Yini ngempela eqinisa ubuhlobo?

Izindabakwane zezingane ziye zachazwa ngokucacile kubo bonke amantombazane isithombe sokuphila okuhle: uthando kumele lube ludingeka ekutholeni kuqala, ukuhamba ngomshado ngaphansi kwenyanga nezinyanga ezinezintambo ngefasitela kuyisibopho esiqinile, kanti isikhulu (Yebo, ngaphandle kwezinkinga zezindlu) ukuzwa isimo sezintandokazi nezilwandle eziyisikhombisa. Yebo, yini okufanele uyenze kulabo abangenalo i-canon? Uma ukholwa izithombe ezinkundleni zokuxhumana nabantu kanye nokuhlakula izinsini "Uthando lu ..", uthando lwangempela lwenziwa ezinhlobonhlobo ezingekho kubhajethi, ingozi yomlilo njalo (amakhandlela, amakhandlela!), Futhi iyakhuphuka ekuphumeni kwelanga. Kwakuhambisana nalesi simo ukuthi uSveta noDima bawunqoba umncintiswano womshado emaphepheni womshado ngokubandakanya okuthandana kakhulu (waguqa eSt. Mark's Square eVenice futhi wabeka indandatho, izivakashi zajabula, amajuba adla isinkwa esiphindwe kabili). Yiqiniso, labo abasanda kushada babaleka izinyanga ezimbalwa ngemva komshado, kodwa lokhu akuzange kubhalwe kulo magazini.

Kukhona enye indaba, mayelana nokuthi umndeni osanda kushaywa uphonswa kanjani ngokulungiswa yizigodla ezintathu ezilandelanayo. Okokuqala, abanye abantu abampofu baqala impi - hhayi nomqondisi, kepha ngomunye nomunye - futhi baphazamise umqulu wephepha lodonga.

Khona-ke ukuqonda okuvamile kwande, intsha yaphetha ukuxoshwa ekufuneni onecala futhi yaqala ukuhamba ngale nkinga ngendlela ehambisana nayo. Futhi ucabange: ekupheleni kokulungiswa kwakunguSathane oyedwa kulo mzekeliso. Abathandekayo babengasabikhali, kodwa babehlekisiwe, kangangokuthi abanye babe nomona. Iphikisana nombuzo: ingabe idliwe ndawonye ndawonye i-pood of nosawoti iqinisa inyunyana ukuthi iphumelele kunokuba i-vanilla ihlale eMaldives?

Akusikho ukuthi ngincenga ukuphazamisa zonke izimfanelo zothando. Futhi izimpondo ezibomvu embhedeni wothando, nezipho ezingahlambuluki ekuthungeni imiphakheji, futhi ziqala ndawonye - konke lokhu ubuhle ngezikhathi ezithile kuyamnandi futhi ngokuvamile, kuyaqinisa. Enye into ukuthi ngeke ugcwale amaqebelengwane wedwa; Ngokuvamile ngiyayithanda amazambane. Futhi lesi sichazamazwi se-gastronomic sihambelana kahle nesigaba sobuhlobo. Ngokuvamile, phansi nezinganekwane ngemibhangqwana eqinile - nikeza iqiniso, okuletha ndawonye ngempela!

Bayeke bathi: "Ngempela abantu abathandanayo bayaqondana ngaphandle kwamagama, okungenani - ngegama lesigamu."

Eqinisweni
Ingabe ufuna ukuhlala ngokujabula njalo emva kwesikhathi? Siyakwamukela etafuleni lokuxoxisana! Isabelomali esihlangene, ukuhlanza indlu, ukuvakashelwa kwezihlobo, inombolo evumelekile yokudlala ngothando emaphathini - kulabo abahlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo, izihloko ezincane azikho. Ukwandisa izivumelwano eziningi (futhi uhlu lwezigwebo zokungafezeki kwezinkontileka), okungenani empilweni yethu kuyoba impilo yangasendle ephule phakathi kwemikhumbi yothando. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umkhuba wokuveza ngokuqondile nangokuzwakalisa, hhayi ngokukhala komlilo nokuphefumula okukhulu, kuqinisekisiwe ukusindisa ukungaqondani okuningi okuyiziphukuphuku. Isibonelo, uma utshela kusengaphambili ukuthi yini ongathanda ukuyithola ngenxa yokuzalwa kwakho, cishe, cishe uzothola. Esimweni esibi kunazo zonke, isigamu sakho sizozisola futhi njengoba kuchaza ngokucacile ukuthi kungani singakwazi ukufeza isifiso. Kodwa-ke, uma ufuna idrama, izinyembezi nezinsolo - indlela ehlongozwayo akusobala.

Ngokombono wezingane ezihloniphekile ze-psychotherapists, esinye sezihluthulelo zenyunyana ephumelelayo yikhono lokuxoxa ngemithetho ebekiwe futhi iguqulwe ngokushesha nje lapho behluleka ukuziphatha. Futhi kwenzeka okungaphezu kwesisodwa. Ukuphila okuhlangene, ukubhaliswa komshado, ukuzalwa kwezingane - isinyathelo ngasinye sidinga ukubuyekezwa kwezivumelwano ezifanele kuze kube manje. I-unromantic, ngendlela yokuphendula - kodwa inokwethenjelwa. Futhi ngifuna ukusho ukuthi akukho lutho oluqinisa ubuhlobo njengomsebenzi ohlangene ohlangene. Futhi akubaluleke kakhulu, kuyoba ukugibela ihhashi ngaphansi kwenyanga, esikoleni se-tango noma umzamo wokubamba imoto engcolile. Uma uphumelela ngokubhekana nomsebenzi wokugcina, kuzoba yingxenye yomlando wakho futhi ikuvumela ukuba uzwe umuzwa omuhle "singakwazi!". Futhi lokhu kunqoba okuncane kunokwenzeka ukuba uqaphele kakhulu ukuthi akuyona isidlo sothando.

Bavumele bathi:
"Abantu abavamile abathwali izingubo ezingcolile ezikhungweni zabo futhi bangatshele ukuthi bangaphandle yini okwenzekayo esidlekeni sabo somndeni."

Eqinisweni
Futhi bangabangani nama-psychoanalyst? Ngisho nalabo abaphumelele emncintiswaneni wombhangqwana ongcono kakhulu ngezikhathi ezithile ukuxabana, pout, ukuthula futhi ucabange ngomlingani oqondayo. Uma ngezikhathi ezinjalo uziqhenya ngokuzithoba bese uhlaziya ukuthuka wedwa, kunengozi enkulu yokuthi konke lokhu kuzothola okwamanje okungapheli, futhi uzoba umthwalo wokucindezeleka.

Ngandlela-thile, umehluko phakathi kokuthi "ukwabelana" no "nayabednichat" kubaluleke kakhulu, futhi kulula ukubamba. Tshela umngane wakho wesifuba ngemizwa yakhe engathandekile, ubeke i-ponyt ehlombe lakhe udle ikhekhe eliduduzayo emphakathini omnandi - konke lokhu akubandakanyi ukungathengi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umngane, uma ehleka kahle (futhi kuphela lokhu kufanele kukhethwe), kungaba kuhle kakhulu ukuphawula ngesimo lapho intukuthelo izosheshe ichithe khona. Futhi ukuze ungazizwa ungakhululekile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi (futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuze ungamkhohlisi intombi / umama / umphakathi we-inthanethi), ngesikhathi sokudalulwa, kungcono ukugwema imininingwane esondelene kakhulu, kanye nokwehlisa okubonakalayo kwendoda yakho ethandekayo. Kodwa wena ngokwakho usho lutho. Ukuqaphelisa hhayi kuphela ngemfanelo yakhe engafaneleki, kodwa futhi ngokusobala okucacile, uthola ithuba elihle lokubuka impikiswano kusuka ohlangothini bese ufika ngendlela enengqondo yokuyixazulula.

Baye bathi : "Imibhangqwana ejabulayo ayikhathali omunye nomunye, futhi ngeke ahlale ndawonye."

Eqinisweni
Ngiyakhumbula eminyakeni engesikhatsi esikude esikoleni engiye ngayizwa kumfundisi oyedwa ohlakaniphile ukuthi ebuhlotsheni bokuhlangenwe nakho kwezikhathi kubalulekile kakhulu. Isikhathi sidlulile, futhi kwavela ukuthi lezi zikhathi zidinga ngempela umoya - okungenani ukuze zithole ukubonakala futhi zibacebise ngenhlangano yazo. Futhi ukubuka ohlangothini lwalokho okwenzeka phakathi kwakho nomthande wakho. Futhi, mhlawumbe, into yokulungisa.

Eqinisweni, impilo yomlingani ngamunye noma oshade naye ngokujulile, kulula futhi kuyathakazelisa ukuba bahlale ndawonye. Okokuqala, akudingekile ukwabelana ngezintshisekelo ezahlukene zomngane. Ukwenza lokhu, kunabangani, imiphakathi namaqembu ahlosiwe, okuvumela ukuba uzicabange ekuzilibazisa kwakho okuthandayo ngekhanda lakho, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukungaqondi kahle, ukuphazamiseka nezinye "hhayi-". Okwesibili, ukuze uthole injabulo ephelele, abangani bayadingeka: hhayi kuphela izinkampani ezomsindo, kodwa futhi nemihlangano yokuhlala nokukhuluma ngokuthungatha okuyimfihlo nokuhleba. Okwesithathu, uma lokhu kungenzeki, izihloko eziyinhloko ezingxoxweni zomshado zizohlala zihamba "ku-Auchan" kanye ne-snot kusuka komncane. Ingabe uyayidinga? Ngokuthembeka, okubalulekile akuyona isikhathi esichithwa ndawonye, ​​kodwa kuphela ikhwalithi yayo. Uphuthelana? Ingabe unakho okumele ukhulume ngakho? Izimpendulo ezihle kule mibuzo zizuzisa kakhulu, okusho ukuthi kufanele uphuze futhi uthuthuke, futhi uthole okwanele izingxoxo. Uma lokhu udinga ukuchitha ingxenye yeholide ngokwehlukana, emazweni ahlukene noma kumazwekazi ahlukene - umdlalo ufanele lelikhandlela!