Yiba nobungane kubalingani bakho. Ungakhohlwa ukubingelela ozakwethu, ukumomotheka, ngobuqotho, ngangokunokwenzeka, sisize ozakwabo ngokuzithandela, ungalindeli izicelo zosizo. Hlonipha, funda ukwamukela imibono nemibono yabanye. Abantu abathandi labo abangavumelani nemibono eminingi. Ukwazi ukulalela nokwamukela amaphuzu wokubuka abanye abantu. Zizwe ukhululekile ukubonisa imizwelo yakho, yiba neqiniso ekubonakalweni kwazo. Xoxa ngesimo sakho sengqondo esihle kubalingani bakho, yenza ukuncoma okuqotho okukhulu, khuluma ngendlela olahlekelwe ngayo umuntu owayeseholidini noma ogulayo. Qiniseka ngamazwi akho, ukuziphatha. Abantu bazizwa kahle amanga nokukhohlisa, isimo sengqondo sokukhohlisa ngenxa yenzuzo yabo siqu. Ngalesi simo sengqondo, uzomomotheka ebusweni, kodwa ukuhleka emuva ngemuva kwakho. Kodwa ungawunaki, hlala uqobo, ungakhohlwa ngemigomo yakho nemibono yakho.
Uma ufuna ukunqoba uthando lwabo ozakwabo, ungaxabani njalo. Kuyinto eyodwa ukuveza iphuzu lomuntu ngombango ophikisanayo, kanti enye isifiso sokuba yizo zonke izindleko, futhi ukunqoba impikiswano. Kulesi simo, ulahlekelwa intambo yenkinga ephikisana kakhulu futhi uqhube ngokuncintisana.
Ungakhohlwa ukuhalalisela ozakwabo emaholidini angabalulekile kakhulu, okungenani ngamazwi. Lokhu kuzophakamisa isimo sengqondo kulabo obahalalisayo bese ubangele ukumamatheka. Futhi ngamaholidi abalulekile, ikakhulukazi uma kungumhlangano omusha kuwe, ulethe ikhekhe noma amakhukhi okuzenzela itiye.
Thatha isinyathelo. Vumelanisa ukusiza ozakwabo uma ungahlali matasa ngalesi sikhathi. Bamba iqhaza ekuxoxweni kwezindaba ezivamile zokusebenza, isixazululo sezinkinga ezithile zethimba, zinikeza izinketho zakho zokuxazulula lokhu noma leyo nkinga.
Uma kunokwenzeka, sebenzisa isikhathi samahhala nabalingani, thola izinto zokuzilibazisa ezivamile. Mhlawumbe kuyoba ukunyakaza okuhlangene ku-bowling, noma uhambo lokugcina udoti lokuhamba, noma mhlawumbe ukudla kwasemini ebhasini le-sushi nomthandi waseJapane. Bheka amaphuzu wokuxhumana nabalingani bakho hhayi emsebenzini kuphela, kodwa futhi ekuphumuleni.
Zithathele umthetho ongakaze ube nanoma ubani ongakhulumi, hhayi ukuhlanganyela emicimbini, hhayi ukulala phambi kweziphathimandla, hhayi ukuxoxisana nomuntu ovela osebenza nabo ngemuva kweminyango yabo, hhayi ukuhlekisa futhi angamgxeka. Ngokugwema lokhu, uzozibonakalisa uthembekile futhi unokwethenjelwa. Uma othile ezama ukukutshela ulwazi oluyimfihlo, izimfihlo zomuntu siqu, ke-ke, ngemva kokulalela i-interlocutor, ukhohlwe ngalokho okuzwile futhi ungatsheli osebenza nabo ukuthi yini oyiphathisiwe.
Ukunqoba uthando lwabo osebenza nabo, ungenqabe ukubamba iqhaza kwimicimbi yenkampani namaqembu. Bamba iqhaza empilweni yamasiko yenhlangano yakho.
Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna ukufezekisa impumelelo emsebenzini futhi uphakamise izinga lezemisebenzi, khona-ke udinga ukunqoba uthando lwabo osebenza nabo. Zizwe umoya wokuhlangana, umkhathi wayo futhi ube yingxenye yalokhu okuhlangene. Futhi khumbula ukuhlakanipha kwezwe: yenza kubantu njengoba ufuna ukuthi bakwenze kuwe.