Ukwesaba kuhlobene ngqo nomntwana.
Ukukhulelwa yisigaba esisha empilweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuqala noma cha. Wonke umama ozayo uzokhathazeka kulo lonke isikhathi.
Ukwesaba okokuqala kungesongo sokukhulelwa kwesisu. Lesi simo akusilo neze esesabekayo, uma ulandela ngokucophelela yonke imiyalelo kadokotela ohola ukukhulelwa kwakho. Ukwesaba futhi ulale esibhedlela zonke izinyanga ezingu-9, uma kungadingeki, akudingekile. Ngokuvamile, ezimweni ezinjalo kubalulekile ukuthatha amavithamini, ngaphezulu ukuba ube ngaphandle futhi uphumule. Elinye iphuzu kubo bonke omama abalindele: asikho isidingo sokuba "umoya". Ukuziphatha kwakho kuthinta kakhulu isimo somzimba.
Ukuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi "i-puzozhitel" ikhula. Usuqala ukuzwa ukunyakaza kwakhe. Ukwesaba okulandelayo "kungani engeke aqhubekele noma ahambe?". Ngizokhumbuza bonke abesifazane ukuthi ingane, ngenkathi isesiswini sakho, ilala ngaphezulu emini, ivukile ebusuku noma ekuseni kakhulu, uma ufuna ngempela ukulala.
Uma uqaphela ukuthi ingane ayifuni, linda amahora amathathu, mhlawumbe uphumula nje. Isikhathi sidlule, kodwa awuzizwa uhamba? Ungabizi futhi ushayele u-03. Okokuqala, zilawule, bese uzama ukukhuluma nomuntu owehlayo, ukushaya isisu sakho. Ezimweni eziningi, ingane izophendula ngokunciphisa ngobumnene nge-jerk. Futhi ulinde nje. Ukuze unqobe lokhu kwesaba okukodwa, khuluma okuningi nomntwana futhi uhambe ngesineke ngesisu.
Futhi, abaningi babhekene nokwesaba ukulimala esiswini. Ukugwema lokhu, kufanele ulandele imithetho embalwa elula:
1. Ungagqoki isithende, njengoba kukhona ithuba lokuwa.
2. Ngesikhathi sasebusika zama ukushiya indlu engaphelelanga, ungakwazi ukugoqa.
3. Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ungaqhubeki ukuhamba ngokuthutha komphakathi. Maye, abantu abakafundile ukuhlonipha abesifazane "besesikhundleni."
Yiqiniso, lokhu akuyona yonke imithetho, kodwa ingxenye enkulu ivela kulezi zintathu. Khumbula njalo ukuthi usuvele ubili, futhi umthwalo wemfanelo, ikakhulukazi, uhlale unomama ozayo.
Ukwesaba okuhambisana nezibonakaliso.
Inani elikhulu labantu bakholelwa ezibonisweni. Omama ozayo nabo bayabhekana nalesi simo. Yilapho ukwesaba kuvela ukwenza okuthile okungalungile futhi ulahlekelwe ingane.
Ukwesaba ukunqoba kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi livelaphi, futhi ngubani osongelayo. Ezimweni eziningi, laba bangamama ozithandayo, omamazala, ugogokazi noma, isibonelo, abangane abangcono kakhulu. Ngamagama, bonke labo asebevele benabantwana. Izimpawu ezivame kakhulu zihlotshaniswa nokubala izinwele noma ukuguqula isitayela sezinwele, zithi, ingane izobopha intambo yomlomo noma ifinyelele impilo yengane. Konke kuyize. Uma ukukhwabanisa komzimba kukhona ngempela, khona-ke lokhu akuwona umphumela wezinyathelo zakho nezinwele. Noma yimuphi udokotela uzothi, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi ingane yakho isebenze kakhulu, futhi ngenxa yalokho, bekukhona iphutha.
Ukwesaba ukubeletha.
Nakhu, ukwesaba okuvame kakhulu. Kuwo wonke amaplanethi eMhlabeni akekho owesifazane ongesabi ukuzalwa. Uma othile ethi okuphambene nalokho, cishe, ubuqili.
Ukuze unqobe ukwesaba, kudingeke ukuba ucabange ngalokho okwesaba kakhulu. Ukuzalwa? Ubuhlungu? Iqiniso lokuthi awukwazi ukwenza esibhedlela lapho sekuqalile ukulwa?
Ake siqale ngokuhlelekile. Ngakho, ukwesaba ukuzalwa ngokwayo kuyinto evamile. Ukuqeda ngokuphelele ngeke kuphumelele, kodwa ezandleni zakho udlulise ukwesaba ekugqaseni ukwethuka ube injabulo. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kuyadingeka ukuzilungiselela ngokuziphatha kusukela ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa. Wonke umuntu uthola indlela yokwenza. Omunye uphinda njengemantra: "Konke kuzoba kuhle," futhi othile, isibonelo, uphendukela kuNkulunkulu. Konke lokhu kumuntu ngamunye. Thola isikhubekiso sakho futhi usebenzise kuze kube yilapho uzalwa.
Uma leli gama linikezela izikhwama zokubeletha, futhi ukwesaba kakhulu ukuthi awufuni ukuzala, khona-ke lokhu kuyimeko ehlukile. Zama ukukhuluma nodokotela ozothatha izidingo. Uzosho ukuthi uma ulalela futhi wenza konke akushoyo, ngeke kube buhlungu futhi kuyabangela ukwesaba. Kuyafaneleka ukukholelwa, awunjalo owokuqala. Endabeni lapho kungekho khona khona, vele uhlezi emuva, vala amehlo akho futhi ucabange ingane yakho. Cabanga ukuthi luhlobo luni lwenjabulo oluzosakazeka emzimbeni wonke uma uzwa ukukhala okulinde isikhathi eside kwezingane ezisanda kuzalwa. Yilezi zizathu ezizokusindisa ekungeni kumthandi.
Uma wesaba ubuhlungu, khona-ke lochwepheshe ngeke asize. Ngalokhu udinga ukwamukela. Emafilimu, ukubeletha, iningi labesifazane liyakhala. Kuyinto nje ifilimu futhi ucabange ukuthi kuwe ukuzalwa kuyoba iphuzu lokugcina lokuphila akulungile. Yiqiniso, akukho injabulo enkulu ekuzalweni ngokwaso, kodwa akekho oyokwazi ukufa etafuleni. Wena-isibonelo somntwana ozayo, futhi utshele iminyaka embalwa kamuva, ukuthi kubuhlungu kanjani, wena ungakalungi. Owesifazane kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi abe namandla, ikakhulukazi ngoba lobu buhlungu bungakwazi futhi kufanele bubekezeleleke.
Ukwesaba ukungakwazi ukufika ekhaya lokubeletha lapho ukulwa kuqala, ezimweni eziningi, akusizi ngalutho. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngaphandle kokuvela emithethweni. Ukuze udluliselwe esibhedlela ngesikhathi, akudingeki ulinde kuze kube yisikhathi esiphakathi kwezingqinamba. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi izakhi ziqala noma amanzi aphelile, kufanele ushayele u-03 ngasikhathi sinye bese ubiza i-ambulensi eyokuthatha esibhedlela esibakhethiwe kusengaphambili. Zonke izinto ezidingekayo kusengaphambili, faka esikhwameni, ngoba ngeke ngokucacile ungabi ukugijima endlini, ufuna ishaja yefoni noma ikhadi lokushintshanisa. Thatha umoya ojulile, ubeke izinto eduze nokuphuma bese ulinde ngokulindile odokotela. Uma ulandela lo mthetho, khona-ke ukwesaba ukukhohlwa into edingekayo ekhaya kuyanyamalala ngokwayo. Emnyango wesibhedlela, cabanga ukuthi namuhla uzoba umama. Umuntu othandekayo futhi othandekayo wengane owawukulindele. Lezi zindinganiso zizokwenza ukuzethemba, futhi konke ukwesaba kuyothuthuka.
Ukufingqa konke okungenhla, singakhipha iqiniso elilodwa elilula. Ukwesaba ngaphakathi kithi, ngokomzimba abakwazi ukubulawa, kodwa ngokuziphatha kungenzeka. Isimo sengqondo esihle kuphela okuyimfuneko yokukhulelwa okuncane nokubeletha okuphumelelayo, okuyiwona omama abaningi abazobe befuna iminyaka eminingi.