1. Amadoda abeka umgomo wokushada owesifazane omuhle nowengqondo. Lapho umuntu eqala ukukhetha umkakhe wesikhathi esizayo, uqala ukuzikhethela izinqubo eziningi. Ngokwalezi zindlela, oshade naye ozayo kufanele ahambisane ngokugcwele njengomfazi futhi njengomama. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi amadoda athande intombazane eyodwa, kodwa angaboni kuye isithombe somfazi ofanelekayo, njengoba engazi ukupheka noma angathandi ukusula uthuli nsuku zonke.
Futhi lapha kulo mzuzwana, baqala ukucabanga ukuthi kungaba kuhle kanjani ukushada noKate Simonina, ngoba uyakwazi ukupheka, angakwazi ukunakekela izimbali zikamama, futhi angathanda futhi ohlangothini, njengoba bacabanga. Abazali abaningi kakhulu bazitshela izingane zabo ukuthi bathanda owodwa, kodwa bahlala nomunye umuntu futhi kubo kubhekwa njengokujwayelekile. Ngale ndlela batshela izingane zabo ukuthi akukho lutho olubi ngalokhu.
2. Amadoda avame ukufuna okuhle. Futhi njengoba kubonakaliswe yisayensi, abakho abantu abalungile, kodwa abawavimbeli. Kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ayitholi ilungile. Futhi kwenzeke, futhi ngokuphambene nalokho, uhlangana, kodwa kamuva wadumala futhi wenza izenzo zokuhlaselwa.
3. Kwenzeka futhi lokhu kungukuthi lapho amadoda eshada ngokuvumelana nokubala. Phela, amadoda aswele kakhulu ukuzethemba esikhathini esizayo. Phela, akuwona wonke umuntu ongamelana nalesi simo emphakathini, ukukhula komsebenzi, amandla, udumo, konke lokhu kufakwe kumkakhe. Abaningi bakha imishado futhi ngenxa yokubala balungele ukushada ngisho nomfazi omdala wesabekayo.
4. Kwenzeka futhi ukuthi amadoda acabange ukuthi abantu abashadile baphila isikhathi eside kakhulu. Noma yiliphi umuntu olinganiselwe amaphupho omndeni. Abanye abantu baphupha nje ngale njabulo, ngoba ebusheni bethu siphupha, futhi lapho sikhulile siqala ukucinga ukuthi siphila futhi sibuka ngokucophelela ukuba singenzi amaphutha. Futhi ekugcineni, akukho lutho esingenakukwazi ukunquma. Futhi siqala ukuqaphela ukuthi konke sekuyisikhathi eside usungule isidleke somndeni, kodwa awunawo. Futhi-ke kukhona izihlobo ezithi udinga ukushada. Futhi-ke le ndoda ibambelela egameni futhi kumele ishade ngaphandle kwothando.
Kunezizathu eziningi kangaka zokuthi kungani amadoda eshada nabanye. Kodwa ikakhulukazi imishado enjalo iyobhujiswa. Phela, ubudlelwane bomndeni buhluleka ngokuphelele ukuqonda, ukuhlonipha futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, imizwa.