Esikhathini esithandweni sokuthanda "imoto" ekuzihloniphekeni, amadoda, noma kunjalo, nabesifazane, nabo, bazwela kakhulu. Yini okufanele uyenze uma kungekho u-erection, noma ingabe iyanyamalala ngemva kokuqala kocansi? Ingabe kufanelekile ukubeka uphawu olulinganayo phakathi kwamazwi "akukho u-erection", "asikho isifiso", futhi "akukho uthando"?
Kungani indoda ilahlekelwa isifiso?
Abacansi be-sexologists bayaqiniseka ukuthi ezimweni ezingu-99% ukungabi khona kwe-erection akusho ukuthi umlingani ngokomzimba, kanye nomzwelo, akazange abe nomngane wakhe. Isizathu ukuthi isifiso somuntu sengozini kakhulu. Cabanga ngezici ezithile ezijwayelekile ezinciphisa amandla.
Lezi yizifo ze-hormonal; ukutheleleka, izifo ezithintekayo zemvelo ehlukile; izinkinga emndenini (ikakhulukazi ebuhlotsheni nomlingani) noma emsebenzini; ukuthatha imithi ethile, kanye neuroses, ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathala okwenziwe; indlela engafanele yokuphila, izinhlobo eziningi zemikhuba emibi; Ukuphelela ukuphelela kuyisifiso sokwenza konke ngokugcwele emdlalweni wothando nomlingani wakho, okubangela ukuhlukunyezwa okuphakeme komuntu.
Ebudlelwaneni, inselelo yabesifazane kunzima ukunciphisa, ikakhulukazi uma indoda ivela esimweni esiseduze sobunzima. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nobuhle obuziqhenya kakhulu obufanelwe isihloko sezindiza zezocansi bangakwazi ukulahlekelwa kalula ngokuzethemba kwabo, babhekene nenkinga enjalo njengobuthakathaka besilisa obuthakathaka noma abalahlekile. Iphutha eliyinhloko labesifazane abaningi ukuthi ngokushesha uqala ukusola lokhu. Ngokwesibonelo, "Akasafuni mina: ngibheka kabi!". Angamsola lo muntu - "Akasafuni mina: uzitholile enye!". Iyiphi indlela efanele yokuphendula inkinga, ukusiza umngane wakho?
Indlela yokuxazulula kahle lesi simo
Abacansi be-sexologists baqiniseke ukuthi ukungalungi okunamandla kungenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile amadoda aphilile, ngisho nasezintweni ezijabulisayo, eziphephile. Futhi uma ubuhlobo bakho buhlala unyaka noma ngaphezulu, umzimba womuntu wakho unelungelo eligcwele lokuphila ngokomzimba okwesikhashana, futhi kungcono ukuzothatha lezi zihlobo ngokuzithoba.
Uma i-"firefire "ivele kuphela ngezikhathi ezithile, ungesabi futhi ungahlezi amadubhu. Akudingekile ukuthi ubhale umlingani ngesimo se-"fashion" se-sexologist, futhi ngentengo engavunyelwe imizuzu engu-40 yokubonisana, noma uthenge izidakamizwa ezikhethekile ezingavunyelwe ukuthuthukisa amandla omuntu. Ngeke ukwazi ukuthatha lezo zimali ngokungalawuleki, futhi ngisho noma zithengiswa ngaphandle kwemithi kadokotela, kungenjalo kukhona ingozi yokungazi ngcono, kodwa kuyingozi nakakhulu. Uma izinkinga zomuntu zilungiswa njalo, kuyadingeka ukungalibali ukufaka isicelo kumchwepheshe ukuze abone futhi aqede imbangela yalesi sifo. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi kungcono ukuthi ungakhulumi ngempilo esondelene nomlingani wakho nabesifazane abahlangene, noma ngabe udade, umama noma intombi.
Singayiphatha kanjani lesi simo, sisekele indoda ethandekayo, uma isesimweni esinjalo? Esikhathini sokuzivikela kwabesifazane kukhona izimfihlo ezinjalo. Sebenzisa amathiphu alandelayo. Lena ingxoxo ethule, eyimfihlakalo. Qinisekisa indoda yakho ukuthi awuboni inkinga kulokho okwenzekile; ukuqhuba imidlalo yokudlala, i-caresses yomlomo, isifiso esikhuthazayo; uhlelo lwe-spa ekhaya - isibonelo, ukugeza ngamafutha anamakha amabili, noma ukuphumula okuphumuzayo okungahle kube khona.
Lokhu kudla okunempilo okuhlala ekhaya okuqinisa amandla omuntu: ama-walnuts, ama-hazelnuts, uju, inyama enomsoco ophansi, amahhashi, amaqanda, izinhlanzi abilisiwe, imikhiqizo yobisi omuncu, imifino, imifino, izithelo, kanye nesinkwa esinqunyiwe noma sezinkwa kumenyu yomngane wakho wansuku zonke kumele kube yinto edingekayo.
Uma kunokwenzeka, kuhle ukuhlela umsebenzi wokuhlwa kusihlwa, ukuphela kweviki lomlingani ukuze aphumule ngaphezulu, hhayi kuphela phambi kwethelevishini ku-izindonga ezine, kodwa futhi ngenkuthalo, ngokwesibonelo, emvelweni, ekliniki yokuzivocavoca, e-sauna noma e-dacha.
Ukungabikho okwesikhashana kwendoda yokuthandana ngempela abantu, ebuhlotsheni babo kukhona ukuvumelana kwangaphakathi, ukwethemba nokuqonda okufanayo akuyona inkinga. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuyibeka ngokuthula, ukulungisa izigcawu, bese uzama ukusiza indoda yakho ukuyilungisa.