bazenzele igama kanye nenzuzo yabo ezincwadini.
• Ukuba nesizungu kuyithuba lokwakha umsebenzi nokuthola imali. Ngoba uma ucabanga ngomsebenzi emsebenzini, futhi hhayi mayelana nokuthi ungayithenga kuphi, khona-ke iziphathimandla zizozibona.
Ingabe uyazisola ngokuthi usengashadile? Ukuthi bonke abangane sebevele beyilapho lapho, futhi nonke nilapha? .. Kodwa niyazi ukuthi konke okuchazwe ngenhla kuyiqiniso. Futhi ukuphikisana lapha akusizi ngalutho, ukuthi akusize kanjani ukuzisola ngokuphindaphindiwe. Nakuba ngezinye izikhathi ngingathanda. Kodwa uma, uma wazi konke lokhu, usuzwa ngokuzumayo isilwane esithulule isilwane futhi ufuna ukukhala enyangeni noma ukusheshisa ukubiza inkonzo yokuphola - bheka nje ikhalenda. Mhlawumbe unayo i-premenstrual syndrome kuphela.