Izizathu eziyinhloko zokwehliswa komuntu ukuthi imizwa ihamba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi ukunamathisela iminyaka eminingi yokuhlala ndawonye kuhlala. Izizathu zenguquko zihlukene kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi akunakwenzeka ukuqonda ukuthi yini amadoda ayifunayo. Ubuqili bamadoda yisona sizathu esiyinhloko sokuwa komndeni, njengoba abesifazane beshintsha kancane.
Indoda, njengengane, idinga isikhathi esiningi nokunakekelwa, ukuzwelana nokuthandana, ukuqonda futhi uma ingakutholi lokhu kusuka ekudingeni, iyahamba ehlangothini, njll. uqala ukushintsha.
Ukukhohlakala komuntu kungabuyisela impindiselo. Lapho ethola umkakhe embhedeni nomunye, ugijima ngokushesha ukuze enze okufanayo, kumbi womthandi wakhe. Lesi senzo akusilo ngamabomu futhi kuyisibophezelo kuphela.
Isizathu singaba nesimo esihle kangaka ekuphileni kwanoma yimuphi owesifazane, njengokukhulelwa. Ngezinye izikhathi kule nkathi, ngezinye izikhathi ubuhlobo obuseduze buvinjelwe, ukugcina impilo, kokubili ingane kanye nomama osemusha ozayo. Futhi futhi amanye amadoda agijimela ukwanelisa omunye wesifazane.
Amadoda abonakala ngokukhashelwa futhi asekhulile, ngisho nasebudala. Njengoba owesifazane ngenxa yobudala bakhe noma kakade ngenxa yesimo sakhe sempilo akakwazi ukwanelisa umphefumulo wakhe womshado.
Uma uthumela umyeni ohambweni olude lwebhizinisi noma ukusebenza kwelinye izwe, qaphela. Ukuhlukaniswa isikhathi eside ezimweni eziningi kwenza umsebenzi kanye namadoda, befuna ukuzithokozisa kude nabafazi babo, baye esenzweni esinjalo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, beza ekhaya, bafunga ngothando olungapheli ngesigamu sabo sesibili. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngamunye wethu ozobhekana nalokhu uzokwazi ukuhlala nomuntu onjalo.
Kukhona uhlobo lwabahlubuki abangenayo imisebenzi enhle nje egazini labo. Bathanda ngempela oyedwa, kodwa abayeki ukubuka nokufuna amanye amantombazane. Kubo, lokhu akusikho ukuhlukumezeka okungokomoya, kodwa nje ubulili obusha.
Kukhona amadoda anjalo angakwazi ukusekela kokubili umfazi nenkosikazi, noma eyodwa. Ukuhlala nomuntu onjalo kuphela ngenxa yenhlalakahle yempilo kukuwe.
Isizathu esengeziwe singabizwa ngokuthi kunezimo lapho umyeni wakhe engaboni ngokobulili. Ezimweni ezinjalo, owesifazane akaziqapheli, uthatha amakhilogremu amaningi ngemva kokubeletha, elahlekelwe ukubukeka kwakhe okuhle, okwakudonsela umyeni wakhe ngesikhathi esifanele.
Ngokuvamile kukhona amanoveli ezisemthethweni kanye nezimo lapho abesifazane ngokwabo baphoqeleka khona futhi bahlushwa (kukhona okunjalo!) Kubantu, futhi nabo, abakwazi ukumelana nokulwa nesilingo.
Futhi-ke, ubonile izizathu eziyinhloko zokukhawulwa komuntu futhi sonke siyaqonda ukuthi umgomo wokukhaphela bonke, kahle, noma cishe konke, ukwanelisa izidingo zakhe zomuntu.
Futhi izizathu eziyinhloko zokukhwabanisa, uma ubheka cishe yonke into kuncike kithi besifazane nakuziphatha kwethu, isimo sengqondo kubantu abathandekayo bethu.
Bobabili abesifazane nabesilisa kufanele baqonde isabelo sonke somthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zabo komunye nomunye, kubantwana babo abathandekayo, kubazali abathandekayo. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngenxa yezenzo zabo ezingenangqondo, izenzo ezihlukumezayo zihlupheka abantu abancane nabomdabu.
Noma yikuphi ukungathembeki komuntu ngokushesha kuvele kwaziwa kwenye ingxenye, futhi umphumela wakho konke lokhu kuyinhliziyo ephukile yomfazi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi impilo yonke. Vumelani abantwana, ngoba kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwabazali, ngoba wonke umuntu uyadonsela eceleni. Thandanani, hhayi lapho kungashintshi!