Ososayensi abazange bayeke ukwakha izici ezihlukahlukene mayelana nokuzalwa kwamawele. Kumqondo wezakhi zofuzo, izinguqulo ezintsha zengezwa nsuku zonke. Kukholelwa ukuthi iminyaka, ukudla kanye nokukhula komama ozayo kuyothinta ukuzalwa kwamawele. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ubuhlobo obuphakathi kwamawele bungalandela emuva esibelethweni, okusho ukuthi indlela yemfundo yabo nayo idinga ukusebenza ngesikhathi esifanele. Uhlamvu lomama wamawele owakhulela kanjani efomini elilodwa lomndeni? Futhi ungayithinta kanjani le nqubo?
Amawele ngezikhathi zonke ayebhekwa njengezingane ezingavamile. Ubuqili babo bukhona eqinisweni lokuthi kusukela ekuzalweni kwabo uqobo ubuhlobo obuhlukile ngokuphelele buba phakathi kwabo. Nsuku zonke, ngizibukela kumzalwane noma udadewethu, njengesibuko, ngingalokothi ngihlukanise okwesikhashana, izingane ziqala ukuzizwa zibe yingxenye yazo yonke. Bayakhula ndawonye, badlala, bafunde kusuka komunye nomunye, baziphathe ngendlela efanayo, ngisho nesipiliyoni futhi bazizwe befana. Izazi zengqondo ziphawula ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi amawele angabona cishe amaphupho afanayo futhi abuye abe nefoni.
Kodwa, kwenzeka ukuthi abazali, abathandekayo ngombono wokubambisana okunjalo kwezingane, banikeza amawele bona. Phela, umbhangqwana omuhle awusoze waba nesithukuthezi - uzovela ngokunye uhlobo lomsebenzi. Lokhu kunjalo, kanti noma kunjalo, ukuze izingane zifunde ukuphatha ngokufanele - ukwazisa ukusekela, ukuqonda, uthando - futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo abazethembi kakhulu, badinga usizo nokunakekelwa kwabazali babo. Yebo, ukunikeza isikhathi ochungechungeni olungapheli lwezindaba zasendlini ngenqubo yokufundisa - umsebenzi awulula. Futhi nokho kuyadingeka ukuzama.
Inkambo ngokuzimele
Ngezinye izikhathi abazali abakwazi ngisho ukuqagela ukuthi amawele awakhula emndenini owodwa ancike komunye nomunye.
U-Elena, unina wamantombazane angamawele, uthi: "Ngaqala ukusebenza izinyanga eziyisithupha ngemva kokuzalwa kuka-Andrew no-Stepan. - Kwakudingeka ukuba ngithole imali, futhi nginakekela zonke izingane kumhlengikazi. Kwangibonakala sengathi wayebhekana kahle nemfundo yabantwana bami: ngokuvamile kusihlwa abafana baqhosha kimi ngokuphathelene nempumelelo yabo. Babonisa imidwebo, bafunda, batshela inganekwane, bahlabelela izingoma. Ngeshwa, angizange ngigxile kulokho u-Andrei efunda futhi angitshele khona, kodwa ucabanga uSteka. Lapho sinquma ngaphambi kokubhalisa esikoleni ukuze sibhalise izifundo zokulungiselela, kwenzeka ukuthi u-Andrei akazange aqonde lo mthethosivivinywa nhlobo, futhi uStean uyakwazi kuphela ukwengeza ama-syllables avela kulawo mahlamvu u-Andryushka amtshela ngokumangalisayo. Kwadingeka ngiqashe umntanami omusha, manje owayesebenzelana ngamawele ngayinye ngokwezidingo zakhe. " Izazi ziphawula ukuthi ukusabalalisa okunjalo kwezindima akuvamile kumabhangqa amabili. Okusebenza kahle kumuntu akudingeki ukuthi omunye, ngoba izingane zihlala zilahlwa. Ngenxa yalokho, lo mbhangqwana ulungiswa kahle uma amawele ehlangene, kepha ngamunye wabo angabhekana nobunzima obukhulu ngokwehlukana. Ukuze ugweme lokhu, kusukela ebuntwaneni bokuqala, zama ukufaka phakathi kwamawele ngamunye isifiso sokuthuthukisa uhlamvu lwazo. Yiba ngokwakho, hhayi nje kuphela kokubili.
Ukubambisana okubili.
Amawele kaningi ayithandi ukuthatha abantu abangabazi phakathi kwe-microcosm yabo ehlelekile futhi ekhululekile: ngempela, kungani ubheka abangane uma umuntu onjalo oqonda futhi oseduze eseduze? Kodwa-ke, lapho umuntu ekhulile, amawele kuzodingeka axhumane nabantu abahlukene, futhi okuyisisekelo salokhu kukhulumisana - ikhono lokwenza abangane, bafune ukuyekethisa futhi baphethe isivumelwano - kufanele bafunde ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhulumisana nabangani kuyasiza ekuthuthukiseni ukuzethemba okufanele. Ngemuva kwalokho, amawele ngamunye kumele abe nenhlonipho yodwa umngane wabo "wegazi," kodwa futhi nje umlingani emidlalweni noma ocwaningweni. Ngakho-ke, ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, kuze kube namawele avaliwe emphakathini womunye nomunye, zama ukuzethula kwezinye izingane. Khuthaza imizamo yomuntu wonke yokwenza abangane noma ukumema abangani ukumema elinye lamawele ukuvakashela. Futhi ake enye ingane ichithe konke kusihlwa nawe.
Ubuzalwane obungabonisi
Naphezu kokunamathiselwe, kuvame ukulwa phakathi kwamawele.
"U-Anya noVika, ngokuvamile beba mnandi futhi belalela, ngokuzumayo baqala ukuhlela izimpi zangempela," kusho uSvetlana, unina wamantombazane amabili, oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala. "Sifanele siphenduke, indlela ukuphikisana kuvele ngayo ngokushesha." Bifunga ngenxa yento yonke encane: ngubani ozohamba ngebhasi efasiteleni, ngubani ozothola ucezu lwekhekhe ngesigaxa se-orange, ohlala naye ngaphandle kokugogo ugogo. Futhi lapho benza isenzo esihlambalaza, bebona ukuthi ubani wabo owayenama cherry amaningi kuma-apron. Ngikwesaba nje umlingiswa wabo! Angazi ukuthi angazivumelanisa kanjani. "
Isizathu esivame kakhulu salezo zingxabano kukhona ukuncintisana kweminyaka eminyaka nomhawu. Njengomthetho, amawele athambekele ekutholeni ukuthi ubani ohamba phambili nomlingani oyinhloko. Kodwa ubutha buzophela kancane kancane, lapho izingane zigcina zinezindima. Omunye wamawele uyothatha indawo yomholi, enye - isigqila. Futhi lokhu kuvamile. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi "ukwehlukana kwezikhala" ezinjalo ngokwemvelo yamawele owakhulela emndenini owodwa kwenzeka kuma-80% amacala. Ngokuvame lokhu lokhu kufana nesimo sengqondo samasonto amabili, futhi akuholeli ekunciphiseni ezinye izimfanelo ezibalulekile noma ekuthuthukiseni komuntu oyedwa.
Yebo, ngenkathi izingane zilwa - zibekezelele. Unganaki ukulwa kwansuku zonke phakathi kwabo futhi ungaphazamisi ngaphandle kwesizathu esihle. Futhi-ke, ungakhohlwa ukukhumbuza izingane ukuthi inhlanhla kangakanani ukuba nomngane, umuntu owake waba nawe kusukela ekuzalweni, uyakuthanda futhi uyakuqonda ukuthi awuthandi omunye.
Izici zemfundo ephindwe kabili.
Kukhona indlela eyodwa kuphela yokufunda ngezinkinga noma izintshisekelo zomntwana - ukukhuluma naye. Bonisa ukunakekela amawele amabili (hhayi kokubili!).
Amawele adinga eyabo, kuphela ayingxenye yezinto. Wonke umuntu kufanele abe nendawo yakhe endlini, izinto zabo (isikhala, itafula, isihlalo, njll), izingubo zabo siqu. Futhi-ke, ibhokisi lakhe ngamathoyizi yisakhiwo somuntu siqu, okungenzeka angabelane nomakhelwane wakhe.
Siza izingane zizakhele isimo sengqondo esizimele ngokwazo. Vumela wonke umuntu abe nezinkumbulo zakhe, imibono yabo, amaphupho abo. Ukwenza lokhu, bangahlukaniswa okwesikhashana: isibonelo, omunye wabo waya esekisini, futhi omunye - emdlalweni webhola. Omunye uhamba ngezimpelasonto kugogo, kanti omunye uhlala ekhaya. Ungabanikeza ukuwafunda izincwadi ezahlukene, bese uxoxa ngalokho ingane ngayinye ecabanga ngendaba. Futhi-ke, lapho ukhuluma nezingane, zama ukufundisa kancane kancane ukuthi bacabange ukuthi akusiyo ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesikhathi esifanele ingane yakho iseduze.
I-Gemini, ngokungafani nabazalwane nodadewethu abangasese, ingahle futhi ifanele ifaniswe nomunye nomunye. Kodwa hhayi ngenhloso yokulungisa omunye komunye, kodwa ukuze iphinde agcizelele izici zomuntu siqu zomntwana. Ngokwesibonelo, uthi: "U-Masha uphawula kahle, kodwa uVika uyakhala ngokumangalisayo."
Shayela ngamanye amawele ngamagama, hhayi nje "izingane." Uma ufuna okuthile ukubuza izingane, zinikeze imisebenzi ngayinye, lapho wonke umuntu angazizwa ephethe umthwalo wakhe futhi angakutshela: "Ngenze" - hhayi: "Senze." Isibonelo, ake enye yezingane iqhube phansi, kanti enye izosusa amathoyizi (futhi hhayi ndawonye bayokwenza into eyodwa kuqala, bese enye).
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Uma izinga lamakhono ezingane kanye nomlingiswa lifana, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo abazali abavela eminyakeni yobudala bakha ukuzimela nokuzikhethela kwamawele, ngakho-ke, ngeke kube khona okungahambi kahle ngeqiniso lokuthi izingane zizofunda kwelinye iqembu: kuqala enkulisa, bese esikoleni. Vele uxoxe nomfundisi ukuze aqhubekele inkambo yokuhlukanisa izingane. Yiqiniso, izingane akufanele zihlale etafuleni elilodwa, yenza umsebenzi owodwa wezinkampani ezimbili kanye neziphindaphindiwe kumicimbi. Kodwa uma amawele encike kakhulu komunye nomunye noma omunye wezingane ungumholi obonakalayo, kanti enye ingaphansi kwayo, kunengqondo ukucabanga ngokuhlukana. Lokhu kuzosiza umholi kanye ne-wingman. Ingane- "ongaphansi" izoba yedwa ngokuzimela (ngemuva kwakho konke, umuntu ophakeme uphelile, akekho ozoyethemba, kumele senze ngokwethu). Umholi wengane uzoyeka ukucindezela udadewabo noma umfowabo, ufunde ukubekezelela abanye (akulula kakhulu ukuhola abanye njengewele lakhe). Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ukuhlukaniswa kwamaphini ngokweqile kungaba yingcindezi kubo futhi kube nomthelela omubi ekuthuthukiseni konke kwengane. Ngakho-ke, ungahlukanisi izingane isikhathi eside. Amahora ambalwa ngelanga labantwana basenkulisa kanye nengxenye yosuku izingane zesikole ngokwanele ukwenza amawele azibonele njengabantu ngabanye futhi anethuba lokuxhumana nomunye nomunye.