Ngakho-ke, madodakazi othandekayo, okwanele ukuphonsa amehlo okukhohlisa, iya ezinqoleni ezinkulu futhi umphumela ngeke uhlale ulinde. Ngiyaqiniseka izikhathi eziningi empilweni yakho awuzange ujabulise ukudlala ngothando nomuntu oyithandayo, amahloni nokungaqiniseki ukuthi uzophendula okufanayo, akubuyisele emuva. Ngakho khumbula iqiniso elilodwa, azikho eziningi kakhulu emhlabeni wethu: bonke abantu bathanda ukuthandana nabesifazane, ngaphezu kwalokho, bavele bakhuphuke kuwo. Ababoni lutho olugebengu ngokudlala ngothando, ngisho noma laba besilisa beshadile noma babe nobuhlobo obukhulu. Kuhlale kukuhle ukukhuluma nabantu abanesithakazelo kuwe.
Cishe wonke amantombazane asaba ukulahlwa yindoda, engaqiniseki ukuthi unelungelo lomuntu. Khumbula, amadoda, ngisho nenhle kakhulu, abatholakali ukuzwa ukuncoma, ukuziqhenya owesifazane akumvumeli ukuba abonise ukukhanga kwakhe. Kukhona uhlobo oluthile lwabesifazane abangakwazi ukuwajabulela kalula abanye abantu. Njengomthetho, ngokuvamile amantombazane enjalo abe yinto yokudlala ngothando namanye amadoda. Ukudlala kwabo ngothando, bazinika, njengezipho, hhayi ukufuna noma yini esikhundleni. Lokhu kudonsela amadoda njengezimpukane kuze kube uju, baqhubekela kubafazi abanjalo futhi bajabulele ukuzijabulisa.
Wonke amalungu obuningi bobulili abanobuhlobo abathanda ubudlelwane obuhle nabesifazane abangacindezeli, futhi abakhombisi ukuthi bafuna ukuhlala nabo njalo. Ukuthandana namadoda kungenacala futhi kunobungane.
Khumbula ukuthi owesilisa ekuqaleni uzocabangela isizathu sokudlala ngothando lwakho, ngakho ungadluli futhi ukungabaza kwakhe kudlule ngokushesha. Kodwa uma umfana usuhle kakhulu, futhi ufuna ngempela ukufeza imigomo yakho ngothando lwakho, khona-ke awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokufaka okuthile. Hlela kusengaphambili ukuthi ukukhulumisana kuyoba mnandi futhi kuzoletha kokubili injabulo, kungakhathaliseki umphumela. Khombisa inhlonipho yakho nokuqonda, ngesikhathi ingxoxo amehlo kufanele akhanye. Yiba nesibindi, uyintombazane ekhangayo futhi ethandekayo, lo muntu kufanele akhale ngenjabulo, ukuthi uyikhokhele ukunakwa kwakho. Cabanga ukuthi uyi-heroine oyintandokazi, ungazama nokusebenzisa izithombe ezihlukene, kodwa mhlawumbe nabantu abangabazi. Abangane abadala, ngokuqinisekile, bazi kahle kakhulu, futhi uma bekhona kakade, ungaqiniseka ukuthi uyamnandi ukukhulumisana, futhi ubuciko bokudlala ngothando nabantu abakuwe bubekwa ngumama woqobo. Ngakho-ke, sebenzisa impilo yakho, bamba wonke umuntu ngokukhululekile futhi ukhululeke, kodwa ungakhohlwa ngemfihlo ukuthi wonke owesifazane kufanele abe nayo.
Ngingabelana indaba ethakazelisayo, njengomunye wabangane bami, intombazane enesizotha, isikhathi eside ayengakwazi ukufunda ukudlala ngothando nabantu abasha, lokhu futhi behluleka ukunakwa. Ngakho, esikhwameni esilandelayo se-bachelorette thina, sashintshe umngane ngosizo lwezimonyo nezesekeli, samnika imiyalelo eqondile. Inkontileka yile ndlela elandelayo: siyibheke ngokuthula ngasesitodini esilandelayo, kuyilapho eqinisa amehlo akhe futhi ehleka ngokumnandi. Ngokwethembeka, angikhumbuli ukuthi bangaki abafana ababonise isifiso sokumhlangabeza, babebaningi babo, abanye bekhuluma naye. Bonke bajabula ngomphumela, ikakhulukazi intombi yethu enamahloni. Ngakho-ke, uma uziphatha ngaleyo nto, phinda isipiliyoni sethu nabangane bethu. Umdlalo wokuhlekisa futhi ongenacala ungakusiza kangcono kunanoma isiphi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Futhi wena, emva kokuqeqesha, ngaleyo ndlela, ungahamba ngokuzingela kwangempela, nesisetshenziswa esikhuthele kunazo zonke ezweni labantu, ukudlala ngothando.