Ukudlala ngothando noma, njengoba kubizwa kubantu, inoveli elula kubhekwa njengenye yezinga elijabulisayo kunoma yiluphi ubudlelwano. Ngakho-ke, akukho ntombazane okufanele ayikhohlwe ngobuciko bokudlala ngothando. Into esemqoka ukuthi lo mfana wazi ukuthi zonke lezi zithando zenzelwe yena. Ngezinye izikhathi ukudlala ngothando emphakathini noma ngokuzijwayeza okulandelayo nendoda akuzona zonke abesifazane. Ezinye zezocansi ezilungile zinikezwa ngothando lomuntu ngothando, okuyisisekelo esizozama ukukufundisa namhlanje.
Isimo sothando
Uthando, okokuqala, kufanele lube yisisekelo sokudlala ngothando nomuntu. Yiqiniso, ukuqala umdlalo wothando nomuntu ngakolunye uhlangothi lwesimangalo ngamazwi athi "Ngiyakuthanda!" Akufanelekile. Beka konke eceleni futhi uqale ukuxhumana okulula nokungaphoqelelwa nendoda oyithandayo. Kule ngxoxo ebonakalayo kufanele ube nezincomo, amacebo angenangqondo nezinye izigaba zesigaba sokuqala sokwakha ubudlelwane. Into esemqoka akusiyo ukugoba induku, ngenxa yokudumisa kanye nokuthandwa okujwayelekile akuncane kakhulu.
Ubuqili becala
Uqinisekile ukuthi uzohlangana "empilweni yangempela", ungakhathazeki ngokuthi "uzokubiza yini?" Futhi uyaqiniseka ukuthi akashadile. Kodwa, naphezu kwakho konke lokhu, khumbula ukuthi ubuhlobo obuzinzile esikhathini esizayo kufanele bubekwe ekuqaleni ekudalweni (kuzo zonke izinzwa zegama). Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kancane kancane udinga ukuhumusha umlingani wakho wefriji efomini elungile. Ingozi kulokhu ibukeka ingenangqondo, futhi ingesabi ikakhulukazi ukuthi isinyathelo esivela kuwe kuqala ngeke sithole impendulo yaso kusukela ohlangothini lwesilisa. Ukuthi kufanele ngesibindi ucaphune "amahlaya angenamahloni" bese uphonsa ku-cavalier yakho engumfanekiso izithombe ozifake kuso ku-swimsuit. Ngikholelwa ukuthi lolu hlobo lokudlala ngothando luphumelela kakhulu kunezinhliziyo ezibomvu nezilwane ezincane ezithombeni.
Ngaphandle kokudlula
Amadoda ayathokozi imilayezo engenangqondo, ngoba ngenxa yobulili obuqine, ngenxa yokuhlakanipha nokuqonda kwabo, kunzima ukushintsha engxoxweni yezombusazwe ukuya endabeni ngezambatho zangaphansi zezintambo, ikakhulukazi uma lo muntu ekhuluma nawe kusuka kwikhompyutha esebenzayo. Kodwa into enjengokuthi "kunzima" akusho njalo ukuthi lokhu akufanele kwenziwe, ngoba ukudlala ngothando emsebenzini, onemibala engavunyelwe futhi eyimfihlo, imimoya engaphezulu. Yiqiniso, lapha kuyadingeka ukuba uhambisane nezinhlaka ezithile ezibekwe ukuze ungafaki into yokudumisa kwakho ibe yisimo esingathandeki. Ungathumeli ama-e-mail ayishumi e-mail esebenzayo ngamazwi athi "Uyinto enhle kakhulu ..."
Isinyathelo ngesinyathelo
Ukudlala ngothando ngothando kufanele kuthuthuke kancane kancane, kusale konke okuthakazelisayo kakhulu ekupheleni kwesimanga. Ungaqala lo mdlalo ngemilayezo engathandabuzwa yothando kanye nokugqwala, ekugcineni uqhubekele esithombeni ku-swimming swimsuit, futhi ekupheleni kosuku umuntu othukuthele kufanele azwe kuwe okushiwo ngokuqhutshwa kweveliveli yakho (uma kunjalo, usethelwe ukuqhubeka nalokhu). Umzuzu wokugcina "wangempela" akufanele ube okhuthazayo, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuwulungiselela kusengaphambili, ucabange ukubonakala kwakho kumininingwane encane kakhulu. Ngendlela, ukuyeka ukulingana nomnumzane emhlanganweni wangempela akufanelekile, ngoba ungowesifazane owaziwayo "ukudlala nendoda."
Ibhokisi lokuxoxa
Ukudlala ngothando ngokuvamile kungxoxisana phakathi kwabantu ababili, ukuncoma kanye nemilayezo "ngakwesinye isiqondiso" ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuba mnandi. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, izazi zengqondo zeluleka ngothando lokudlala ngothando lokusebenzisa imilayezo ebizwa ngokuthi "evulekile", equkethe umbuzo oqondile futhi idinga ukuqhutshwa kwengxoxo. Uma izimpendulo zamadoda zifushane futhi zomile, ungathukutheli - ngezinye izikhathi umuntu kunzima lapho esebenzelana nowesifazane ukuze azakhe kabusha ngendlela yothando. Ungayeki ingxenye yecala bese unikeza le ndoda ithuba lokuphendula lo mbuzo, hhayi ukumbonisa ngemilayezo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, udinga ukuphendula ngendlela ephefumulelwe izimpendulo.
Futhi ekugcineni, imiyalezo yakho yokudlala ngothando akufanele ilahle umuntu, kungenjalo ukugeleza kwefantasy kungaphelelwa yisikhathi. Yebo, nokuhle kakhulu ukulinda impendulo kumuntu uqobo, kunokuba uyifunde!