Sonke siyazi ukuthi njengomthetho, abameleli abaningi bezocansi abanamandla isithembu. Futhi lokhu kubonakala ngisho nasesimweni lapho umuntu efakazela ngokulangazela lokho enhliziyweni yakhe ukuthi akakho indawo yomunye umuntu ngaphandle kwakho kuphela. Ezimweni eziningi, ukuthanda kwakho okuthembekile kusabheka abanye besifazane, futhi ngezinye izikhathi bahambe "eceleni." Futhi, eqinisweni, esimeni esinjalo esingathandeki, wonke owesifazane, "uyisisulu" sezimo, ucabanga ngokujulile mayelana nendlela yokungahambisani nomyeni wakhe ukuba ahambe?
Ngakho-ke, uma ungakhathazeki ngokushaywa komuntu ozithandayo (futhi kungenzeka ukuthi,), kufanele uzame zonke izindlela zokuwuthonya. Sinikeza izinketho ezimbalwa ongakhetha ngazo kalula "ukubulala" ekuthandeni komkami ukuhamba okungadingeki ngemuva komkakhe.
Hamba, hamba, kodwa khumbula imiphumela!
Indlela ehlukumezeka kakhulu, ngosizo esiludinga umyeni ukuhamba ngalo - ukusongela ngokuphelele abathembekile. Cha, yebo, lapha akukhona neze ukusetshenziswa kwamandla nezinye izindlela, okungesabisa ngisho nendoda, kumdumaze ekuhambeni. Konke okumele ukwenze ukubeka ohlwini lwezincwadi zomndeni njengokubaluleka komndeni njengokuphila okunye ndawonye, ukusongela oshade naye ngesahlukaniso. Ngokuvamile, isitatimende sohlelo olunjalo sinomphumela osheshayo. Kodwa-ke, kaningi akunconywa ukuba basebenzise izinyathelo ezinjalo zokuthinta "i-gulena" yakho, ngaphandle kwalokho usongo lwalolu hlobo luyokhula nje zibe "amazwi ajwayelekile emoyeni" futhi ngeke kuthathwe ngokungathí sina. Futhi okunye okunye, le ndlela, ehlose ukukhipha umlingani ukuhamba, ine "imfucumfucu" yayo. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, uma umyeni wakho ebhekene nobuthakathaka obunzima besipredishithi, angashintsha kalula ukuphila komkhaya nokuziphatha okuzenzekelayo ukuze uthole inkululeko ephelele yokusebenza.
Kodwa akufanele yini aphazamise izinhlelo zakhe?
Indlela yesibili yokugcina umyeni ovuthiwe ekhaya - kuyo yonke indlela engamvimbela ekusebenziseni izinhlelo zakhe. Futhi lapha njengoba bethi: "Zonke izindlela zilungile!". Okokuqala, siza umyeni wakho ngezocansi ezivamile. Futhi uma uthola ubudlelwane obuseduze kakhulu (ngokwesilinganiso, izikhathi ezintathu ngosuku), kungcono. Zama ukukhipha wonke ama-juice avela kumyeni ekudoneni kokugcina bese ngokuqinisekile akafuni, noma kunalokho, akakwazi ukulandela umzamo wokuzijabulisa. Ngandlela-thile, noma yikuphi emhlabeni akufanele ukhathalele uthando njengendlela yokuphoqelela noma inkolelo eqinile. Khumbula ukuthi kulula kakhulu ukuba amadoda ahlukanise amanga ngobuqiniso bezinhloso, ngoba indoda ibona owesifazane ohlala naye ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa, ngokusebenzisa futhi. Ngokuziphatha kwakhe okukhohlisayo awukwazi nje ukumenza angahambisani naye ukuba ahambe "ohlangothini", kodwa ngisho nokucindezela oshade naye.
Kodwa, futhi uma ubulili obuvamile bungeke buhambisane nezinhlelo zakho, ungajoyina ngempelasonto yothando lomlingani wakho. Kungani ungabonisi isibindi futhi ungabuyiselwa kabusha "kumfundisikazi wothando" wezocansi, okukwazi ukumangaza indoda yakho njalo lapho ulala embhedeni. Lapha, izimpahla ezisuka esitolo socansi, izikhundla ezintsha zobulili, ama-caresses, njll kungasiza. Ngelinye igama, kufanele wenze konke okuzokwenza ukuthi umyeni wakho avuselele ngokwengeziwe isikhathi esisha, ngokuqinisekile, ngezwi elihle. Ngenxa yalokho, oshade naye uzojwayela ukulala ocansini elicwengileko, futhi ukuvinjelwa kwamanqamu "ngakwesobunxele" kuzomvimbela ukuba angabangela isithakazelo.
Futhi nokho umsebenzi uyisulu!
Kodwa nansi inothi yenye indlela ehlukile kakhulu yokuqeda umyeni wakhe - ukuyigcwalisa ngezinkinga zasekhaya. Yithwale ngomsebenzi ngokugcwele ukuze angenayo isikhathi sokuba "amandla" akhe. Kodwa asikhuthazi ukusebenzisa imishwana yepulani "kumele" noma "ubophekile". Ukucela umlingani ngokuhlanganyela kwakhe emisebenzini yasendlini kuyadingeka ngomusa nangomusa, kulo mzuzu lapho umuntu ekwazi ukuphakama kwakhe nokuhlonipha owesifazane ngamakhono akhe futhi ngenjabulo enkulu uyokwenza konke angayikubuzwa ngakho.
Futhi ekugcineni, uma ungumsekeli wokuthembeka, khona-ke khuluma nomlingani wakho ngokuqondile bese uzama ukuthola izizathu zentshiseko yakhe "yokuhamba", ngoba ingxoxo elula engenakukwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga eziningi zomndeni!