Ezweni lanamuhla, ingxoxo yocingo, mhlawumbe, eyokuqala phakathi kwazo zonke izindlela zokuxhumana kwabantu - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyayithanda noma cha. Kodwa inkathazo yilezi: abesifazane besanda nje bafuna, ngakho-ke amadoda awajabuli kakhulu ngalesi simo. Ngoba, ngokusho kwengqondo kwengqondo, abameleli bobulili obunamandla, kuvela, akuthandi ngempela indlela elula yokuxhumana. Futhi uma beqhubeka beyisebenzisa, kungenxa yesizathu esisodwa kuphela: kuphi?
Amantombazane amahle kufanele athathe lesi sici ku-akhawunti ngaphambi kokukhuluma efonini nomuntu ukuvimbela ukungaqondi kahle okuhlukahlukene. Abaningi bethu bangasebenzisa amahora ukuxoxa nabangani efonini, bethola kulokhu okungenakuqhathaniswa nakho. Futhi uke wahlangana namadoda amaningi akwazi ukuzithokozela aphephe futhi aqhubeke ngaphakathi kwiphubhu kusihlwa? Ngisho noma ngabe nawe uhlangane nabo, abanye abathintekayo babathinteka ngokubambisana okuncane: bathi, ngoba lokhu kubuthakathaka besifazane. Futhi beqinisile. Sekuyisikhathi eside izazi zezinkanyezi ziqiniseka ukuthi izingcingo ezide zithi "azikho lutho" - umsebenzi ozithandayo wezocansi ezifanele, futhi kubantu abavamile le ndlela yokukhulumisana iyisimo esiyisisekelo. Okubi nakakhulu, phakathi kwabo kuningi labo labo, lapho becabanga ukuthi kufanele baphendule ucingo noma benze ucingo ngokwabo, baqale ukuthuthumela, bavuke futhi bathuthumele. Kungcono bavumelane ukuchitha ubusuku bodwa kanye noninazala, kodwa ngeke bathathe ifoni ekhaya. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, ngezinye izikhathi asinalo elinye ithuba lokuxhumana nomuntu othandekayo! Yini okufanele yenziwe manje? Yebo, akukho lutho olukhethekile, udinga nje ukucabangela lokho okushiwo yi-psychology yesilisa - yikho konke.
Izidalwa zasebusuku
Indlela abalingani abaziphatha ngazo embhedeni, nabo babe nobuhlobo ocingweni. Abesifazane, njengombuso, bafuna izinkulumo ezimnandi zethenda, ukuze zihlale isikhathi eside. Futhi izinduna zizama ukuqedela konke ngokushesha, ukuze zibuyele ezindabeni zabo ezingathí sina, ezingokoqobo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, uma unqume ukukhuluma nomthandi wakho ngalokhu futhi ufuna ukuzwakala ngesikhathi esifanayo, zama ukumbiza ebusuku. Iqiniso liwukuthi abameleli bobulili obuqinile kakhulu banesici esisodwa: ebusuku basuke bengabethembi, beqotho futhi bezimisele ukuxhumana nabo.
Ama-Rough-offs
Kwabesilisa abaningi kuwuphawu lokunciphisa ingxoxo, futhi akucabangi ukuthi akusohloni ukuqonda. Bavele banqume ukuthi usuvele ubatshele konke ulwazi oludingayo kusukela ekubukeni kwabo, ngakho-ke bafaka ipayipi ngonembeza ocacile. Amadoda nekhanda akafi ukushiya imishwana engenasici ekupheleni kwengxoxo kuphela ekupheleni kwayo. Ngakho ungacasuliwe abathandekayo bakho - banesitayela esinjalo, futhi bona ngokwabo akunakwenzeka ukuwushintsha. Kungcono ukuhlela isivumelwano nomyeni wakho noma umngane wakho esikhathini esizayo, ukuze kuthi, lapho ezwa isifiso esingenakuphikiswa sokulenga, ukuxwayisa okwesibili ngaphambili ngenkulumo emibandela njengokuthi: "Yebo, sizoxoxa nabanye ngokuzayo."
Izifundazwe
"Ngizokubiza" - le nkulumo ifana nezwe. Bangaki abesifazane abakholelwa ezithembisweni ezinjalo zezinduna futhi bangaki izikhathi ezikhohlisayo ekulindeni kwabo! Futhi konke ngoba ayengazi: ngokuvamile le nkulumo ibizwa ngumuntu esikhundleni somunye. Kodwa lokho, omunye, kuzothumela njengesigwebo: "Kuphelile, angisithandi". Futhi akuyona yonke ilungu lezocansi ezinamandla okuyoba namandla okulikhuluma. Kodwa isithembiso esingesibophezelo sokubiza simvumela kuqala ukuthi angalimazi umphefumulo womuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili, futhi okwesibili, kufanelekile ukuphuma esimweni esingathandeki, njengoba egcine ubuso bakhe, ngokusho. Ngakho-ke, uma uzwile le nkulumo evela kumuntu, ungayithathi ngokoqobo. Nakuba ... ithemba lifa ekugcineni!
Abakhohlisi
Enye, umbuzo ongashiyi phansi: kungenzeka yini ukuvumelanisa nomuntu ocingweni, uma uxabana? Lapha konke kuxhomeke esimweni esithile. Isibonelo, usola ukuthi ukuxabana phakathi kwakho kuyisisusa kuphela, kodwa empeleni, ubuhlobo bakho buphelile futhi, cishe kungenzeka, ukuphela kokuphela kokuqeda. Khona-ke akusizi ngalutho ukunxusa imizwa yabathandekayo, njenge heroine ka-Irina Muravieva evela ku-movie ethi "Carnival": khumbula indlela ahlabelela ngayo ngokucindezeleka: "Ngibize, shayela !!!" Ngeke ubize. Futhi, cishe kungenzeka, akakaze. Futhi uma ufuna ukumshayela, bese ulungele, uzimisele ukukhuluma efonini nendoda, ukuzwa ngakolunye uhlangothi lucingo owenze inombolo yephutha. Kodwa noma ngabe kukhona ukuphikisana, nje ngoba omunye wenu ujabule, kungcono ukungakha ubuhlobo ngefoni noma ubuso nobuso. Khona-ke uzoba nethuba elingcono kakhulu lokuphumelela. Efonini kufanelekile ukuxoxisana kuphela ngendawo nesikhathi sokuxoxisana ngokuthula.
Ubuvila
Kuyamangalisa ukuthi ukuzwa komuntu okhethiwe kuyini, futhi cishe bekufanele uqiniseke ngakho. Ukuthembeka kwakho ngokweqile kuhlukanisa, isibonelo, i-wiring ephazamisayo ekhanyekayo ekamelweni elilandelayo, kodwa ayizwa i-trill ephezulu ekhanda lakhe. Usukela phezulu ekhishini uye egumbini lokuphumula ukuze uphendule ucingo, futhi ngokumangalayo uyaqaphela ukuthi umyeni uhlezi kulesi sakhiwo futhi ufunda iphephandaba ngokuthula. Futhi ekucaseni kwakho emoyeni wengane engenacala, uyabuza: "Yini, othile akubizile?" Iqiniso liwukuthi, uyaqiniseka ukuthi: 99 kwabangu-100 bayakubiza, hhayi yena. Khona-ke kungani uthola ifoni, uma usadingeka uyithumele kuwe? Kunendlela eyodwa kuphela yokushintsha isimo. Mtshele ukuthi uma uzinikela ekuthatheni izinkinga zokugeza izitsha, ugeze, uhlanze, upheke, uhlanganise, uhlanganise, uchithe udoti, njll. Usenethemba lokuthi umsebenzi ohloniphekile - ukuya efonini - ukuhlukanisa ngamabili.
I-Revnivtsy
Abantu abaningi bayazi nalesi sithombe: umphathi wakho ukushayela ucingo ekhaya, efuna ukuxoxa ngokushesha ngamaqhinga wezingxoxo zakusasa, futhi ulalelisisa amazwi akhe. Kodwa ngokungazelelwe uqaphele ukuthi ebusweni bomyeni wakho kukhona imizwa engaqondakaliyo - ngezwi elifanayo ayenalo lapho ekhona lapho ezalwa. Uvele udidekile, ingxoxo no-boss ayitholakali, kancane kancane - futhi sekuyisikhathi sokuyeka. Futhi icala ngento yonke - umhawu wabantu, ongaqondakali kusukela ekubukeni kwesayensi, ezingxoxweni zezintombi zabo efonini, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngubani. Yini okufanele uyenze ezimweni ezinjalo? Uma kunokwenzeka, ngokushesha ushiye idivaysi kwelinye igumbi, njengoba bathi, ngaphandle kokubona. Uma unomfana ofikayo, ke ngesikhathi sokuvakasha kwakhe, cisha ifoni ngokuphelele - uthando lufanele!
Shy
Ucabanga ukuthi uma ezinsukwini zaseRomeo noJuliet kwakukhona ucingo, ingabe wayezoba nensizwa ekhuthele ukuyichazela ngothando? Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi akunakwenzeka, ikakhulu uma abangane noma umndeni wakhe beseduze. Wayengathanda ukwenza indlela yakhe ebhodini phakathi kwamabili ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakhe, ngaphandle kokwesaba ezinye izindlebe zabantu. Phela, noma ngubani omele ubulili obuqine ukwesaba ukuthi uzobe esolwa ngokuthi unesihe! Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ngeke akhulume amagama afunayo ngisho nangesibhamu, uma kukhona ngisho nokusola okuncane ukuthi abanye abantu bangamkhathalela. Ngakho ungathukutheli ku-chevalier yakho uma ephendula eyakho: "Ngiyakuthanda" ukuvimbela ukukhononda emsebenzini: "Mina nami" (lokhu kungcono kakhulu!), Noma ngisho nje ukubeka it tube. Ufuna ukuzwa kusuka kumuntu amazwi okuthandana okuthandwayo - yenza ukuvuma kwakho kuphela kumuntu, emhlanganweni.
Ukufingqa, sifuna ukukunikeza iseluleko esisodwa: ukuze ugweme ukungezwani, xhumana nomuntu oyithandayo ngocingo njengenqabile ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma kungenakufinyelela kwakho, kungcono ukuhambisana nayo. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi yiziphi izincwadi ezinhle zothando ezihlobisa amanoveli kanye namanoveli ezifundiswa zezincwadi zomhlaba. Kodwa akukho ingxoxo eyodwa yocingo enjalo ...
Uthini kuwe kuwe efonini ...
1. "Uxolo, othile ukhalela emnyango" (ekhaya) noma "Abahambeli beza kimi" (emsebenzini).
2. "Umshini wokuphendula awubhalisanga kanjani amagama ami, engakusho lapho ngikubiza lapho ungekho?"
3. "Ngeshwa, ngimatasa okwamanje. Uma ngikhululekile, ngizokubiza. "
4. "Sawubona! Angiqondi ukuthi kwenzekani. Ingabe unezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kunami? "
5. "Sawubona, ingabe lokhu kuhlanza okomile? O, ngicabanga ukuthi ngishayele inombolo yakho yefoni ngephutha! "
6. "Ngingakubiza ngemuva kwesikhathi esincane? Manje ngibheke umdlalo webhola neqembu lami elithandayo. "
... futhi kusho ukuthini
1. "Okwamanje nginomsebenzi othakazelisayo kakhulu kunokuxoxa nawe."
2. "Khumbula, ngiphinde ngilikhohlwa ukukubiza, nakuba ungangibuza ngalo usuku olulandelayo!"
3. "Anginaso isifiso sokukhuluma nawe-cha, hhayi nanini."
4. "Ngikukhumbula kakhulu, futhi nakuba ngizonda ifoni, ngisacela ukuba ngiqaphele."
5. "Nginamahloni lapho ngikubiza, ngakho ngifuna isizathu esifanele."
6. "Ngingakubiza ngemuva kwesikhathi esincane? Manje ngibheke umdlalo webhola neqembu lami elithandayo "