Inkulumo yomphakathi ihlale icindezela, futhi emhlanganweni wokuqala nesoka lesikhathi esizayo awunikezeli amashadi okukhula okuhlomula okubanjelwe ekupheleni kwekota, kanti ozobiza kakhulu. Futhi uma kunenkampanini yezinkampani zamafutha kunethuba lokukhanyisa inkulumo emfushane nenamandla, ukupholisa ngokucophelela yonke imisho phambi kwesibuko, bese kuthi ngosuku, ngesizathu esithile, akunakwenzeka ukuba umane ugaye ucezu lwe-strudel kahle. Ukuthinta okungalungile nokucindezela okucindezelayo komzimba kubonisa izinkinga ezifihlekile ezingokwengqondo ngaphakathi kwazo. Yilokho, ikhofi ephangiwe, ingubo oyintandokazi - intengo enhle yeli thuba ekugcineni ukuqonda ukuthi kungani kunzima kuwe ukuba ube yindalo futhi uvule nendoda.
Ukwenza izenzo eziyinqaba futhi ngezinye izikhathi eziyingozi kwenza sikwesabe ukwenqatshwa, futhi asikwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba kwabantu. Sesaba ukudumala umngane omusha, futhi njengokungathi ngenhloso senza konke ukwenza umhlangano ube ngowokuqala nowokugcina. Esinye sezizathu zokuziphatha kwethu okungcolile "kuyisidingo esingavumelani sokwamukelwa nokuhlolwa okuhle." Ngenxa yokungabi naluthando, umthwalo wemfanelo uthathwa ngabazali, okwathi ngezizathu ezithile abahlulekile ukuhlinzeka ukushisa okudingekayo eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlazeka kusenza sibe nzima kakhulu. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo ucabanga: ukubonakaliswa kwami kwemvelo kuyingozi! Lo mzwa ubizwa ngabantu abaye bagxekwa njalo, njengabantwana, bemisa futhi balahlwe. Ngakho, ngokuqhubeka nosuku, khumbula ukuthi umthombo wokuvunywa ungaphakathi. Ukuziqhenya kwakho akuxhomekile embonweni womuntu.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukukhamuluka kuguqulwa kube ukuvinjelwa ukukhululeka. Futhi izingane, ezazivame ukubuyiselwa emuva, zithola kunzima ukuthola ukuxhumana nezidingo zabo zangaphakathi lapho sezikhulile. Umzimba, ngenxa yalokho, uthinta ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka, njengokungathi ukufa nokusivikela ekuzizweleni okuqinile. Ukukhubazeka okucabangelayo nakho kunencazelo engokwenyama ngokuphelele. Ngenxa yenjabulo enkulu, sivame ukuphefumula ngokweqile, ngenxa yesimo esibi kakhulu esinikezwa i-oksijeni nokukhula kanzima.
Emaminithi angu-40 ngaphambi kokuphuma, cisha ifoni, uhlale endaweni ekhululekile, uqondise emuva, futhi ugxile ekuvuseleleni nasekuphumeni, uzizwe ukuhamba kwesifuba. Bese uzama ukunciphisa kancane bese uqinisa ukuphefumula kwakho. Ungabi nentshiseko kakhulu, inqubo kufanele ibe yendalo. Uzobona ukuthi isimo sangaphakathi sizoshintsha kanjani, uzozizwa unesizotha, uzinzile futhi uqiniseka ngokwengeziwe. Amadoda asithethelela ukubhuka nokungaqondakali kulula kakhulu kunalokho esikwenzayo ngokwethu.
Kulokhu, akwanele ukuphinda izikhathi ezingu-101 ngaphambi kwesibuko "Ngingumhle kakhulu, wonke umuntu ujabulela nami!". Thuthukisa ama-yoga, ama-pilates nama-psychotherapy sessions ukuthuthukisa ukwamukelwa komzimba kuphela, kodwa ngesimo sangaphakathi sesifazane.
Ijubane le-rapprochement lihlukile kubo bonke, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ekuthutheleni esikhaleni esiseduze esinokuxhumana lapho kungenzeka khona. Kufanelekile ukuqala ukwakha ubudlelwane ngokukhanya kwezinto zakho ezikhethekile.
Uma ungakakulungeli ukuxhumana nomzimba, xhumana ngokukhululekile. Futhi lokhu kuzosiza ukufundela umsebenzi olula. Phakathi nengxoxo, qaphela ukuthi yikuphi ibanga elikhululekile kuwe. Ukuqaphela ukuthi umgwaqo uwele (uzozizwa ukucindezeleka emzimbeni), kancane kancane. I-interlocutor engazi ukuthi uyisiginali sakho futhi uthatha isinyathelo emuva (uma, uma kunjalo, ufuna ukudala ukuphazamiseka). Ngaphezu kwalokho, qinisa isenzo ngamagama. Chaza ukuthi manje awukakulungeli ukwamukela, kodwa uzokujabulela ukuxhuma kancane kancane. Susa ukungazi kahle, umbuze ngokuqondile: "Ngendlela, sizophinde sibhekane nini?"
Ukuze uphinde uthole okusemqoka ngaphakathi kwakho, futhi ufunde ukuthi unganqoba kanjani ukwesaba abantu, zama ukuthola phansi phansi phansi kwezinyawo zakho. Ukuzwa ukukhungatheka, khumbula izinyawo, uzihambise kalula, uhambe kusuka ezandleni zakho kuya kwesithende - lokhu kuzosiza ukubuyisela ukuzinza nokududuzeka.
Intombazane kufanele ilalele - siyifundiswa lokhu kusukela ebuntwaneni. Futhi ukwesaba ukungaboni ngaso linye kuhlala isikhathi eside. Ngakho-ke, ngisho noma imizwelo ephikisanayo ivutha ngaphakathi, uhlala ubuso obumnandi, uzama ukufihla ukunganaki ngokujulile ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngamunye wethu unezintandokazi zethu, futhi asivamile ukuchaza ukuthi kungani abantu abathanda nabo. Ngakho-ke ungazami ukumjabulisa ngosuku lwakho lokuqala - lokhu akuyona indawo yakho yokulawula.
Esikhundleni sokuqagela "Ngiyakuthanda," cabanga ngo "ngubani ongaphambi kwami." Ngesithakazelo, cela umngane wakho mayelana nakho konke okusemhlabeni, ngenkathi ebuza imibuzo engabandakanyi impendulo ye-monosyllabic. Lokhu kuzokwenza isimo sokuthembela futhi sikusize ukuthi unqume ukuthi ungaqhubeka yini owaziyo.