Yiziphi izizathu ezizwakalayo zokwesaba kwethu isizungu nokuthi singayilahla kanjani? Ezimweni eziningi, isizungu sibhekwa njengomuzwa omubi, ngaphezu kwalokho kubhekwe ukuthi uma umuntu enesizungu, akajabuli. Kodwa kungenzeka yini ukuqonda leli zwe ngokukhethekile? Inkinga yobuningi besifazane eRussia manje ibalulekile kakhulu. Sizoyiqonda.
Umbono wakho
Ngakho-ke, yisiphi isizungu kusuka endaweni yokubuka kwengqondo? Isizungu sichazwa ngokuthi isimo somuntu senhlalo nesokwengqondo nesokomzwelo, okuhlobene nokungabi khona kwezihlobo, noma ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa kwabo, noma ukungabi nobuhlobo obuhle obungokomzwelo nabantu ngenxa yokuzihlukanisa kwabantu ngokweqile. Futhi yini elandela kulokhu? Futhi iqiniso lokuthi sakha isizungu sethu akuyona into kodwa isimo sethu sangaphakathi, indlela esiziqonda ngayo thina nabanye. Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa izinhlobo ezimbili zesizungu: ukuhlala okuzimele-nokwehlukanisa umuntu. Enye i-typology ihlukanisa isizungu ibe yinto ecacile necacile. Isibonelo esilula nesibonisa kakhulu isizungu esicacile nguRobinson Crusoe, owachitha iminyaka engu-28 esiqhingini esingahlali khona futhi akazange axhumane nanoma ubani. Kuyadingeka ukuphawula, ngifuna ukuxhumana, kodwa kwakungekho muntu. Ngokuvame kakhulu ezweni lethu langempela, isizungu sisabonakala ngendlela ecacile, lapho umuntu ehlala ehaqwe abantu, ekhuluma nabo, kodwa uzizwa ehlukile. Abantu abakuzungezile, ngokubanzi abamdingi, akazizwa unamathele ngokomzwelo kubo futhi bangaphila ngaphandle kokuxhumana nabo konke ukuphila kwakhe.
Balekela ku-Shadow
Eqinisweni, ukwesaba isizungu kubaluleke kakhulu ukwesaba ukuzibuka. Khumbula ukuthi kaningi kangakanani esimweni esibi ugijima efonini, shayela inombolo yomngani osindisa bese uhamba naye e-cafe ukuze uxoxe, okubaluleke kakhulu - ungahlali wodwa. Ekugcineni, ukuhamba, ukuhlangana, ukukhuluma, kodwa kungabi lula kuwe, uzizwa uhlukanisiwe nomuntu, ingxoxo ayithokozi kuwe, noma ngabe uyayisekela ingxoxo - i-wave of loneliness ihlanganisa ikhanda lakho. Kodwa uyaqhubeka: hamba ngasekupheleni, bese uye emcimbini nabangani, lapho, uziqine amandla, ukhulume, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uzizwa uwedlula ngokwengeziwe. Yisiphi isizathu? Ubalekela wena, uzama ukugcwalisa ukungabi nalutho okungekho kuzo zonke izenzakalo ezithakazelisayo nabantu kuwe, esikhundleni sokubuka ngobuqotho iqiniso emehlweni akho. Yebo, kunjalo, unesizathu esihle, kepha awukwazi ukuphunyuka kuwe. Kuyafana nokugijima kusuka emthunzini wakho. Kodwa isithunzi sizobe sibheke kuwe, njalo njalo ku-ad infinitum. Futhi okwamanje ukuphuma kuyisondelene kakhulu - kudingekile kuphela ukuzola, ukuma ukuphumula kulo mdlalo we-crazy, njengoba isithunzi sihlangana nawe, siyoba yingxenye yakho. Lokhu kuyisisekelo sokwezungu. Ungagijimi kuwe, uhlale phansi okwesibili, ngisho nasendlini engenalutho, uzizwe unesizungu lapha futhi manje, uqonde izimbangela zobuhlungu, zama ngokugcwele - vula lo mzwa, vumela enhliziyweni. Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuzohlangana nawe, bese uyeka ukuletha ubuhlungu futhi upheleke, ukuchitha kwezinye, imizwa ebaluleke kakhulu, izifiso nokuhlangenwe nakho. Ngendlela, umphefumulo wethu awusabi isizungu, ngokungafani nesizathu. Kuye kunzima nakakhulu ukungazizwa imizwa yangempela, hhayi ukwazi ukuthi kungani ehlala kuleli zwe. Lokhu kuyimbangela yazo zonke izintambo, izinkinga nezinye izifo zengqondo, ukungabi khona kwencazelo yokuphila kanye nendlela yayo. Ekuphileni komuntu kufanele kube nebhizinisi ahlala kulo, futhi lingase lihluke: kusukela ekudwebeni imidwebo yamafutha nokuhlobisa isiphambano ekwakheni abakhi bezakhiwo phakathi kwenhloko-dolobha, into eyinhloko ukuthi ikuthinta kakhulu, ibuye ibuye iphinde ikunike amandla okuphila. Futhi-ke uthando, ubungane nempumelelo kuyofika. Kholwa, wazi ukulinda - konke kunesikhathi sakho!
Usayizi wesizungu
"Idolobha elikhulu liyisizungu esikhulu," kusho uVictor Hugo ngesikhathi iParis, i-capital capital of the world, iwugwinya. Waqala ukubheka inkinga emuva kwekhulu lakhe, futhi ngabafundisi besonto lama-20 kuye kwafakazelwa ukuthi emadolobheni amakhulu abantu bazizwa benesizungu kakhulu kunezifundazwe. Futhi izizathu zicacile - lapha abantu ekuphishekeleni imali, injabulo yabo siqu, umsebenzi wabo, impumelelo yabo igcina ukuqaphela umhlaba ozungezile. Abantu bayeka ukuba khona komunye nomunye, baba yizinto ezingasetshenziswa, ubuningi ongaya esiteji esisha senjabulo yakho siqu. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umuntu onjalo kuzodingeka ayeke ukuze aphumule, khona-ke uzothola ukuthi kuye kwakungekho ukungabi nalutho. Emadolobheni amakhulu, abantu baqhubeka bexhumana nabachwepheshe bezengqondo. Uma impilo yakho ishukuthela kulesi siqondiso esibuhlungu - ungesabi, akukaze kube sekwephuzile ukushintsha. Into esemqoka - ukufuna ukushintsha, bese izwe elizungeze, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lizwakala kanjani, lizoshintsha. Futhi akunzima kakhulu ukukwenza. Kanjani? Imithetho ilula.
Imizwa ihlangana
"Hlala ekuseni, ugeze-futhi ngokushesha ubeke umyalo emhlabeni wakho," - ngakho-ke weluleka iNkosana encane ukuba yenze encwadini ka-Exupery, indoda encane engamakhasi angu-104 encwadi ayingakaze ibe yedwa. Kungani? Ngoba isinyathelo sokuqala nesibaluleke kakhulu sokungabi nesizungu akufanele ulahlekelwe yiwe, ukukhumbula izinhlelo zakho nezifiso zakho, ukufeza izenzo zakho, ukuzikhokhela ngamandla amnandi futhi wabelane ngomoya omuhle nabanye. Ngempela, konke okukhona ekuphileni kwethu kuvela ngokweqile, ikakhulukazi imizwa. Uma udangele uthando, ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi luzothululela phezu komphetho, uzobe ukhululekile kakhulu, ukuthi uzofuna ukuwabelana nabanye, futhi yiluphi uhlobo lonesizungu olungaba khona? Imizwa, ngendlela, idluliselwa kalula kusuka komuntu oyedwa kuya komunye, ngakho-ke kwanele kuwe ukumomotheka, futhi umuntu ophikisana nawo uzophinde amomotheka ekuphenduleni. Iqiniso lilula: uma unikeza ngokwengeziwe kuleli zwe, uma ubuyela ngokwengeziwe, isimo kuphela ukukwenza mahhala. Ngikholelwa ukuthi, ukuphila kuyinto ejabulisayo futhi ejabulisayo kangangokuthi isizungu asikho nje isikhathi noma indawo!