Kwenzeka ukuthi umngane oseduze angatshela izimfihlo eziningi kakhulu kunomfana noma umama. Anganikeza izihluthulelo endlini yakhe, ungacela ukubuka izilwane ezifuywayo, ukubolekisa imali efanele futhi uze ngisho nasemaphethelweni edolobheni ngehora lesithathu ekuseni. Yini ngezinye izikhathi esenza singabaza ukuthi ubungane besifazane bukhona? Indlela yokuqonda ukuthi iziphi izinhloso umngane wakho anakho futhi ubungani bakho buyoletha ubuhlungu nokukhungatheka esikhathini esizayo? Indlela yokubona isitha kumngane wakho?
Into yokuqala okumele ikhunjulwe yukuthi abangane abaziwa nje ukuthi bangena enkingeni, njengoba besho kwelinye izwi elidumile, kodwa futhi ngenjabulo. Uma intombi iseduze kuphela lapho unenkinga, naphezu kokuba iduduza futhi izwelana, icabanga-akukhona yini lokho ayifunayo? Kungenzeka ukuthi intombazane iyajabula uma uhluleka? Uma unesifiso esinamandla sokutshela umngane mayelana nokudumazeka, kodwa wena ezingeni le-intuition unomuzwa wokuthi akufanelekile ukukhuluma ngeveli noma okuthunyelwe okusha, kungenzeka ukuthi intombi yakho iyisimangaliso esinamandla.
"Abangane" abanjalo abathinta kakhulu ukuzethemba kwethu, ngazo zonke izindlela kungenzeka ukuvimbela ukukhula kochwepheshe ("Yebo udinga lesi siNgisi!") Futhi njalo uqiniseke ukuthi ngeke uliphambanise. Umgomo kuphela abawuphishekelayo ukuzibiza ngokwezindleko zakho. Ngakho-ke ungalaleli lokho abantu abakushoyo kuwe.
Okwesibili - bukela ukuthi intombi yakho iziphatha kanjani phambi komuntu, okusho okuningi kuwe. Kungaba ngumkhwenyana ongase abe khona, noma nje umfana wakho. Ukwazi ukuthi luhlobo luni lobuhlobo phakathi kwakho, luzoqala, lungabufihli ngothando futhi lukucasula. Uzovakashela esembathweni esingcolile, futhi ngisho nhlobo, ukuba nithandane nomuntu wakho, ethi lokho kungenjalo nje akwazi ukuziphatha. Uzozama ukwenza lokho ongakwenziyo, isibonelo, ukugqoka ingubo, uma ungazange ususe i-jeans isikhathi eside ukuletha amaphayi endlini, uma ukhohlwa indlela eya esitofu. Uyolalela ngokucophelela umthandi wakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzoziphathisa njengenhlama, nakuba engumnikazikazi oyisibonelo. Ngomngane onjalo, awukwazi ukuphumula, ikakhulu uma umuntu osemusha engaboni ucansi. Ungamshiyi yena kanye nomthande wakho wedwa isikhathi eside futhi ungavumeli ukucasula okuvikela indoda yakho, isibonelo - cela abanye ukuthi basuse izindlu zokwakha emva kokulungiswa, hhayi yena.
Kulesi simo, awuqedi ngokugcina umlayezo. Uma unakekela ukuthi liyeka ukuvela empilweni yakho siqu - ngeke umeme ukuba uvakashele, uyeke ukubiza kuphela uma lo mfana engekho, bese ungasebenzisa lolu hlobo lobuhlobo ekuthuthukiseni kwakho. Futhi eqinisweni - kungani ungaqali kuhhavini noma ushintshe ikhabethe lakho?
Okwesithathu - uma nonke nikhululekile futhi ningathwali ubudlelwane, kodwa ezinkampanini zonke izinkomba zithandwa kakhulu, naphezu kokuba ihlale ifuna ukukubeka ekukhanyeni okubi, ingakuvumeli ukuba uphumule futhi ube yedwa, ungangabazi ukuthi awudingi ubungane. Ngisho noma ulungile ngaphambi kokuhamba ngezinyawo, uzibuza ukuthi usolwa ngani. Ngitshele ukuthi yini ekuthinta ngempela. Uma lesi simo siphindaphinda futhi, yeka noma yikuphi ukuxhumana naye futhi unakekele impilo yakho ngokwakho. Ngomngane onjalo, ngeke uze noma yini. Khokha ngokukhethekile amacala asekudlule. Ngesikhathi umngane wakho engavimbelwe isoka lakho, oziphatha ngendlela eqotho futhi engenamuntu kuwe. Umngani omuhle uyohlale esiza enkingeni, khumbula? Eqinisweni, kwaba mnandi ukuba aphathwe kanje.
Futhi-ke, ungakwazi ukubala intombi engenabuhlobo ngemva kokuxoxa naye okuthile okuthandana naye. Uma, emva kokukhuluma kwakho, ulwazi luyatholakala kumbuthano obanzi womphakathi, ohlanganisa nabangani bakho nabajwayele, ngesikhathi esifanayo waba yisizathu sokuthuka nokuhleba, ngokushesha ukudiliza bonke ubudlelwane obangelwa yi-vassvyazyvayut.
Khumbula - ukuthakazelisa kanye namamodeli kuhle kuphela emakhasini amabhuku, empilweni kungcono ukuthi ungahambisani nawo. Uma intombi yakho ikwazi ukwenza ubuciko futhi yenza iziphukuphuku kubantu, ungacabangi ukuthi ngeke abonise ithalenta layo nawe.