Ngenxa yalokho, inethiwekhi yomphakathi, ogama layo lingumgogodla othi "Thola Ezomhlaba Wakho Wonke", kubonakala sengathi liyiqiniso eminyakeni engu-2-3 yobukhona beqembu labantu abaphambene nezimo ezihlukene kakhulu nezindlela zobulili. Ngokuqondile, inkampani yabantu abavamile, okuncane okuhlanjululwa yiqembu "abagibeli" ngendlela yocansi. Kodwa kaningi kangakanani kwi-inthanethi ongayithola uthando lwakho?
Kuyathakazelisa, Nokho, ucwaningo lwabantu baseRussia bezenhlalo zithi abantu bavame ukuwela emgibeni, okuboniswa esigabeni esithi "Inhloso yokwazisa" hhayi "ukuxhumana," kepha "ngokuba nobuhlobo obukhulu." Lokhu kuyiqiniso, ngokumangalisayo.
Nokho, uma umqondo wokuthola umfana ophelele futhi ukhula, ngakho konke akukubi kakhulu. Manje akuwona wonke umuntu owaziyo ukuthi inani elikhulu labancintisana abangaba khona emphakathini. amanethiwekhi afuna ama-romantic adventures kunokuba afunde nabo ekilasini nabalingane nabo, ukusebenzisa noma izithombe ezivela eBurzhunet, okungeke zenzeke zona, zilethwe ngokuhle ngohlelo, oluthola isiteketiso "Photojazz".
Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi imibono yokubonwa yilabo abathola isigamu sabo sesibili nge-Web ithi "ukuthola" kutholakale nje kumaphrojekthi afana ne "Odnoklassniki", kunasayithi elithandwayo lokuphola. Kulesi simo, izinhlu zalabo abafisa "ukuthandana ngothando" kanye "nobulili ngaphandle kokuzibophezela" ziba ngumyalo wokunciphisa amancane.
I-illusions
Masiqaphele iqiniso lokuthi izazi ze-psychologist zikhuluma, kodwa okungengcwelisiwe kakhulu ngabanikazi bezinhlelo ezinjalo kanye ne-ilk yabo. Imvelo yethu injalo yokuthi ine "umkhuba" wokugcwalisa izinhlangothi ezingaziwa ze-interlocutor futhi kungenzeka "isigamu" nemibono mayelana nenhloso yomuntu siqu. Okubaluleke kakhulu, lokhu kuthinta izikhathi zeKK kumanethiwekhi omphakathi.
Ukujwayela i-intanethi yaseRashiya nensizwa engenayo isithombe esiphezulu kakhulu ekhasini lemibuzo yakhe, uqala ukucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha kabi kuvele kube ubuhle obuhle. Uma ubona isithombe esihle esinomfanekiso ovulekile futhi ukhuluma naye ngezingxoxo, cishe ucabanga ukuthi ukhuluma nabasePavaroti, futhi kuphela emhlanganweni kungase kuvele ukuthi umsindo okhishwe "omuhle" awukude nezwi likaLucho osekupheleni kwesikhathi.
Esikhathini solimi lwesiNgisi. Ngaphezu kwezingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zamakhanda ezinkampani zaseBrithani zibhaliswe.
Ngisho nangemva kokuthola zonke izinhlangothi "ezingenasisekelo" zemali, ngeke ukwazi ukubona "umuntu" njengoba uzobe eqinisweni. Kodwa-ke, akekho ocabanga ngalokhu ngesizathu esithile, eqiniseka ngobuqotho ukuthi isikhathi sesihlanu (amashumi amabili, nesikhombisa, ...), umfana uzoba yilokho okwenziwe yi-subconscious kuye.
Elinye iphuzu okufanele licatshangelwe uma wenza iphrofayli yentombazane enhle futhi uzama ukuthola ukuthi ilungele emibhalweni yabamele abamele ingxenye ehlukile yobulili. Esigabeni esithi "Inhloso yokuzijwayeza" kuyoba ngcono ukungasho "ubuhlobo obungathí sina" -le nsimu ngeke ibe nalutho, ukuze kungabesabi "abadobi". Ngokufanayo, akudingeki uhlasele kuphela imibuzo, abanikazi "abathembekile futhi abaqotho" baqaphele ukuthi sebekulungele lapha, kwamanye amazwe noma amanethiwekhi ethu omphakathi "ukuba nabantwana" futhi "bashade."
Isango eliya ezweni elihlukile
Ngakwesokudla kwi-intanethi, ubuhlobo obungathí sina buyingqungquthela, izinga lokuthembela okuzokwazi ukuthi iKopperfield ngokwayo izokwazi ukukhanga. Lokhu kuyoba yimpendulo yombuzo wokuthi kaningi kangakanani kwi-inthanethi ongayithola uthando lwakho. Awukwazi ukufeza imizwelo eningi, ngenkathi ungabheka phezulu kusuka ku "intando" yakho oyintandokazi futhi ungabi ukuxhumana ngokuqondile. Kodwa-ke, abantu bakholelwa le nkohliso ngokujulile ngesizathu esithile kunalokho, ngokwesibonelo, ezindleleni zomculi odumile.
Ngemva kokufunda isigaba sangaphambilini, iningi lizokhuluma ngokungaqondile: "I-delirium igcwele. Akekho umuntu ophilile ozokholelwa lokhu. " Ake sinike isibonelo seminyaka emithathu edlule. Elinganiselayo, enempilo enempilo, emi emisebenzini ngokuma okuhle futhi ephethe idumela elihle nomakhelwane bakhe nabajwayele, ohlala eMissouri, uDrew Laurie wahola ngandlela-thile encwadini yemibuzo ye-MySpace.
Kubonakala sengathi konke kulula. Kuphela i-questionnaire "esikhaleni sami" esichaze hhayi umama wentombazane yentsha, kodwa insizwa. Into ewukuthi amasonto ambalwa ngaphambili, indodakazi yakhe iphikisana nomakhelwane wakhe uMegan Meyer nabangane bakhe. "Umama onakekelayo" ngosizo lwemibuzo yempendulo ephindiselelwe ngomusa nangesihluku: ukudlala amasonto ambalwa noMeyer egameni le "online macho", wamlobela ukuthi "kungcono ukuhlukanisa", wanezela igama elithi: "Izwe lizoba ngcono ngaphandle kwakho." Ngemva kokufunda lo mlayezo nokucabanga, intombazane yayizibophezele ekamelweni lakhe. I-"tin" enkulu kunazo zonke yendaba ukuthi iNkantolo Ephakeme yaseLos Angeles ayikwazanga ukuthola indaba lapho uDrew angase afakwe khona. Kwaba "ukukhwabanisa" isikhathi esifushane.
Ngendlela, nje leli cala laliyimbangela yokunganeliseki kwabaseMelika. amanethiwekhi. Phakathi kwabantu abanganelisekanga, hhayi nje abantu abavamile. Ngakho-ke, e-United States sesivele iqalile ukunyakaza "kokuphepha kwe-intanethi." Iphethwe ngu-Marsali Hancock. Ekhuluma ngamanethiwekhi omphakathi, wathi lezi zinsuku zigcwele izingozi eziningi kanti izingane azikwazi ukufinyelela ku-Twitter, Facebook, MySpace nezinsizakalo ezifanayo.