Kuye kwaziwa isikhathi eside ukuthi abesifazane bathanda izindlebe, namadoda anamehlo. Lokhu kunjalo ngempela. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi izwi lezinsikazi libuye libaluleke kakhulu ekuboneni kwesilisa. Indlela yokukhuluma kanye ne-timbre yezwi izokuhambisana nesithombe sesifazane ekusebenzeni kwesilisa. Ake sicabangele ukuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zezwi eziheha kakhulu futhi zenze ulalele futhi ulalele, futhi yiluphi uhlobo oluphambene nalo oluqhakazile ngokuphelele.
Omunye wabalobi, ngomunye wemisebenzi yakhe, waphetha ngokuthi izwi, ukulingana okuphansi, okwenza lokho okuthiwa yizwi eliphikisayo, lithandekayo futhi lihle kakhulu. Amadoda ahola uhlobo olunjalo lwezwi ekuhlwithweni, ngoba akunakwenzeka kanjani ukuletha injabulo yezwi eligcwele lokuzethemba nokwaneliseka. Umnikazi walolu hlobo, udala isithombe esingenakufinyeleleka futhi esingenakuphazamiseka, okuyimbangela yokwenyuka kwesithakazelo kusuka ohlangothini lwesilisa.
Izwi nomoya libalwe ngezwi elimnandi. Loluhlobo lwezwi ludumala amadoda, ngoba umoya okhona kulelizwi awuzwisi isignali ukuthi le ndoda isithakazelisa ngokocansi.
Kodwa izwi elinamazwi aphakeme lenza ukuba ubudlelwane besilisa bubusha, owesifazane onezwi elifanayo ubonakala engcolile futhi ephikisanayo. Kodwa uma, ngendlela yomnikazi wezwi elinjalo, kuyoba khona indoda enesibopho futhi enesibindi, ekwazi ukusebenzelana nobuhlobo bayo ukuze athathe indima kababa, khona-ke inyunyana yabo iyoba namandla futhi ingabhubhi.
Futhi indima ephikisayo ngezwi lezwi idlala ngokuzwakalayo kokusika. Iqiniso liwukuthi le nkulumo ikhuluma ngokuqina kwamandla nokuqina emlingeni walona wesifazane. Owesifazane onjalo ubhekene nezimfanelo ezifana nobuholi, igunya, ukulawula njalo. Njengomthetho, amadoda angathandi uma othile ezama ukuwalawula. Kodwa, enye into, uma endleleni yommeleli walolu hlobo lwezwi, kuyoba khona umuntu ongenakucabangela, futhi okudingekayo kumholi, ngakho-ke, bayoba nenhlangano eqinile.
Idethi yokuqala
Ukudukisa umuntu ngezwi, elibhekene nezici zobuntu eziqinile, udinga ukuba nenkulumo elinganisiwe nezolile. Ifomu elifakwe ngezwi lizokutshela ukuthi yini indoda enesimo esifanayo esifuna owesifazane. Lokhu ukungavikeleki, isidingo sokunakekelwa nokugcinwa, isidingo sokuba umkhulumeli. Owesifazane onenkulumo enjalo unesimo esibucayi nesingavikelekile esingamkhuthazi umuntu ukuba amnakekele futhi amnakekele. Inkulumo enjalo kufanele ilinganiswe ukuzola. Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa izichasiselo nokuphenduka okufana, kuyilapho zonke ukunyakaza okusetshenzisiwe kufanele kube ngaphansi kokulawula.
Uma kwakukhona umhlangano nensizwa ethandekayo futhi evumelanayo, kubalulekile, ngokuphambene, ukukhombisa amandla nokuzethemba kwezwi lakhe. Inkulumo ekhishwa ngohlobo kufanele ithunyelwe futhi icaciswe. Okunye okudingekayo ukuba khona komzwelo. Ukubheka ngesikhathi sokukhuluma kuyindaba, kufanele ihambisane nenkulumo kuzo zonke izinzwa. Umbono kufanele uqiniseke futhi uhlanzeke.
Ukuthakazelisa indoda yamaphupho akho kuzokusiza ekukhulumeni okuvuthiwe. Inkulumo "ngaphandle kokuyeka" akunakwenzeka ukukusiza. Kubalulekile ukukhuthazelela ukuyeka, njengoba kukholelwa ukuthi umuntu uthola ulwazi oluzwakalayo emlonyeni wesifazane imizuzwana engamashumi amabili, konke okuphelelwe yinzalo, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa inkulumo yakho. Futhi, kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi akubalulekile kakhulu ukukwazi ukulalela kunokukwazi ukukhuluma. Lungisa ingxoxo yakho ngendlela yokuthi le ndoda inethuba lokuveza umbono wakhe, okumele ulalele futhi uhlole. Ukuncoma amadoda akusoze kwalimaza.
Inkulumo enamandla iphendula
Owesifazane onokuthula, ongenalwazi, kunzima kakhulu ukuheha wena. Enye futhi hhayi ebaluleke kakhulu kulokho kubangelwa ukungabi nenkulumo efanele. Inkulumo engacacile neyingaqiniseki idikibala muzhchin.
Okufanayo kusebenza nakwabesifazane, abathi ngamazwi baphendukela ukuthi okungenani bathanda ukulalela amadoda. Lezi zikhalazo mayelana nokuphila kwabo, izinkinga eziqhubekayo nezingaguquki.
Kumele futhi kuqaphele ukuthi inkulumo eqinisekisayo futhi ekhuthazayo izodala ukucasula kula madoda. Futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi kumngane ophethe ubulili obuqinile, njengombuso, ufuna ukuthobeka nokunciphisa. Futhi lapha konke kuvela ngokuphambene ncamashi.
Indoda izomanyiswa njalo owesifazane ophethe izinkulumo ezibushelelezi nakwezinye izikhathi. Futhi uma kukho konke lokhu unezwi eliphansi, owesifazane onjalo unenhlanhla kakhulu.